Episode Overview:

Betrayal is one of those words that immediately stirs something in us. In this episode, Julie and Aileen unpack the many forms betrayal can take — not just romantic, but the kind that happens quietly in families, friendships, and formative moments. From overheard conversations to cruel friendship dynamics, they reflect on how early betrayals shaped their sense of self-worth and trust in others. They also respond to a heartfelt listener letter that touches on public ridicule from family — a pain that runs deep and lingers for years.

This is a conversation for anyone who’s ever felt blindsided by someone they trusted, and anyone trying to find their way back to themselves after the damage has been done.

Key Discussion Points:

• The betrayal that isn’t loud — but lingers the longest
• Aileen’s childhood story of overhearing her mum betray her trust
• How betrayal shapes our sense of safety, trust, and identity
• Julie’s experience of friendship betrayals and becoming guarded
• The listener story that sparked this episode — being ridiculed by family in public
• The long-term impact of betrayal on self-worth and vulnerability
• Coping mechanisms: from hyper-independence to isolation
• Practical tips for healing: boundaries, processing pain, forgiveness, and self-trust

Listener Takeaways:

• Betrayal doesn’t have to be dramatic to be devastating
• It often starts young — and shapes how we see ourselves and the world
• Healing begins when we name the hurt, separate it from our identity, and reclaim our self-worth
• You can forgive without forgetting — and without allowing repeat access
• You are not alone in this — and it wasn’t your fault

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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Disclaimer:

Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.