In the 100th episode of The Zero Disturbance Podcast, we explore the viral “We Do Not Care Club” created by Melani Sanders — a humorous and healing movement that’s resonating deeply with women everywhere. Through an EMDR lens, we break down why this message feels so good in the body, especially for women navigating burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and midlife transitions like perimenopause and menopause.

We learn how EMDR therapy helps clients move from negative self-beliefs (“I have to be perfect,” “It’s my fault”) to deep somatic neutrality — the kind of empowered calm that fuels true healing and lasting transformation. We also unpack how society’s expectations, gendered emotional labor, and unspoken pressures on women intersect with hormonal shifts, and why so many women are finally saying: We do not care.

Whether you're deep in midlife or just beginning to question the stories you’ve been told, this episode offers education, validation, and a call to reclaim your own nervous system and voice — one belief at a time.

This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you’re experiencing difficulties, please seek guidance from a licensed mental health provider. All stories, examples, and characters shared are fictionalized or composite representations. Any resemblance to actual persons or situations is purely coincidental and intended solely for educational illustration.

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With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California.