Episode Overview:

In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie dive into the power behind Mel Robbins’ now-viral “Let Them Theory.” From navigating tricky relationships to handling judgement and unmet expectations, they explore why this simple mindset shift can be so freeing—and so hard to put into practice.

Drawing on their own stories of burnout, people-pleasing, and family conflict, they unpack how learning to “let them” has helped them reclaim their energy, protect their peace, and stop hustling for approval. It’s not about being passive—it’s about releasing control, embracing authenticity, and choosing yourself.

Key Discussion Points:

• How the Let Them Theory became a tool in their personal growth journeys
• Why detachment from outcomes isn't the same as detachment from love
• The role of control in people-pleasing and over-explaining
• Letting go of the need to be seen a certain way by others
• The difference between surrender and checking out
• Why “let them” doesn’t always apply—especially in parenting
• How fear of rejection or judgement often drives over-efforting
• Choosing yourself: protecting peace, energy, and authenticity
• The difference between trying to keep people close vs. letting them drift
• Using “let them” as a circuit-breaker for anxiety and self-doubt

Listener Takeaways:

• You don’t have to fix or manage everyone’s reaction to you.
• “Let them” is a powerful mindset to reclaim peace and clarity.
• Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re a return to your centre.
• Surrendering control doesn’t mean giving up—it means trusting more.
• You can’t force connection. If it’s real, it doesn’t need chasing.

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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy

Editor: Allia Lenit Galos

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Disclaimer:

Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.