In this powerful episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton explore the quiet, often unnoticed habit of self-betrayal—the moments when we say “yes” to others while saying “no” to ourselves. Whether it's to avoid conflict, gain approval, or protect a fragile connection, self-abandonment can masquerade as kindness while silently eroding trust, peace, and authenticity.

Jason and Lauren unpack the mindsets that often drive this behavior—like the belief that it's selfish to have needs, or that disappointing others is dangerous. With wisdom, compassion, and real-life stories, they offer a roadmap back to honest boundaries, emotional integrity, and deeper connection with both self and others.

In This Episode, They Discuss:

• What self-betrayal looks like in daily life and relationships
  
  
• How people-pleasing and performance mindsets take root
  
  
• The difference between peacekeeping and true peace
  
  
• Core beliefs that lead to self-abandonment (“If I say no, I’ll be rejected”)
  
  
• Why honoring your limits is essential to relational and spiritual health
  
  
• Practical language and tools to say no with clarity and compassion
  
  

Reflection Questions:

• Where in your life have you been betraying your own needs to keep the peace?
  
  
• What fear is hiding underneath your yes?
  
  
• What would it look like to practice honest, courageous boundaries this week?
  
  

Listen in and be reminded: You don’t have to disappear to be loved. Wholeness begins where self-betrayal ends.

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In this honest and heartfelt Q&A episode, Jason and Lauren answer your real relationship questions—from navigating breakups to leading well in marriage. Whether you're dating, newly married, or wrestling with relational roles, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and a few powerful reframes.

🔹 What does it mean for a man to promote his wife?
Jason expands on his view that a man’s role is to provide, protect, and promote—and breaks down what it really means to elevate the people in your care.

🔹 "How do I do a breakup well?"
Lauren and Jason offer practical guidance for ending a relationship with honor, clarity, and emotional health—especially when it’s still painful.

🔹 "Can Lauren talk about being someone’s second wife?"
Lauren opens up about what it’s been like to marry a man with a past and how she’s navigated insecurity, redemption, and sacred second chances.

🔹 "My wife is controlling... how do I lead biblically?"
Jason shares a compassionate but convicting perspective on male leadership, emotional safety, and what women really need from their husbands.

🔹 "We’re on a break… how do I move forward?"
For anyone stuck in the “are we or aren’t we” season, Jason and Lauren speak to love, fear, communication breakdowns, and the difference between working through tension and ignoring red flags.

Related resources to check out:

• Ep. 118 – The Role of a Man & the Rite of Passage Our Sons Are Missing
  
  
• Ep. 114 – What Happens When a Woman is Forced into Fight or Flight Mode
  
  
• Foundations of Masculinity Course – Now available for men ready to lead from strength, tenderness, and truth.

👉 Whether you're dating, married, or leading your family, this episode will help you dig deeper, ask better questions, and grow into the man or woman you’re called to be.

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“Most of the world is built on the invisible labor of mothers.” In this heartfelt episode, Jason and Lauren Vallotton turn their attention to the sacred, unseen work of motherhood. Picking up where their recent Fatherhood episode left off, they dive into the beauty, burden, and spiritual authority of moms—the ones who so often hold the soul of the home together.

This isn’t a conversation about Pinterest lunches or parenting perfection. It’s an honest look at the emotional, mental, and spiritual load that mothers carry, and the divine calling woven into every unnoticed act of love.

In this episode, they explore:

• More Than a Milestone Tracker: Why motherhood is far more than meal plans and playdates—and what Scripture reveals about its true meaning.
  
  
• The Weight No One Sees: From overstimulation to spiritual burden, Lauren shares stories from her journey through blended family life, miscarriage, and motherhood.
  
  
• The Lie of the Perfect Mom: How culture pressures women to be everything—and why presence is more powerful than perfection.
  
  
• The Spiritual Authority of Moms: The quiet ways mothers set the spiritual tone of the home, and how every unseen act counts in the Kingdom.

With raw vulnerability and deep encouragement, Jason and Lauren remind moms everywhere: You’re not just holding it all together. You’re building something eternal.

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