In this powerful episode of Ask the Unfaithful, we unpack one of the most misunderstood emotional experiences in the aftermath of infidelity: limerence. Often confused with love, limerence is an obsessive, fantasy-fueled state that can hijack recovery and prolong betrayal. If you’ve ever felt “addicted” to your affair partner or struggled to break free—even when you know the relationship is destructive—this episode is for you.

Join Sam and James as they explore:

• What limerence really is (and what it’s not)

• How emotional and sexual affairs can become neurologically addictive

• The difference between a soulmate and a "woundmate"

• The role of fantasy, childhood wounds, and emotional neglect

• Early warning signs that you’re in a "Limerent Spiral"

• Proven steps to break free and come back to reality

• How to recognize limerence if you are in it - or if you're a betrayed observing it

• How unfaithful partners can recognize, and heal from, the damage of limerence

• This episode is a must-listen for couples trying to rebuild after infidelity, therapists supporting betrayal recovery, and anyone caught in the grip of obsession disguised as connection.

📺 For more helpful content, we invite you to explore our companion show: Ask The Betrayed (@AskTheBetrayed on YouTube)

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In this powerful episode of Ask The Unfaithful, we unpack five critical signs that the unfaithful partner has not yet reached authentic, pro-active remorse. Whether you’re the one who broke trust and are unsure how to go about truly changing, or you’ve been betrayed and are searching for clarity, this episode is is packed with insight, compassion, and clear markers of where real healing begins.

Together, we’ll explore what correctable issues point to a need for the unfaithful to reach a true desire to change and genuine remorse. Most importantly, you will discover what true sorrow and living amends really look like in relational recovery.

This episode isn’t just about calling out harmful behaviors—it’s about offering a roadmap for those ready to change.

If you’re in the thick of relational recovery and wondering what’s real and what’s just lip service, don’t miss this one!

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In Episode 47 of Ask the Unfaithful, we continue the conversation from last week’s powerful session on judgment—but this time, we’re unpacking a major roadblock to healing after infidelity: criticism.

Whether it’s self-criticism, perceived criticism from your partner, or full-blown judgment, this cycle quietly poisons recovery. And unless you know how to name it, reality-check it, and interrupt it, you’ll keep getting stuck in the same emotional loop—withdrawal, pursuit, shutdown, repeat.
This episode is raw, practical, and packed with actual scripts and mindset shifts for unfaithful partners and couples who want to move from shame and defense to empathy and reconnection.

💥 In This Episode:
• How criticism and self-condemnation sabotage connection
• What the judgment loop sounds like in everyday conversations
• How to shift from criticism to curiosity, compassionate accountability, and emotional humility
• When to dismantle the loop solo—and when you can do it together
• Real-life scripts to foster emotional safety, mutual repair, and trust

🧠 Key Concepts:
• “Criticism isn’t connection. It’s resistance.”
• “You don’t need to be perfect—but you do need to be present.”
• “Compassionate accountability = responsibility without collapse, empathy without shame.”

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