When the Relationship Becomes the Addiction, readers are provided with a concise yet comprehensive exploration of the intersection between relationship addiction, narcissism, and the abuse cycles of trauma Bonding. The book begins by defining narcissism and illuminating its hallmark traits, including grandiosity, manipulation, and lack of empathy. It then goes on to describe the Empath, or victim of the narcissist. Through clear and accessible language, readers gain insight into the insidious nature of narcissistic abuse and the devastating impact it can have on victims. Unbeknownst to the players, the relationship becomes the addiction as it repeats the cycles of abuse followed by a reconnect.

Central to the narrative is the recognition of the cyclical patterns of abuse perpetuated by narcissists, ranging from idealization and love bombing to devaluation and discard. Readers are guided through the stages of the abuse cycle, learning to recognize the subtle signs of manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation and emotional coercion employed by narcissists to maintain control over their victims.

Moreover, "The Relationship Becomes the Addiction" explores the concept of trauma bonding—a psychological phenomenon in which victims develop a deep and often irrational attachment to their abusers as a result of the abuse they endure. The book empowers readers with practical tools and strategies for recognizing the signs and symptoms of trauma bonding and empowers them with a strategy to break free from trauma bonds. By providing guidance on establishing healthy boundaries, engaging in a 12 step program, practicing self-care, and seeking support from trusted allies and professionals, readers are equipped with the resources they need to reclaim their autonomy and heal from the wounds of narcissistic abuse.