“If we don’t define roles with love, we inherit them with resentment.”

This episode is a real, unfiltered look into what it means to navigate traditional gender roles in a modern, conscious relationship, especially when both people are doing the work, both want to be held, and neither wants to live in a performance.

From emotional labor to who leads in what moment, we talk about the messy middle, the part no one tells you how to do.

We ask each other the raw questions:
Who holds the structure?
Who holds the emotional tone?
What if we both don’t want to lead?
What if we both do?

We’re not giving you answers, we’re giving you our lived experience. And hopefully, permission to find your own.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• The emotional cost of holding it all (and who usually does)
• Why polarity isn’t a betrayal of feminism, and why we’ve wrestled with both
• The hidden guilt of craving traditional structure
• The provider wound, how it shows up in both of us, in different ways
• Why “fair” doesn’t always mean 50/50
• The difference between conscious roles and inherited roles
• How we’ve made peace with leading, surrendering, switching, and asking

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“Without lineage, a man becomes a wanderer in his own body.”

This one’s a rite of passage in itself.

Jacob sits down with Kale Kaalehaki, cultural revivalist, father, and co-founder of Sacred Souls, to speak on what most modern men are missing, not breathwork, not biohacks, not six-packs… but belonging.

Together, they unpack why grief is the doorway to manhood, how routine without reverence keeps us hollow, and what it truly means to return to land, lineage, and life as sacred.

This one’s for the men who’ve trained, regulated, achieved, and still feel hollow.

This one’s for the ones ready to come back to land, to ritual, to story, to fire.

To what was never supposed to be forgotten.

If you’ve ever felt like your nervous system was regulated but your soul still felt lost, this conversation is the fire you didn’t know you needed.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• Why the “self-made man” is a myth rooted in disconnection
• The spiritual condition of modernity, and why most men are culturally orphaned
• The difference between initiation and rite of passage (and why both matter)
• How routine without ritual leaves men spiritually starving
• Parenting, grief, and the unexpected initiations of fatherhood
• Sacred reciprocity: reclaiming relationship with land, air, and water
• Why nervous system work isn’t enough without soul confrontation
• The return to songs, stories, offerings—and building true belonging

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“When a woman starts performing in her relationship, she stops being seen.”

Every word in this episode is a mirror for the woman who quietly wonders, “Do I still matter?”

Meg & Jacob crack open part two of one of their most tender, triggering, and transformational convos yet what it means for a woman to want to matter, deeply, not just in her business or family but in her relationship.

We’re diving into the difference between being needed vs. being chosen, why female significance is not the same as attention-seeking, and how the fear of being too much makes women shrink their wildest longings.

You’ll hear the real-time reflections from their own partnership, including the raw moment Meg almost gave up, and how they found each other again not in roles, but in real presence.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, under-chosen, or like you have to “earn” your seat in love… this one is going to go straight to your heart.

🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

• The difference between being significant and being useful
• Why female longing is sacred—not dramatic or needy
• The silent heartbreak of becoming "just the mom" in a relationship
• Jacob’s reflection on what most men miss when their woman starts to pull away
• How to feel chosen again without begging for attention
• Why a man’s leadership must include emotional devotion
• What it actually means to see, hold, and re-choose your woman daily

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