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If only we could stay young and beautiful forever

Revisado: 09-05-24

I wish I could unread this book. For one, I work in the sciences as a communications professional and it’s ridiculously technical and hard to read. I had to rewind constantly to get what was trying to be said. Many many missed opportunities to make this more accessible to a mainstream/lay audience. The other thing is that it’s totally reductive: women basically have no value beyond their youth (i.e., fertility) and beauty and men are only worth whatever they can provide. Seriously, if you’re a woman over 35, do not read it. It’s depressing. I kept reading thinking that there would be some nugget of hope or nuance to the basic concept, but nope. Also, while I agree that relationships are to an extent transactional, the book either glosses over or ignores things like socioeconomic status, education, etc. He sorta states that none of this matters to men but thats just not true. His advice to women at the end is not sound: be young, hot, and open to a sexual relationship without commitment. As someone who’s been there, it’s not that simple. I spent most of my 20s with a man in this sort of situationship - and you know what he told me? I wasn’t challenging enough. Men don’t care if they’re just looking for sex, but men value (i.e., respect and commit to) women who are perceived to be their equals or better than them on some level. What kind of message is this sending women?

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Crazy town man hating

Revisado: 05-12-24

Not sure how this ended up on my suggestions but it’s definitely not worth the 7 bucks I spent. The psychology spin had me curious but she’s literally listing murderers, pedos and prisoners in with all other men. I mean I kinda agree that men are more needs driven but to say they aren’t capable of love? I have a son and he’s definitely capable of love. She’s really talking about the worst of the worst men. I have to wonder who she’s been spending her time with and how legit her credentials are.

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Totally basic

Revisado: 07-21-21

Offers absolutely nothing new and definitely not ‘modern.’ I thought it might have better advice for OLD but it’s very surface level and offer the most obvious of advice. Hard to believe it was released in 2021. Same type of material in books from the 2000s. Don’t waste your time.

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Dysfunctional relationship story

Revisado: 11-19-20

This is nothing more than a story about a woman’s dysfunctional on/off relationship with a married man. Perhaps the lesson she needs to learn is self-respect and boundaries.

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Yay for science!

Revisado: 08-17-19

Practical advice for dating with kids, also helps understanding human mating behaviors. Would recommend reading alongside original Love Factually and Evolution of Desire....

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Powerful

Revisado: 12-11-18

Really a timely and appropriate reflection on how to be true to yourself and those you love in the larger landscape of social constructs. I really identified with this...

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Good info/didn’t know it was Christian based

Revisado: 05-11-18

There’s a lot of good info here about how men think but I didn’t see anything that described this book as Christian based before purchasing. I’m not religious so at times that was a bit off putting for me. In certain instances the only advice was to “pray” and that wasn’t especially helpful. And I’m not sure how helpful it is even for religious people. I think maybe focusing on acceptance would be better advice. I also found some of the content in the chapter about men being visual offensive - especially the story about a group of young women being convinced that they were causing young men to be sexually distracted. I understand that men are bombarded with sexual images and wired that way - and I have no problem with that, I am one of the visual women she refers to - but I don’t think it’s fair to place the onus on women or girls and/or to make them feel uncomfortable with their own sexuality. Instead I think we should recognize and accept that we are all sexual beings. I think that bc this is religiously focused it not very practical- it’s more focused on curbing those thoughts/desires instead of looking at How a couple might use it to their advantage in some way, like the idea of “the third” ester perel discusses in her books. It’s just very narrow minded sexually speaking...

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