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Why do we fear failure so much—and how is that fear keeping us stuck?

In this powerful episode of Shifts and Giggles, Rafer shares a heartfelt story about watching his son struggle (and succeed) through the hardest level of a video game—and uses it to unpack why failure isn’t the enemy. In fact, it’s the path.

You’ll learn how to reframe failure from being something final to something formative, how your brain actually grows more from failing than succeeding, and why perfection is a myth that’s holding you back.

Whether you're facing a setback, stuck in fear, or struggling to keep going, this episode will help you see failure as the gift that it truly is.

👉 Ready to stop letting fear win? Tune in and start making your next shift on purpose.

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Shift happens on purpose.

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In this powerful follow-up to last week's emotional intelligence episode, Rafer unpacks how to build emotional intelligence—not just why it's important. Emotional intelligence isn’t a personality trait—it’s a skill. Rafer shares raw and relatable stories, including a vulnerable moment with his son and a hilarious but deep lesson involving a coffee cup. You'll walk away with five practical tools to grow your emotional awareness, manage your reactions, and build healthier relationships. Whether you're a parent, spouse, leader, or just trying to become a better human, this episode gives you the mindset shift you didn’t know you needed.

You’ll learn:

• The key difference between a thought and a feeling
• Why naming your emotions reduces their power
• How to pause and reframe before reacting
• The surprising impact of curiosity and journaling on your inner life

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Shift happens on purpose.

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In this episode of Shifts and Giggles, we’re getting real about emotional intelligence. Rafer shares the moment he realized he was unintentionally gaslighting his wife—and how learning to name his emotions like “dismissed” and “anxious” saved his marriage and shifted his entire life.

Emotional intelligence isn’t soft—it’s survival. If you’ve ever shut down, blamed others, or got defensive without knowing why... this one’s for you.

Next week, we’ll dive into how to build emotional intelligence, but today we’re laying the foundation. You’ll walk away knowing why this skill matters in every relationship, decision, and goal you pursue.

✨ If you're ready to stop being reactive and start being emotionally grounded, listen in.

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Shift happens on purpose.