This year, I’m heading to World Pride not just to celebrate but to take up space. In this episode, I unpack what Pride really means to me in a world that still wants us quiet, small, and scared. From corporate performativity to the weight of shame we’re still unlearning, I’m talking about the power of showing up, being seen, and choosing joy anyway. Pride didn’t start as a party and I’m not treating it like one. Not this year.

What happens when the version of you the world praises… isn't the full story? In this episode, I’m unpacking the lifelong performance so many of us get trapped in, especially if you're Black, queer, and navigating corporate systems, family expectations, social media, and survival. From being a queer athlete in the 90 - early 2000s, to managing in Corporate America as a young Black man without a degree, I reflect on how I learned to edit myself for safety, acceptance, and respect — and how I’m learning to stop.

We talk work trauma, imposter syndrome, image curation, chasing status, and the fear that being silly, soft, or fully you might cost you everything. Spoiler: it doesn’t.

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing something deeply personal and vulnerable. “and celibate + sober” isn’t just a follow-up to last week’s talk on sexual chemistry—it’s an honest look at what happens when you strip away the sex, the alcohol, the validation, and the constant performance. I talk about what led me to take a break from sex for 90 days and alcohol for 30, how hookup culture left me feeling empty, and the moments that made me realize I was being consumed, not truly seen. From being catfished by a fine-ass dude who didn’t even need to lie, to disappearing men who ghosted the minute I wouldn’t send nude pics or give them sex, this episode is about reclaiming my self-worth without external validation. If you’ve ever questioned your worth when sex or validation is off the table, this one’s for you.

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Stephan as we get real about recognizing sexual chemistry, owning our sexual positivity, and learning how to trust our bodies — and our boundaries — at parties and beyond. We share the story of how we met at Folsom Weekend in San Francisco, navigating overstimulation, connection, and how sometimes the universe really does line things up perfectly. We talk about the difference between sexual attraction and emotional connection, learning how to take rejection, and why embracing your self-worth and being honest with yourself changes everything in these environments. Whether you're in the scene, curious, or just love hearing real conversations about sex and self-love, this one's for you.

In this episode I’m telling a story I never thought I’d say out loud. The time in my twenties when I secretly was hooking up with my friends’ boyfriends.

There was no drama. No blowups. No one ever found out. But the real damage? It was what I did to myself.

Fresh out of the military and new to the LGBTQ+ community, I was starving for connection. I confused attention with affection, sex with love, and ended up chasing validation from people who were never really mine. This episode isn’t about glorifying those moments—it’s about owning them. It’s a confession, a reflection, and a cautionary tale about what happens when you don’t yet know your worth.

What if “let’s be friends” isn’t kindness but a coping mechanism?

In this episode, I'm breaking down what it could mean to be offered friendship after rejection and why you don’t have to accept it. From emotional bread crumbing to self-abandonment disguised as "maturity", this episode challenges the myth that staying connected is always the “right” thing to do or an act of being the "bigger person".

Let's explore the difference between being friendly and being friends, the real reason people offer “we can still be friends,” and how we often stay in situationships out of fear, fantasy, or false hope. If you’ve ever felt stuck as someone’s “maybe,” or settled for friendship hoping they’d change their mind, this one is for you.

If this episode hits home, share it with a friend and remember: you get to protect your peace.

In this solo episode, I get real about what it’s like to carry imposter syndrome, burnout, and the weight of always needing to be the “strong one.” From hyper-independence, to chasing success to prove my worth, and how that hustle has left me feeling emotionally numb and disconnected from myself.

This isn’t just about naming what’s broken, it’s about reclaiming what’s possible. I talk about stepping into my soft guy era, choosing environments where I can be my whole self, and redefining strength as vulnerability, rest, and truth.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to be everything for everyone or like your softness made you less than, this one’s for you. Your softness isn’t a weakness. It’s your liberation.

This is a soft, no outline, no script, no talking points, no guest episode, Where i'm being honest about burnout, writer’s block, and the emotional weight of building something real. After 90 days of podcasting consistency, the fatigue is hitting hard. Not just physically, but mentally and spiritually. This episode isn’t a masterclass or a list of tips. It’s a check-in. A reminder that showing up imperfectly is still powerful.

I'll share about the behind-the-scenes emotional labor of making Black. Queer. Unapologetic., the self-imposed pressure to deliver, and what it means to keep creating through exhaustion without abandoning yourself. If you’ve ever felt like your passion was starting to drain you, or like you needed permission to slow down, this one is for you.

Because being tired doesn’t mean you’re failing — sometimes, it means you’re growing