Episodios

  • From Powerless to Powerful: Influencing Change In Your Family
    May 22 2025

    Ever feel like you're stuck in a cycle of powerlessness when it comes to parenting challenging teens? This episode of the "Not By Chance" podcast is your guide to transforming that feeling into a sense of empowerment. Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they explore strategies to help parents become effective leaders in their family dynamics.

    Discover the power of family-based approaches—Dr. Thayne shares insights from a National Institute on Drug Abuse study showing a 30% reduction in relapse rates with these methods. It's all about involving parents, the most invested stakeholders, in the treatment process. The journey begins with a shift in belief: parents must recognize their potential to influence change. Drawing from Dan Pink's concepts of "grit" and "buoyancy," Roxanne emphasizes the need for persistence and resilience.

    Consistency is key. Dr. Thayne discusses the impact of applying true principles, even when it feels unnatural. By breaking old patterns, parents can foster positive outcomes in their interactions with teens. Emotional management is another crucial element—staying calm during conversations can transform the dynamic. Roxanne shares her personal experience of giving up raising her voice, highlighting the benefits of calm communication.

    Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. Dr. Thayne cites research showing that teens who feel trusted by their parents are significantly less likely to engage in risky behaviors. He offers practical advice on building trust through choices and accountability, using real-world examples to illustrate these concepts.

    Join us for an episode filled with actionable insights and inspiring stories. Whether you're navigating the challenges of parenting or seeking to strengthen family bonds, this conversation is your roadmap to creating lasting, positive change. Welcome to a journey of empowerment and transformation with the Thaynes.

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    36 m
  • When Safety Comes First—What Comes Next? How Great Programs Shift from Supervision to Self-Leadership
    May 8 2025

    Ever wondered how wilderness therapy can transform a teen's life? Join Tim Thayne and guest Danny as they explore the intricate balance of safety and growth in teen treatment programs. This episode dives into the heart of wilderness therapy, where safety isn't just a protocol—it's the foundation. Danny shares insights on creating a culture that believes in every teen's potential, emphasizing the power of seeing beyond behaviors to the core needs of each individual.

    Discover the concept of "programmed unavoidable success," a strategy that breaks down challenges into manageable steps, ensuring teens experience success and build confidence. This approach contrasts sharply with the overwhelming situations many families face before treatment.

    Parent engagement emerges as a pivotal factor in treatment success. Danny highlights research underscoring the critical role parents play, offering them a chance to gain new perspectives and skills during their child's treatment journey. As families transition back home, the episode provides guidance on navigating the "testing phase" that often follows the initial honeymoon period, stressing the importance of ongoing support and education.

    With actionable advice and real-world examples, this episode equips parents with tools to foster a growth-oriented family culture. Whether it's understanding underlying needs or preparing for post-treatment challenges, Tim and Danny offer a roadmap for lasting change. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to reshape your approach to parenting and teen treatment.

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    54 m
  • From Long-term to Short-term: One Founders Take on the Future of Adolescent Treatment
    May 1 2025

    Ever wondered how to navigate the maze of adolescent mental health treatment? Join Tim Thayne and Tony Moshier in this enlightening episode of the "Not By Chance" podcast, where they unravel the complexities of residential treatment programs. With Tony's extensive experience as a past president of NATSAP and co-founder of multiple treatment programs, the conversation is rich with insights and practical advice.

    Discover the evolution of aftercare in treatment programs and why it's crucial for long-term success. Tony shares his journey from skepticism to advocacy for short-term residential treatment, highlighting the importance of managing expectations and planning for aftercare from day one. Insurance challenges are also on the table, as Tony discusses the abrupt transitions families face due to insurance denials and the need for contingency plans.

    The heart of the episode lies in the role of parents. Tony emphasizes that the best outcomes occur when parents engage in their own growth alongside their child's treatment. He offers a powerful metaphor: trust is like a plant, growing slowly but easily cut down. Learn how to build trust and create effective home contracts, with tools like the Trustyy app providing structure and clarity.

    This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for parents seeking to support their child's mental health journey. With actionable advice and heartfelt stories, Tim and Tony guide you through the challenges and triumphs of adolescent treatment, leaving you equipped and inspired.

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    44 m
  • Show Up at the Door of Discharge: One Mother’s Experience
    Apr 17 2025

    In this episode of the "Not By Chance" podcast, Dr. Tim Thayne welcomes Kristin Oliver, a mother from Wisconsin, to share her heartfelt journey through her daughter's long-term residential treatment for mental health and behavioral challenges. Kristin opens up about the struggles her daughter faced, including bullying, self-harm, and substance use, which led to the difficult decision to seek residential care. She recounts the transformative experience at Turning Winds in Montana, where the focus on building trust and relationships played a pivotal role in her daughter's recovery.

    The conversation delves into the complexities of transition planning, highlighting the unexpected challenges with insurance coverage and the emotional toll it took. Kristin emphasizes the importance of early planning and having a robust support system for both the child and the parents. As the discussion unfolds, she shares practical strategies for maintaining progress post-treatment, such as using choice-based language and fostering open communication.

    Listeners will gain valuable insights into the power of letting go of control and embracing a supportive family environment. Kristin's story is a testament to resilience and the profound impact of intentional parenting. Join us for an episode filled with empathy, expert advice, and a roadmap for navigating the challenging yet rewarding path of supporting a child through treatment and beyond.

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    37 m
  • Ownership: The Missing Ingredient in Transition Planning
    Apr 10 2025

    Ever feel like traditional transition plans for teens are more of a burden than a benefit? In this episode, Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne introduce a groundbreaking shift in approach that promises to change the game. Imagine a world where teens take the reins of their own transition plans when they come home from treatment, supported by the innovative Trustyy app. This isn't just a tweak—it's a transformation.

    Dr. Thayne shares his excitement about this new method, highlighting the pitfalls of parent-driven plans that often unravel soon after a teen returns home. With Trustyy, teens are empowered to design their own paths, fostering a sense of ownership and responsibility. The app's "My Path" feature guides them through setting goals and tackling obstacles, turning resistance into engagement.

    But what about parents? They transition from plan creators to supportive consultants, offering guidance without overshadowing their teen's autonomy. This episode is packed with real-world examples and actionable advice, ensuring you walk away with a fresh perspective on family dynamics.

    Join us as we explore how this approach can redefine long-term outcomes for families. Whether you're a parent, educator, or just curious, this episode is your invitation to witness a revolution in teen transition planning. Don't miss the chance to be part of this exciting journey—share the podcast and consider joining Trustyy's founding member offer.

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    32 m
  • The Silver Lining of Sending Them To Treatment
    Apr 3 2025

    Ever feel like the transition of bringing your teen home from treatment is a daunting task? In this episode of "Not By Chance," Dr. Tim Thayne and Roxanne Thayne transform this challenge into an opportunity for growth and positive change. They guide you through reframing anxiety as excitement, turning what seems like a tightrope walk into a confident stride.

    Discover the power of finding "silver linings" in life's toughest moments. Roxanne shares insights from her "Dark Days and Silver Linings" journal, helping you uncover lessons hidden within disappointments and obstacles. With narrative therapy, Dr. Tim shows how rewriting your family's story can shift perspectives and foster hope.

    Prepare for your teen's return with practical strategies that emphasize planning and ownership. Celebrate progress authentically, as Roxanne and Tim highlight the transformative impact of embracing growth and acknowledging challenges. Hear the inspiring story of a family celebrating sobriety at an airport, illustrating the power of removing shame and embracing progress.

    Join us for an episode filled with actionable advice and heartfelt stories, equipping you to lead your family through this transition with confidence and optimism. Welcome to a journey of discovery and transformation, where every challenge holds the promise of a brighter future.

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    44 m
  • Season 5 Premiere: Trustyy - The Game-Changer in Adolescent Aftercare
    Mar 27 2025

    Welcome to the fifth season of the "Not By Chance" podcast, where we embark on a journey of innovation and support for families navigating adolescent treatment. Join Dr. Tim Thayne and his wife Roxanne as they unveil Trustyy, a groundbreaking app and service designed to bridge the gap between treatment programs and home life. With decades of experience in adolescent treatment, the Thaynes are on a mission to make their expertise more accessible and affordable.

    In this episode, we explore the evolution of adolescent treatment support, highlighting the challenges of transitioning teens back home. Discover how Trustyy combines technology, curriculum, and coaching to empower families. From daily engagement and AI-assisted scripting to a comprehensive curriculum library, Trustyy offers a wealth of resources. Roxanne shares personal insights on setting clear expectations using the app, while the "My Path" feature provides step-by-step guidance for parents and teens alike.

    As we launch Trustyy on April 15th, seize the opportunity to become a founding member with a 50% discount on any program level. With only 50 slots available, act quickly to secure your spot at trustyy.com. This season, we aim to equip parents with the confidence and tools needed to support their children's transition home. Join us as we interview professionals and parents, sharing best practices to transform your family's journey. Welcome to a season of discovery and empowerment—where trust and innovation lead the way.


    0:00 Intro: New season and innovations in treatment

    5:34 Making treatment innovations accessible to parents

    11:56 The journey to creating Trusty app

    19:08 Technology's role in consistent parenting

    27:03 Powerful curriculum framework for family life

    30:12 Coaching brings human element to treatment

    35:34 Gamified "My Path" for teens and parents

    39:10 Trusty launch details and founding member offer

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    42 m
  • Mastering Negotiation and Intentionality with Gen Z
    Jan 11 2024
    Ever feel like you're walking a tightrope when it comes to parenting teens? Get ready to transform that precarious walk into a confident stride as Dr. Tim Thane and I explore the art of intentional parenting. Discover how to turn your home into a hub of negotiation savvy, where business smarts meet family hearts, providing a solid foundation for both personal growth and career success.

    In a lively discussion with Dr. Thane, we uncover the nuances of co-parenting during the rollercoaster teenage years, offering you a toolkit for setting boundaries that stick. You'll learn how to influence with finesse, fostering a household environment where respect and understanding are the currencies of choice. This episode isn't just about keeping the peace; it's a guide to crafting self-enforcing agreements that honor autonomy and encourage responsibility.

    We wrap up with actionable advice on mastering the delicate dance of giving freedom while asserting limits. You'll walk away with strategies to turn conflicts into collaborations and understand the power of truly listening to your teen. This isn't just an episode; it's an invitation to build unshakable bridges across generational divides, equipping you for a lifetime of meaningful connections—both at the dinner table and in the boardroom. Welcome to the family-savvy revolution, where the lessons of the heart elevate the strategies of the mind.
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    30 m
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