We’re not talking about having a better routine or stricter chore charts (though hey, no shame if those help!).

We’re talking about your capacity—your emotional, mental, physical, and energetic ability to keep showing up for your kids… even when the house is wild, everyone’s hot, and the snack requests haven’t stopped since 7:12 AM.

✨ Here’s what we explore in this episode:

• What capacity actually is (and why it's the #1 thing affecting your parenting)
• Why summer drains you faster—and what research says about stress and structure loss
• What happened the summer I lost my mind (Sharpies, goats, pink cowboy boots… you’ll see)
• The truth about yelling (spoiler: it’s not a discipline problem, it’s a capacity problem)
• How your child’s behavior is information, not evidence that you’re failing
• What Alfie Kohn, Dr. Neufeld, and Gabor Maté teach us about connection-based parenting
• Why rewards, punishments, and “perfect summers” backfire
• 5 ways to start building more parenting capacity right now
• How to shift from "survival mode mom" to the parent you actually want to be

We’ll also talk about what it looks like to create your own Summer Parent Identity—the version of you that leads with presence, play, and calm (instead of reactivity and guilt).

☀️ Because summer doesn’t need to be perfect.
It just needs you—regulated, resourced, and rooted in connection.

NO YELL Summer Workshop details --> https://cmp.works/summer

• Create a summer plan that works for YOUR family
• Learn how to respond to meltdowns with connection (not correction)
• Feel confident no matter what

All for just $7, plus you get lifetime access.

Can’t wait to help you make this your calmest, most connected summer yet!

Andee Martineau

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Okay, story time. Day TWO in our brand-new Arizona house. 100+ degree heat outside. Moving boxes EVERYWHERE. And my boys? They decided this was the PERFECT moment for an indoor blanket ride across our hardwood floors.

You know exactly where this is going, right? 🤦‍♀️

One overzealous turn later, and BAM—child-sized HOLE straight through our kitchen wall. Before we'd even figured out the Wi-Fi password, y'all!

And in that split second, I felt all the mom-frustration bubbling up. The "I guess we can't have nice things" thoughts. The exasperation rising. The yell forming in my throat.

But something stopped me (hallafreakingluia!), and THAT moment is exactly what this episode is about.

Because summer is coming, friends. And it's not just financially expensive—it's EMOTIONALLY expensive. The unstructured days. The bickering siblings. The 47 snack emergencies before noon. The "I'm boooooored" symphony.

If you've ever found yourself one broken toy or spilled drink away from losing your ever-loving mind... this episode is your lifeline.

I'm breaking down my complete framework for a No-Yell Summer, including:

• Why understanding your yell triggers changes everything
• The 3 types of summer goals you need (hint: one is just for YOU)
• How to choose your Summer Parent Identity (Joy Ringmaster? Zen Zookeeper? You decide!)
• The 3-prong plan that requires zero extra willpower (because honestly, who has any left?)

I'm also sharing details about my upcoming No Yell Summer Workshop happening May 28th at noon ET. It's just $7, and it includes the live workshop, a replay, and a workbook! (And if you're already in The League, you're automatically in! 🎉)

Bonus alert! Register in the next 48 hours and I'll send you a secret resource I've never shared publicly before—my go-to tool for calming chaos in under 60 seconds.

Listen, I want you to be sad when summer ends—not collapsing with relief that it's finally over! Let's make this a summer your kids remember for all the right reasons.

Want in? Head to cmp.works/summer to save your spot.

And pretty please—if this episode speaks to your parenting soul, share it with a friend! We're all in this parenting chaos together, and sometimes knowing you're not alone is half the battle.

According to the latest science (and my six kids who've tested every parenting theory I've ever had), if you want your kids to WANT to listen to you—correction is out, connection is in.

Can't wait to see you on May 28th!

With all the parenting solidarity, Andee

P.S. DM me on Instagram @connectmethodparenting with your biggest summer parenting challenge—I'll be answering some in a future episode!

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Oh heyyy there, fellow parent-people struggling through the beautiful chaos! In this episode, I spill ALL the tea about how that nasty little voice in your head (you know the one that's all "you're failing at this parenting gig") isn't just making YOU feel like garbage—it's actually rewiring your kid's emotional thermometer too! 🌡️

I share the mortifying moment I heard my own critical voice coming out of my teenager's mouth (talk about a parenting gut-punch!) and dive into the juicy research that proves being your own bestie might be the parenting superpower you never knew you needed.

Plus, I give you a tiny but mighty assignment that could literally change your family's emotional climate. Because science says so! ✨

What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• The moment I realized my 16-year-old drama queen (literally—she was auditioning!) had inherited my inner critic 😱
• Why your brain is basically still watching out for saber-toothed tigers when your kid refuses to wear socks in winter
• The super cool science behind how your self-talk becomes your home's emotional thermostat
• My embarrassing Dr. Pepper binge confession (post-international travel does weird things to a girl, don't judge!)
• The actual research showing self-compassionate parents raise better-regulated kids (it's not just woo-woo, I swear!)
• A stupidly simple but brain-changing "Tiny Assignment" to transform your inner critic into your inner coach

Juicy Quotes From the Episode:

"When you beat yourself up after a hard parenting moment, you're acting as both the disapproving friend AND the discouraged parent. And here's the kicker: your inner voice becomes your child's emotional climate."

"My presence matters more than my performance." (One client's game-changing mantra!)

The Tiny Assignment:

1. Notice your inner critic this week (just observe the little jerk, no arguing yet!)
2. Write down ONE situation where your inner voice turns meaner than a hungry toddler
3. Write the supportive version—what would your BFF say instead?
4. Make it visible: phone lockscreen, bathroom mirror, wherever your eyes land
5. Say it OUT LOUD when you need it (yes, talking to yourself is now officially parenting strategy!)

Research Mentions:

• Baumeister's work on negativity bias (aka why we remember the ONE thing we screwed up instead of the 87 things we nailed)
• Dr. Kristin Neff's research showing self-compassionate parents have lower stress (and who doesn't want THAT?)
• Moreira's 2018 study proving the mind-blowing connection between how we talk to ourselves and how our kids regulate emotions
• Hebb's Law: "Neurons that fire together, wire together" (or, why your brain loves taking the self-criticism highway)

Connect With Me:

Drop a comment about your own inner critic moments! I'm literally sitting in my comfy chair right now, sipping electrolyte water (RIP my Dr. Pepper addiction) and DYING to hear your thoughts. Because we're all just trying not to mess this up together, right? 💕 DM on IG @connectmethodparenting to share your own fav inner critic moment

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