
She Comes First
The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
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Ian Kerner
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Ian Kerner
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Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.
Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.
She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."
For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.
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"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)
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- 03-17-17
Don't leave your sex life to chance
Super educational and informative, even for a woman. Can't wait to test this out with my husband...
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- Anonymous User
- 01-30-08
Good stuff
There is little doubt that the author knows what he's talking about, and he is disarming at admitting his own shortcomings until he discovered cunnilingus. His advice is detailed and supported by anatomical descriptions. The book is considerably too long, and repetitive in places; it would have worked better as a long article. But it is the best available. My only reason for downgrading was these style issues; as to content it is excellent. In the second edition he should get a female co-author to supplement his (admittedly) second-hand descriptions of how it all feels to the woman.
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- Joann
- 11-02-07
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pretty much what everyone else is saying its an okay read but the author does sound a bit out of place reading it, still he helps with some toppics....
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- Martin
- 11-22-20
Interesting content, poorly presented.
An author narrating his own book is almost always a bad idea and this book is no exception. This book would have greatly benefited from a professional reader. Additionally, while it contained a fair amount of useful and interesting content, the author’s use of language was stilted and his injection of quirky humor, including chapter headings like “Raindrops keep falling on my head”, seemed inappropriate and made it a less than optimal listening experience.
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- Christopher Pillsbury
- 11-09-21
Eye opening
My friend recommended this book to me several years ago. I finally listened to it. It completely gave me a new outlook on how to please my wife. My wife has told me that the techniques I apply have really elevated here overall sexual experience and bettered her climax.
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-19-19
great and informative
voice was funny but the info was great. even came with some routines to build practice
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- Andres
- 12-12-19
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No me gustaron las metáforas que usa, muchas instrucciones y la voz no es muy agradable.
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- fuller
- 09-25-18
Great Book
This book is great. It help me understand the anatomy of the body. It teaches technique and suggestions. And it helps its readers to understand the woman's perspective.
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- Blacktag
- 01-16-18
Informative even for women
I choose this book mostly because I was curious about what the author was going to say. I was surprised to realize I actually knew very little about my own “parts” or the process of arousal itself.
The narrator’s voice was both the best and the worst thing about listening to this book versus reading it. The tone and inflections he choose ensured it felt much more academic than voyeuristic - but the tone and the inflections...man.
I’d still recommend it. I learned a lot.
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- IrishFan112
- 07-11-18
Great listen. Very educational, descriptive, and entertaining.
I wasn't sure how much an comprehensive an audio book would be on this topic, but Ian is very descriptive in his dictation and the enthusiasm and tone he uses in his instruction definitely reinforced the joy of cunnilingus and left me looking forward to my next tasty meal.
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