A lot of men can’t stay still in a relationship, I am one of them. Today, I share my inner dialogue around my recent separation. I discuss the struggle of having high standards versus navigating avoidant attachment. I also unpack some tricky dating scenarios on whether or not to take that extra next date (if you aren’t feeling that initial spark), or what to do when the person you loved ran away and now wants another chance (but you already met their replacement).

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Chapters

00:00 Intro: I Ran Away (Again)

21:13 Should You Keep Dating Without Immediate Attraction

36:05 What to Do if They Come Back and You Already Met Someone New

This week I welcome Rieya on the show! Rieya is one of my current clients, and this week she shares her story about how you end up in a relationship where you abandon yourself, ignore the red flags, and chase breadcrumbs. It’s not always obvious while it’s happening. We get into anxious attachment, over-functioning, and why it’s so hard to let go of someone who once treated you well. We also talk about what emotional abandonment really looks like, how to break that people-pleasing pattern, and why your self-worth can tank when you're trying to “fix” someone who won’t even fix themselves.

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Chapters:

00:00 Coachee Spotlight Reiya - Situation Introduction

13:47 Her Biggest Fear Around Love

27:47 Where Her Struggles With Boundaries Came From

35:31 Why You Hold On So Hard

47:10 Men Chasing External Validation

58:02 Sharing a Dog with Your Ex

Ever find yourself stuck ruminating about why a relationship didn't work or obsessing over what could've been done differently? In today's episode, I break down the mindset shifts that helped me finally feel at peace, even amid uncertainty, and why embracing micro-rejections (or abandonment) can be your superpower. Plus, I'll cover the tough questions: When is the right time to break no contact with an ex? How can you tactically and effectively set boundaries early on in dating without causing awkwardness?

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro - Letting Go of Control

16:03 Breaking No Contact with Your Avoidant Ex

40:48 How to Communicate Boundaries Tactically

59:44 How to Ask "What Are We?" Without Asking