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Reflecting on her time at the ROI Millionaire Summit, Monique shares the profound inspiration she gained from connecting with like-minded individuals dedicated to closing the wealth gap for marginalized communities. As she transitions from the empowering atmosphere of the summit back to the harsh realities of the world, Monique grapples with feelings of guilt and confusion about her role in the larger scheme of things.

Join in as she shares her journey of navigating these conflicting emotions and the grounding moment she had when she observed a trail of ants marching diligently across her driveway. The ants remind her to stay connected, support others, and remain focused on our collective goals.

Join in as she explores these themes and ways to find encouragement in our shared experiences.

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“​I ​think ​that's ​the ​thing ​that's so ​compelling ​to ​me ​about ​ants ​is ​that they ​lead ​these ​lives, each ​one ​of ​them ​has ​a ​role. ​There's ​a ​very ​specific, ​sort ​of ​caste ​system ​within, ​​ant ​colonies ​where ​you ​have ​a ​specific ​role. ​Are ​you ​a soldier, ​protector, scouts, nurse, worker, forager? ​They ​play ​these ​very ​specific ​roles ​and ​it's ​like, ​play ​your ​role. ​It's ​like ​they ​know ​what ​lane ​they're ​in. ​They ​know ​what ​their ​mission ​is. ​They ​know ​what ​their ​purpose ​is. ​Like, ​I ​exist ​to ​do ​this, ​therefore ​I ​do ​it.”

“I ​hope ​that ​that's ​encouragement ​to ​anyone ​else ​who ​is ​feeling ​in ​any ​way ​destabilized ​emotionally, ​or ​otherwise ​by ​what ​is ​going ​on ​around ​us…​to ​remind ​yourself ​in ​those ​moments ​that ​they ​are ​moments, ​they ​are ​fears, ​and ​they ​can ​come, ​they ​can ​pass ​through, but ​that ​doesn't ​mean ​you're ​confused ​about ​who ​you ​are. ​​That ​does ​not ​mean ​you're ​confused ​about ​what ​you're ​here ​​to ​do, ​what ​your ​purpose ​is, ​what ​you ​were ​literally ​built ​for. If ​you ​stop ​playing ​your ​role, ​then ​the ​colony ​fails, ​the ​community ​fails, ​the ​family ​fails.”

“It's ​such ​an ​illusion ​to ​believe ​that ​you ​are ​playing ​every ​role ​that ​you ​play, ​every ​position ​on ​whatever ​field ​you're ​trying ​to ​play, ​as ​we're ​out ​here ​building ​and, ​trying ​to ​advance ​ourselves ​in ​our ​communities, ​that ​you're ​ever ​supposed ​to ​do ​it ​alone ​and ​that ​you ​ever ​have ​it ​all ​covered. ​You ​don't, ​you ​don't. And ​that's ​a ​reason ​why ​​our ​bodies ​start ​to ​suffer, ​our ​psyches ​start ​to ​suffer, ​because ​you ​were ​never ​meant ​to ​be ​everything, ​every ​person, ​​playing ​every ​role ​for ​everyone. ​We ​were ​not ​actually ​built ​to ​do ​this.”

“I ​find ​so ​much ​peace ​and ​encouragement ​by ​observing nature ​​when ​I ​feel ​lost ​in ​human ​nonsense…By observing ​these ​creatures, ​these ​animals ​who ​are ​still ​doing ​​the ​same ​behavior, ​still ​exhibiting ​the ​same ​behaviors ​and ​instincts ​that ​their ​ancient ​ancestors ​were, because ​they're ​just ​being ​what ​they're ​supposed ​to ​be. ​​And ​that ​helps ​me ​to ​be ​guided ​by ​an ​inner ​wiring, in ​a ​collective ​rhythm.”

“All ​this ​surrounds ​identity ​and ​who ​it ​is ​that ​every ​day ​we ​have ​to ​examine ​and ​decide ​who ​we are? ​Who ​are ​we ​being in every ​conversation ​and ​every ​time ​we ​show ​up ​and ​knowing ​that ​we're ​never ​going ​to ​get ​it “right”. ​We're ​never ​going ​to ​get ​it ​perfectly, ​but ​to ​stay ​in ​it. ​To ​stay ​in ​the examination ​of ​it. ​To ​stay ​in ​the ​curiosity around ​it ​and ​to ​do ​our ​damn ​best, ​y' ​all.”

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Tune in as Dené Logan joins Monique to explore the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy and how they impact our relationships and personal growth. They explore how these dynamics shape our identities, relationships, and ambitions in a world that often demands we suppress our true selves.

As high-achieving women, we often find ourselves caught between the demands of our professional lives and the yearning for personal fulfillment. Monique and Dené tackle the realities of motherhood, the pressure to conform to societal expectations, and the challenges of maintaining intimacy in relationships. They discuss the significance of vulnerability and the power of asking for help, emphasizing that true strength lies in embracing our feminine essence.

Don’t miss out on this enlightening conversation that encourages us all to reclaim our joy, creativity, and connection to one another.

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Dené Logan Marriage and Family Therapist, a group facilitator, and an author of Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within | Website | Instagram

GEMS DROPPED

“All ​the ​things ​like ​wounded, ​masculine ​energetic ​quality, ​afraid ​of ​fear…all ​of ​those ​are ​human ​qualities. ​They're ​not ​necessarily ​bad, but ​when ​they ​become ​the ​paradigm from where ​we ​are ​operating ​from ​as ​a ​baseline, ​which ​I ​would ​say ​our ​culture ​really ​does ​value ​things ​that ​are ​sort ​of ​wounded ​masculine ​qualities ​or ​ways ​of ​being,​ ​then ​they ​become ​distortions. ​They ​really ​are ​us ​operating ​with ​our ​wounds ​​versus ​in ​that ​conscious ​space ​of ​’how ​do ​I ​want ​to ​respond ​based ​on what ​is ​coming ​up ​for ​me’ ​and ​’what ​is ​the ​truth ​of ​how ​I ​want ​to ​show ​up ​in ​this ​moment?’ ” - Dené Logan

“As ​grateful ​as ​we ​all ​are ​for ​the ​modern ​feminist ​movement, ​I ​think ​there's ​a ​way ​that ​what ​we ​were ​really ​taught ​to ​embrace ​​was ​a ​lot ​of ​wounded ​masculine ​energy. That, ​we ​can ​do ​everything ​that ​men ​can ​do. ​We ​can ​show ​up ​and ​work ​like ​men ​and ​make ​ourselves ​sick. ​Productivity ​at ​all ​costs. ​All ​these ​things ​that ​if ​we ​really ​think ​about ​them ​aren't ​necessarily ​healthy ​qualities ​for ​anyone. ​​But ​in ​order ​for ​us ​to ​sort ​of ​be ​competitive ​in ​the ​workplace ​and ​feel ​like ​we ​have ​a ​seat ​at ​the ​table, ​​so ​many ​of ​us ​were ​conditioned ​to ​reject ​what ​would ​be ​​some ​of ​our ​healthy ​feminine ​characteristics ​like ​trust ​in ​life,​ and ​receptivity , ​and ​our ​willingness ​to ​be ​vulnerable. ​So for ​a ​lot ​of ​us, ​those ​things ​can ​be ​really ​hard ​for ​us ​to ​recalibrate ​into ​stepping ​into ​or ​accepting ​within ​ourselves.” - Dené Logan

“So ​many ​things ​in ​our ​society ​are ​just a ​reaction to ​​this ​fear ​of ​the ​feminine ​essence. The ​feminine ​spirit and ​so much ​of ​what ​we're ​experiencing ​day ​to ​day ​is ​rooted ​in ​that ​fear.​ We're ​just ​so ​terrified ​of it.” - Monique R. Shields

“Wounded ​masculinity ​is basically ​a ​kind ​of ​a ​fear ​based ​state, it ​cuts ​you ​off ​from ​creativity ​and ​that's what ​the ​healthy ​feminine ​is ​all ​about- ​creativity ​and ​being ​in ​your ​creative ​mode.” - Monique R. Shields

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What if the key to unlocking your future self lies in how you treat her today?

In this inspiring episode, Monique introduces the transformative concept of embodying your future self right now. Drawing from a powerful talk by Hal Hirschfeld, she explores the importance of developing a relationship with your future self and how this connection can guide your actions today. Monique challenges the common notion of 'winning tomorrow tonight' and instead encourages you to cultivate a mindset that prioritizes being held, healthy, and whole.

Join Monique on this journey and learn how to make choices today that honor the vibrant, successful version of yourself you aspire to be. Tune in now!

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55 | When You Do The Most But Expect The Least: Letting Go Of Shrinking Yourself

GEMS DROPPED

“Making ​​tomorrow ​better ​today ​requires ​a ​commitment ​to ​certain ​rituals, ​certain ​behaviors ​​and ​it's ​in ​service of an ​investment ​in ​the ​version ​of ​you ​that ​will ​exist ​tomorrow ​because ​you've ​set ​her up ​for ​success. ​And ​those ​things ​are ​important.”

“We ​are ​struggling ​to ​occupy ​our ​future ​state ​of ​ourselves because ​we ​have ​no ​relationship ​with ​her. It’s like ​why ​would ​I ​sacrifice ​for ​you? ​I ​don't ​know ​you, ​girl. ​I ​don't ​know ​you.”

“There's ​different ​levels ​to ​when ​we ​talk ​about ​feeling ​embodied. ​I ​think ​it's ​like ​past, ​present ​and ​future ​self ​embodiment. ​There's ​something ​here ​that ​is ​moving ​across ​the ​dimensions ​of ​our ​life, ​not ​just ​today, ​that's ​really ​important.”

“Sacrifices ​are ​the ​hard-charging ​things ​that ​we ​do–the ​ways ​that ​we ​push ​ourselves ​harder ​to ​create ​a ​better ​future ​tomorrow. ​Sometimes ​the ​push, ​the ​really ​hard ​push ​is ​actually ​a ​deep ​​releasing ​of ​an ​attachment ​that ​we ​have ​today, ​or ​a ​belief ​that ​is ​actually ​holding ​our ​future ​self ​back. ​Sometimes ​the ​sacrifice ​is ​a ​gift.”

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