Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 13!

Delving into the often overlooked dimensions of desire, Kayla Moore presents a thought-provoking episode that challenges conventional wisdom about sexual attraction and intimacy. She opens the discussion by inviting listeners to ponder their own desires and what it might mean to pursue them in a way that is authentic and fulfilling. This episode offers a fresh perspective on the interplay between sexual desire and the various aspects of our lives, suggesting that our relationship with our desires can reflect broader themes of self-worth, connection, and personal empowerment.

Throughout the episode, Kayla introduces the concept of responsive desire, a term that reframes how many individuals perceive their sexual appetites. Instead of viewing desire as something that must be spontaneously ignited, she argues for the importance of creating an environment conducive to arousal and connection. By highlighting the need for safety and emotional intimacy, she encourages listeners to reflect on the contexts in which their desires can thrive, thereby normalizing the idea that desire can be responsive rather than purely spontaneous. This nuanced understanding opens up a dialogue about the complexities of human sexuality and the ways in which emotional states can significantly impact our intimate experiences.

In a particularly enchanting segment, Kayla leads a guided visualization, inviting listeners to connect with their body and mind in a tranquil setting. This exercise not only serves as a tool for grounding but also acts as a catalyst for self-discovery, allowing individuals to appreciate the beauty of their desires and recognize their intrinsic value. As the episode concludes, Kayla emphasizes the importance of nurturing intimate relationships and prioritizing self-care, encouraging a proactive approach to understanding and cultivating desire. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that our desires are sacred, and by embracing both our sexual and emotional needs, we can transform our intimate lives into a more satisfying and connected experience.

Takeaways:

• Desire is a sacred aspect of our lives, impacting our sexuality and overall fulfillment.
• Responsive desire requires context and connection, emphasizing the importance of safety and intimacy.
• Recognizing barriers to desire can help us cultivate a deeper connection with our needs.
• The journey toward desire is not about whether we have it, but how we can nurture it.
• Understanding the duality of spontaneous and responsive desire can transform our sexual experiences.
• Grounding ourselves in the present moment allows us to reconnect with our desires and bodies.

Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.

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Resources:

Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 12!

The complexities of consent and personal boundaries take center stage in Kayla Moore's thought-provoking dialogue, where she invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences with saying yes when they truly wish to say no. Through insightful questions and guided reflections, Kayla encourages her audience to examine the relationships in their lives where they struggle to assert their boundaries. This exploration is especially pertinent to women, who often find themselves caught in the societal web of people-pleasing. The episode unfolds as a compassionate journey toward self-awareness, inviting listeners to connect with their bodies and emotions as they navigate these challenging dynamics.

Diving deeper, Kayla sheds light on the consequences of neglecting personal desires, particularly in the context of sexual relationships. She articulates how societal expectations have historically placed the burden of pleasing partners predominantly on women, leading to a pattern where many women feel compelled to say yes, even when it contradicts their personal desires. This habit can create an emotional disconnect and resentment in intimate partnerships, underscoring the importance of recognizing and honoring one's own needs. Kayla emphasizes that understanding and embracing the power to say no is essential for fostering genuine intimacy and satisfaction, both in sexual relationships and across all aspects of life.

As the episode draws to a close, Kayla leaves her listeners with a powerful message of empowerment. She reassures them that learning to assert their boundaries opens the door to authentic yeses in the future, enriching their experiences and relationships. By prioritizing self-care and personal agency, individuals can cultivate deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. This episode is not just a discussion about consent; it is a compelling invitation to reclaim one's power and agency, fostering healthier and more satisfying relationships.

Takeaways:

• Recognizing the difficulty in saying no is crucial for establishing healthy boundaries in relationships.
• Women often feel pressured to please partners, leading to saying yes when they truly want to refuse.
• Understanding your own desires and needs is essential for fostering genuine intimacy and pleasure.
• Saying no when you mean no is a powerful act that reinforces your self-worth.
• Learning to say no can ultimately create more space for enthusiastic yeses in your life.
• Empowering yourself to prioritize your feelings over others can lead to healthier relationships.

Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.

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Resources:

Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy

Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 11! A rich tapestry of emotions, experiences, and insights unfolds as Shauna Stewart shares her remarkable journey in the realm of women's sexuality and pleasure. The episode draws listeners into a deep conversation about the societal constructs that have historically marginalized women's desires, framing sexual pleasure as a domain primarily for men. Shauna’s candid reflections on her own experiences, including a life-altering health crisis, reveal how she found healing through the reclamation of pleasure. This transformative journey led her to establish Linger Boutique, a space designed to empower women to explore their sensuality without shame or objectification.

The dialogue navigates the intricate landscape of women's emotional lives, particularly the feelings of rage and grief that often accompany the journey of rediscovering one's sexual identity. Shauna passionately argues that embracing these feelings is essential for authentic self-exploration and empowerment. She eloquently discusses the importance of creating safe, welcoming spaces for women to access their desires, emphasizing that pleasure is not merely a luxury but a fundamental aspect of well-being. This perspective challenges the pervasive narratives that dictate how women should feel about their bodies and sexuality, encouraging a more holistic and liberated approach to intimacy.

Listeners are introduced to the unique offerings of Linger Boutique, which go beyond traditional retail to foster community and connection among women. From workshops that encourage couples to communicate and experiment together to personalized shopping experiences, the boutique serves as a catalyst for transformation. Shauna’s vision is rooted in the belief that women's pleasure is a birthright, and she invites listeners to join her in redefining what it means to embrace one's sexuality. This episode not only informs but also inspires, leaving an indelible message about the power of pleasure and the importance of prioritizing oneself in the quest for intimacy.

Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.

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Resources:

Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy

Shauna Stewart

Website: https://lingerboutique.com/

Socials: @lingerbtq and @linger.u and @lifeturnedonpodcast

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Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 10! Kayla explores the importance of healing as a collective group instead of solely on your own. Kayla first announces some events in the works. Kayla and her co-worker Hannah Olivia are facilitating a Women's Circle on Nov. 30th. 2024 in Gig Harbor, WA. Stay tuned for more info. Kayla also put out the idea of doing a women's pop up choir locally for women to come to sing together, heal together, and have fun. Please contact Kayla if you are interested in participating or helping making this dream a reality. Kayla then discusses the different types of loneliness and why being in a collective group is so important to our human health. Kayla leans into the power that can be shared when women come together to support each other and heal. Kayla then puts forth that she will be bringing other practitioners and important people in the community on to the podcast in the coming episodes to give listeners a taste of the personally curated village that Kayla wants you to be aware of and seek out in addition to talk therapy for your own healing journey.

Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.

Please leave a Google review for Kayla about the podcast at:

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Resources:

Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy

Hannah Olivia

Website: https://www.naturalglowesthetics.com/

Socials: @hkolivia

Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 9! Kayla explores what trauma is and how it might affect you through different definitions of trauma. Kayla then describes what someone who has sexual trauma may be experiencing when they come to see her for healing. Kayla then takes you through the healing journey, starting out with how you can become safe and aware in your own body and then how to pair that with the sexual experiences you want to have with your partner. Kayla ends with how she would help your partner support you and what the ultimate goals of healing could look like.

Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.

Resources:

Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy

Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 8! Kayla discusses body image and how reclaiming your relationship to your body is paramount to having a deeper relationship to yourself and more ease in your sex and intimacy. Kayla deconstructs how society convinces women that you are not enough in order to sell products and keep us in a state of control. Kayla then offers ways to begin to cultivate a deeper love and reverence for your body. Kayla ends by telling women that you deserve to love yourself fully, including your beautiful and powerful body!

Go To reclaimingstoriestherapy.com to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation with Kayla if you want to dive deeper into these topics for yourself in a therapeutic setting.

Resources:

Podcast Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod and @reclaimingstoriestherapy

Blog:

How You Feel About Your Body Is Keeping You From Pleasurable Sex

Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 7! Kayla tells the sacred feminine story of the Virgin Mary and discusses why our understanding of this story and the word 'virgin' has been so skewed. Kayla poses a different definition of the word 'virgin', meaning a woman unto herself. Kayla asks the question, what would your life be like if you had grown up with this version of the story of Mary and this definition of the word 'virgin'? What would it mean to be a woman unto yourself?

Resources:

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website:

https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com

Sarah Jenks: https://sarahjenks.com/

Welcome to the Her On Top Podcast, Season 2, Episode 6! Kayla discusses the new moon being in the sign of Leo this month and how this lends itself to talking about how women can work on standing in their own spotlight and shedding the things that no longer serve them. Kayla describes the barriers women encounter when they think about whether or not sex is for them and how those keep us in a place of compliance to the patriarchy. Kayla leads a mindfulness meditation around how your body feels when you think of the phrase "sex is for me" and ends with the invitation to answer the question "Do I want sex to be for me?" You decide!

Resources:

Website: her-on-top.captivate.fm

Instagram: @herontoppod

Kayla's Therapy Website:

https://www.reclaimingstoriestherapy.com