In this raw and honest episode of Better MENtal Health, we open up about the insecurities we've carried, from being a late bloomer and feeling small, to hair loss, social anxiety, public speaking fears, impostor syndrome, and everything in between.

We dive into:

• How comments from others (even years ago) still shape our self-image
• Why some insecurities live in silence for too long
• How opening up can rewire shame
• And what we’re learning in therapy and life about reclaiming self-worth

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Timestamps:

0:00 – Intro: Why We’re Talking About Insecurities

1:06 – Blake: “I was always the small one”

4:30 – Jamie: Middle school, puberty, and height anxiety

7:55 – Blair: No body hair, skinny arms, and internalizing comments

10:48 – Humor as a shield & deflecting with jokes

12:12 – When external comments land as deep shame

14:30 – Blair: Being a “late bloomer” emotionally and physically

16:00 – Jamie: Balding, over-fixating, and identity shifts

19:20 – Blake: The shame of public speaking and insecurity in group settings

22:05 – Blair: "Am I smart enough?" and math anxiety

23:30 – Insecurity in non-monogamy and comparison culture

25:55 – The power of voicing insecurities out loud

27:00 – Letting go of shame and rewriting internal scripts

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In this episode, Blair and Blake (Jamie’s out this week) get personal about their own therapy experiences: the good, the awkward, and the deeply human.

We talk about:

- How hard it can be to find a therapist you actually connect with

- What it’s like to leave a therapist when it’s not working

- Why in-person vs. virtual therapy hits differently

- Our own mental health struggles around things like insecurity, imposter syndrome, and hair loss

- The difference between individual therapy and group therapy

- Why therapy isn't just for "big" trauma — and how "little" traumas affect us too

- What to look for in a therapist (even if you're not totally sure what you need yet)

- And how opening up can feel terrifying — but also completely life-giving

This episode is for the guy who’s thought about therapy but doesn’t know where to start.

🎧 Got a therapy story or question? Drop it in the comments or DM us — we want to hear from you.

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

0:00 – Welcome and Jamie’s absence

0:45 – Why we’re sharing our therapy journeys

1:56 – Finding a therapist through the “No More Mr. Nice Guy” community

3:08 – Individual therapy vs. group therapy experiences

6:34 – Ending a therapy relationship: Blair’s story

10:00 – Do we prefer in-person or virtual therapy?

13:10 – When therapy just isn’t clicking

15:00 – The “dating” analogy of finding a therapist

17:00 – Why opening up feels risky, especially for men

18:45 – Balding, confidence, and internalized shame

22:00 – Ketamine-assisted therapy and future mental health tools

26:00 – Imposter syndrome, self-worth, and men's identity

30:47 – Why we sometimes stay too long with the wrong therapist

34:00 – What a first therapy session actually feels like

36:00 – “Are my problems big enough for therapy?”

38:40 – Big T vs. little t trauma explained

41:00 – Nuance, invalidation, and why most people carry trauma

45:00 – “You’re just paying someone to care about you” myth

47:50 – Why most therapists do genuinely care

50:30 – The emotional toll of suppressing vs. expressing

54:00 – Why therapy takes courage — and why it matters

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In this episode of Better MENtal Health, Blair, Jamie, and Blake dive into one of the most controversial corners of the internet: the manosphere. We explore how red pill rhetoric, alpha male myths, incel forums, and influencer culture have built an entire ecosystem that both addresses and manipulates male emotional pain.

This conversation examines how we ourselves could have been pulled into this world, what makes it appealing, and how we can create healthier spaces for men to be seen, heard, and supported.

00:00 – Intro: What is the Manosphere?
01:30 – Red pill ideology explained
03:10 – Jordan Peterson, fitness influencers & the gateway effect
06:00 – How “science” gets twisted to justify misogyny
08:20 – False sense of community vs true connection
10:00 – Why some men turn anger into ideology
12:00 – The algorithm’s role in radicalization
14:30 – How we almost got pulled into it
17:00 – The teen male experience & sex-driven content
20:30 – High stakes masculinity & social status obsession
22:00 – When manosphere content turns violent
24:00 – Critical thinking, empathy & manipulation
27:00 – “Simp” culture & shame around emotional connection
30:00 – Alpha male myth debunked
32:00 – The Joe Rogan dilemma: curiosity vs controversy
35:00 – Why men need to speak to men
38:00 – Group therapy as antidote to manosphere
40:00 – Rage clicks, influencers, and the business of anger
42:00 – Victimhood, MRA, and backlash to feminism
45:00 – Why patriarchy harms everyone
48:00 – Final thoughts + call to action

Let’s talk: Are you a former manosphere follower? Just learning about it? Curious?

Drop your thoughts in the comments—we welcome every perspective.
Referenced: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BgO25FTwfRI&t=5716s&ab_channel=m%C3%BCnecat

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