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“STI Truth Bombs, Bad Reviews, and What to Wear at Naughty in New Orleans”

If you think you know everything you need to about STI testing… you probably don’t.
And odds are, your doctor doesn’t either.

In this episode of the Shameless Care Podcast, Robert and Anna break down six things most people — and many healthcare providers — still get completely wrong about STIs. From the myth of the “full panel,” to why your clean test might mean nothing without a throat swab, this episode drops truth bombs that could change how you think about sexual health forever.

This isn’t fearmongering. It’s what we wish everyone learned in sex ed — if sex ed were run by funny, cynical adults who’ve seen behind the medical curtain.

We also cover:
•What to wear at Naughty in New Orleans (mesh tank? velvet suit? nothing at all?) and why Robert needs help from the listeners
•Shameless Care’s first negative review ever after three years in business — and why it hit harder than expected
•A genuinely disturbing news story on oral gonorrhea and why it’s being totally ignored in public health recommendations

🧠 The 6 STI Truths You Probably Don’t Know:
1.There’s no such thing as a “full panel.” That “10-panel” is marketing fluff — not medical reality.
2.Timeliness matters, but thoroughness matters more. Testing too soon with the wrong methods is like measuring once and cutting before you even check the tape.
3.Oral sex spreads STIs — and most tests miss it.
4.If you’re not getting oral screenings, you’re not really getting screened.
5.HIV obsession has blinded the public to far more common infections like gonorrhea and chlamydia.
6.Most STIs are asymptomatic. No symptoms doesn’t mean no infection.

These are the kinds of truths we talk about every day at Shameless Care, but most of the world hasn’t heard — or is still pretending not to know. So whether you’re monogamous, poly, vanilla, kinky, or just curious… this episode might be the sexual health wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.

And yes, we’re still making jokes along the way. Because if we’re going to talk about STIs, contact tracing, and awkward swabs — we might as well have fun doing it.

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This week on the Shameless Care Podcast, Robert and Anna are answering the internet’s most chaotic, panicked, and occasionally heartwarming questions about sex, STIs, and non-monogamy—pulled straight from Reddit.

We’re also getting ready for Naughty in New Orleans, the country’s largest lifestyle convention. That means we’re talking about how to stay safe, stay hot, and stay honest in spaces where consent, chemistry, and communication matter more than ever.

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🧠 In this episode:

1. Should you change condoms between partners during an orgy?
Yes. But we explain why, how, and how to not kill the mood while doing it.

2. “I’ve been monogamous for a year and just tested positive for trichomoniasis. Did my partner cheat?”
Maybe. Maybe not. We break down the science, timelines, and how to have that conversation without turning it into a full-blown betrayal spiral.

3. A guy received oral sex from a sex worker, took 12 HIV tests, and is still panicking.
We talk about anxiety vs. risk, what oral sex actually carries in terms of HIV danger (spoiler: very little), and how to stop spiraling when you’ve already tested negative repeatedly.

4. “I just found out I have chlamydia and I’m in a new relationship… but I haven’t been tested in over a year. Could it be from my ex?”
The chlamydia mystery timeline! How long it can hang around (rarely), and what’s actually more likely. Also: why crying over your first STI is totally normal—and what happens next.

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🍍 Plus: Naughty in New Orleans

Heading to Naughty in NOLA? So are we. We talk etiquette, testing strategy, how to avoid “forced friendliness,” and what it’s like to attend the world’s biggest swinger takeover.

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💬 Real Talk

We answer real questions with science, sarcasm, and a deep belief in shame-free healthcare. If you’ve ever Googled something at 2 a.m. and thought, “Is this normal?”—this episode is for you.

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💡 Brought to you by Shameless Care

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🎯 Who this episode is for:
•Anyone who’s had sex… ever
•CNM couples who want to play safe and smart
•People confused by STI testing myths
•Reddit lurkers who never post but read it all
•Anyone attending Naughty in New Orleans
•Sex nerds, healthcare skeptics, and the “curious but cautious” crowd

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•Submit your questions: customerservice@shamelesscare.com

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Let’s set the record straight.
Performance anxiety is real. ED medications do help. And no, you’re not imagining things when your brain screws up a moment your body was otherwise fully on board for.

In this episode of the Shameless Care Podcast, Robert and Anna take you on a deep, science-backed, zero-shame journey through the world of mental erectile dysfunction—the kind caused by nerves, pressure, and overthinking—and show you exactly how and why ED meds are often the best first-line treatment.

This is not “just in your head.” It’s physiology, pharmacology, and psychology all crashing into your sex life—and we’re here to untangle it.

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👎 Why Performance Anxiety Wrecks Erections (Even When You’re Turned On)

You’re hot. You’re into your partner. The moment is right.

So why won’t your penis get the memo?

The answer lies in your nervous system. When your brain senses pressure—fear of failure, past embarrassment, performance pressure, or even just “I hope this goes well”—it activates the sympathetic nervous system. That’s the fight-or-flight zone. Your blood vessels constrict. Smooth muscle tightens. And erections? They require the opposite—relaxation, blood flow, parasympathetic dominance.

We break this all down in plain English, using examples from real people in real situations.

Because if you’ve ever panicked mid-sex and started thinking “oh no, not again”—you’re not alone.

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🔍 Mental ED Is Real—And It Has a Diagnosis Code to Prove It

We’re not exaggerating here. Mental ED isn’t vague or imaginary. The ICD-10 code F52.21 stands for “male erectile disorder of primarily psychological origin.” That’s doctor-speak for performance anxiety ED.

If the medical establishment recognizes it, you should too. This is a health issue. Not a failure of masculinity.

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💊 How ED Meds Like Sildenafil and Tadalafil Help—Even If It’s Mental

Here’s the truth: ED meds don’t care whether your erection problem is caused by clogged arteries or a stressed-out brain.

They work regardless, by increasing blood flow when you’re aroused. That’s it. They don’t force erections. They enhance your natural response—which means they’re incredibly effective when anxiety is the only thing in the way.

So yes, Virginia, ED meds really do help with performance anxiety.

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🧠 The Feedback Loop: Failure Feeds Anxiety Feeds Failure

One bad experience leads to fear of another. That fear hijacks your body. And now you’re in a loop.

ED meds break that loop by giving you a win. A confident encounter. A positive experience to build on.

You’ll hear us break down how the brain’s neurochemical response to sex, success, and safety plays a major role in resetting your confidence.

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💥 Shameless Duo: A Game-Changer for Real-Life Sex

This episode also introduces Shameless Duo—our new sublingual medication combining 81mg sildenafil and 12mg tadalafil.

Why this combo?

Because people don’t have sex in lab conditions. You want:
•A fast onset
•A reliable effect
•Duration that gives you time to relax, not race the clock

Shameless Duo is formulated for lifestyle use. For performance anxiety. For sex that doesn’t run on a schedule. For people who want to be ready—without needing a full-on daily commitment to meds.

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🔬 The Science Behind the Scenes

We go deep on:
•How ED meds affect nitric oxide and smooth muscle relaxation
•Why they don’t work without stimulation (and that’s a good thing)
•The difference between sildenafil and tadalafil in timing, half-life, and dosing
•Why sublingual delivery matters for performance anxiety
•Real-world dosing strategies and t