Born overseas into a miliary family, Matt describes living on a miliary base as a "sheltered life." In 6th grade, he experienced the culture shock of living off the base and Matt felt "left behind" when it came time to fitting in with his new peers. As he began to search for where he belonged in this new world, he struggled to find acceptance. Matt recalls the first time he tried methamphetamine was in the school bathroom during 8th grade in middle school. At the age of 15 years old, there is one moment that would change the course of Matt's entire life. The anguish and guilt Matt carried with him following this terrible accident left him searching for a way to escape the nightmares and flashbacks. His addiction spiraled out of control as he entered the juvenile prison as a teenager convicted of vehicular homicide. Always at the forefront of his mind, he was consumed by grief and regret. Matt explains how this mistake that he made went on to impact the rest of his life. A high school education was replaced with a "criminal education" that led into adulthood. Incarceration and addiction became an endless cycle for Matt until he was given an opportunity to complete residential substance use disorder treatment. It has taken Matt more than three decades to find a way to cope, free of substances, and eventually forgive himself. Matt, we wish you the very best in your journey!

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Born in Maryland to a military family, Kelby moved across the country as a child until landing in Kansas at the age of 8 years old. He describes some of the challenges that came with moving around a lot as a child because it was hard to develop ties. The bouncing around from place to place continued for the military family even after settling down in Kansas. Fitting in was a challenge for Kelby growing up, and he quickly learned it was easier to do “over the top” things as a child to earn the attention of his peers. With a father who was frequently absent due to his career, the family operated for long periods of time as a single parent home with a strong reliance on Kelby to help babysit his younger siblings. With aspirations of becoming a rockstar, sports and similar hobbies did not have much appeal to Kelby. Starting in 7th grade, the troublemaking that got the attention of his peers when he was younger started to lead into serious trouble. By the age of 16, Kelby was spending time on weekends partying. The catalyst for his addiction he describes started with receiving opioids after having his wisdom teeth removed. From there, he was buying pills throughout his youth. After getting kicked out of his parent’s house at the age of 18, Kelby was struggling with his mental health, homelessness, and substance use disorder. Life for Kelby was tumultuous, and he was stuck in a vicious cycle of “repeat, repeat, repeat.” Finally, he was able to break free from the cycle and now helps others do the same. Kelby, we are thrilled to have you now as a part of the Mirror family!

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Born in Chicago, Tamicka spent most of her childhood navigating life with an absent parent. She recalls going to court with her mother at just six years old. As her mother’s addiction spiraled, her presence in the home dwindled due to her substance use disorder. Tamicka shares her perspective at each stage of her life being “a little, a middle, and an adult” as a child of an incarcerated parent. Throughout her childhood, there were many heavy feelings that stemmed from her mother’s absence. Shame, self-blame, and confusion were just some of the feelings surrounding her mother’s absence. As a child, she often wondered, “Was there anything I could have done to prevent my mom from leaving?” After spending most of her childhood with her mother incarcerated, her father began a lengthy sentence in prison when Tamicka was a teenager. With her father being who raised her, this was devastating. As an adult, Tamicka quickly learned she had a passion for helping others who are facing adverse circumstances. After obtaining her Master of Science from the University of Kansas in counseling psychology, she also went on to become a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. For the past 15 years, Tamicka has been working with people to “heal, grow, and become the best version of themselves.” Now, Tamicka is a therapist who works closely with parents and children with a family member incarcerated. In 2023, Tamicka published her book, “Where Daddy Lives,” to provide a tool for parents to have conversations with their children to better understand what is happening and feelings they might have. She offers guidance for age-appropriate conversations parents can have with children that evolve over time. For more information or to purchase the book, visit https://www.tamickamonsoncounseling.com/where-daddy-lives. Dedicated to her two younger siblings and all children of incarcerated parents, Tamicka signed her book, “There is hope.” We could not agree more, and it was such an honor to meet you, Tamicka!

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