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Many of us carry pain from our mothers that runs deep. It’s a kind of hurt that isn’t easy to fix with quick answers or easy fixes. Healing from the Black mother wound means facing that pain head-on and learning to care for ourselves in a new way.

It starts with being kind to the little girl inside us who’s been hurt and shamed. Too often, we punish that inner child by talking to ourselves harshly or expecting perfection. But real healing is about letting her know it’s okay to make mistakes and that she’s worthy of care no matter what.

This wound can also show up in how we handle money and relationships. Sometimes, because of how our mothers treated us, we don’t trust ourselves to be in charge. Money feels scary, and trusting others feels risky. But healing means taking back that power and learning to say “no” when something doesn’t feel safe.

At the end of the day, healing this wound is about loving yourself fiercely, setting clear boundaries, and being patient with the process. It’s about freeing yourself from shame and walking boldly into your true self. You deserve that love. You owe that to yourself.

In this episode of the Black Mother Wound podcast, I answer some of the most asked questions from listeners. I share how my relationship with my mother shaped my views on money, identity, and body image. I also talk about setting healthy boundaries and healing from old wounds. Join me for honest, healing conversations about the Black mother wound and finding freedom beyond it.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:15) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast

(00:03:14) Q1: Can non-Black women relate to the Black Mother Wound?

(00:05:13) Q2: How does the Black Mother Wound affect finances? (Book Link: https://amzn.to/4luh3YE)

(00:07:42) Q3: How do we punish our inner little girl?

(00:10:45) Loving her no matter what

(00:11:41) Q4: What does our birth story reveal about the mother wound?

(00:13:02) Q5: Has your mother sabotaged your romantic relationships?

(00:16:13) You can change the access

(00:16:44) Q6: How do you develop your own identity apart from your mother?

(00:21:48) Q7: How has your mother shaped your views on body, sexuality, fertility, and parenting?

(00:24:13) What's wrong with my body?

(00:26:55) Why I feared my mother more than men

Key Takeaways:

"The number one thing you’re going to have to do in developing your own identity is disappoint her."

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Many of us play games with others thinking it helps us keep peace. But those games don’t heal the wounds, especially the deep ones from our mothers. Healing means something real: reclaiming your authority and being loyal to yourself above all else.

It means setting firm boundaries so no one can disrespect you or “play in your face.” Real safety starts inside, where your own care and approval come first. If you don’t protect yourself, no one else will. Loyalty to yourself can’t be only when it’s easy; it has to be unconditional.

Too many let others disrespect them just to avoid conflict, but that peace comes at a cost: your happiness and dignity. Let others be upset if they want. You have to be your own protector.

Healing your mother wound is a lifestyle of self-loyalty. It brings peace, freedom, and joy. So stop letting people play games with you. Stand up, set boundaries, and protect your peace. You deserve that. You owe that to yourself.

In this episode, I want to share with you what healing really looks like when it starts with being loyal to yourself. We’ll talk about setting strong boundaries, recognizing when you’re betraying yourself, and how to stop letting others play in your face. I’ll also share why healing your mother wound is a lifestyle and why loyalty to yourself is the foundation for real peace and ease in your life. If you’ve been playing nice at the expense of your own well-being, this episode will help you reclaim your power, one bold choice at a time.

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:20) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast

(00:01:34) Living with ease is a mindset

(00:04:30) Real ease comes from loyalty to self

(00:06:27) Approval isn’t safety

(00:10:06) Be willing to be alone

(00:11:26) How about YOU showing up for yourself first?

(00:13:13) Where do I betray myself?

(00:15:27) Healing is a lifestyle

(00:16:39) You are a resource

(00:19:04) Stop tolerating relationships that make you unsafe

(00:21:01) Prostitution is a self-betrayal

(00:22:56) Protect yourself without apology.

(00:24:00) Ruffle all the feathers

Key Takeaways:

"Safety really starts with the relationship you have with yourself."

"You will betray and abandon yourself in a heartbeat for someone else, for something else, and that is because you have no sense of loyalty to yourself."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based

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Many of us grew up feeling unwanted, like our very being was too much, like our presence took up space that no one wanted to give. Sometimes, it began at home. Sometimes, it was the way our mother looked at us, spoke to us, or ignored us. And slowly, that feeling settled in. A quiet, heavy shame that followed us everywhere.

But a feeling is not a fact.

Carrying the belief that you're a burden makes life heavier. It pushes you away from connection, even when your heart aches for it. That’s why healing begins with truth. You were never too much. You were never the problem. You were a child in need of care, safety, and love. And that love begins with you.

You are not a burden. You are worthy of love, of rest, of joy, and of being known and welcomed. It is never too late to believe that.

In this episode, we talk about feeling like a burden and how it hurts our self-worth. Healing starts when we comfort the little child inside us who felt alone and unwanted. You’ll learn how to love yourself more and find places where you truly belong. Tune in to discover simple steps to feel safe, grow, and shine as your true self.

"Feeling like a burden is a burden. It is a weight that you carry and it makes it impossible for you to show up as your true self."– Jennifer Arnise

Topics Covered:

(00:00:00) Episode Snippet

(00:00:11) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast

(00:03:06) Acknowledge your lived experience

(00:06:09) The shame of being a burden runs deep

(00:08:00) To my little inner girl: You matter

(00:10:05) Hyper-independence is rooted in fear of not belonging

(00:12:05) How to reset your mindset

(00:14:10) Let yourself be seen, even in small ways

(00:16:23) Nobody can abandon me

(00:18:03) Stop over-performing to earn love

(00:20:33) Your only job is to take care of yourself

(00:22:04) Reparent your inner child

(00:25:17) Not an entitlement, but a healthy self-esteem

(00:26:40) Show up for your inner child consistently

(00:27:07) You deserve all good things

Key Takeaways:

"Your only job is to take care of yourself. It is to go in and lick your wounds and soothe yourself and find the comfort that you deserve."

DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.

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