Get ready! In this trailer, we introduce Healing Narcissism: A Four-Part Series — where we take you deep inside the real, raw, and often surprising process of helping a narcissist heal.

We’ll explore how grandiosity forms, what actually happens when a narcissistic patient begins to soften, and why the delicate process of mourning the false self is essential for authentic change. This series isn’t about surface-level advice — it’s about uncovering the overlooked moments and powerful psychological shifts that make transformation possible.

Subscribe now and join us for an insightful, psychodynamic journey that shows real healing can happen — when we truly understand what it takes!

******* First Episode will be Released This Coming Wednesday! ***********

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

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In this episode, I share a clip from an interview Dr. Nae conducted with me as part of her support group for women recovering from trauma bonds and seeking healing. Together, we delve into the complexities of narcissism, discussing its roots in developmental trauma, the characteristics of malignant narcissism, and the unique challenges of treating individuals with these traits. Our conversation also explores the dynamics of relationships with narcissists, touching on the roles of hope, projection, and implicit relational enactments. Dr. Nae brings thoughtful questions that lead us into a rich discussion about the importance of differentiation in relationships and the potential for change.

Here is a chapter of Dr. Nae's "Run Like Hell" for free. https://heal.drnae.com/podcast-book-giveaway

Contact her directly here: https://drnae.com/

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

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How do you know when someone’s asking for help... versus covertly asking you to feel something for them they can’t bear to feel themselves?

In Part 2 of this discussion, Jim faces the emotional cost of constantly trying to fix his daughter’s problems. But what happens when the helper’s need to fix crosses into emotional collapse? In this segment of my conversation with Jim we dive into his internal struggle, not just with his daughter but with his own compulsion to fix her.

Key Themes from the Conversation:

• Distinguishing genuine requests from covert emotional demands
• Emotional projection as unconscious communication
• The role of internal feelings as a litmus test
• Respect for autonomy as a marker of authenticity
• Unconscious emotional regulation through others
• Recognizing manipulative dynamics without villainizing the other person
• The importance of slowing down and feeling the emotional responses

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder

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What Happens When You Can’t Reach Their Kids?

In this episode, we sit down with Jim, a father whose daughter is struggling with traits that seem to align with vulnerable narcissism. We explore the emotional cost of trying to stay connected when love, guilt, helplessness, and longing collide. Jim’s raw vulnerability opens up a conversation about the psychodynamics at play in family systems, highlighting themes of reenactment, containment vs. collusion, and the helpless-helper dynamic. This personal, unfiltered look dives into the complexities of a parent’s efforts to help a child who seems unreachable, offering a deeper understanding of the emotional toll it takes when trauma, narcissism, and unconscious communication shape the emotional atmosphere.

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder

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In this final clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s Soul Shaking Love podcast, we explore two more essential questions about narcissistic relationships: How can you encourage someone to seek the help they need? And what makes real change so psychologically difficult for those with narcissistic traits?
We unpack the split between the narcissist’s fantasy world and the painful reality they avoid—and why bridging that gap is often the hardest, but most crucial, part of the healing process.

Listen to full episode here:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R3EZ6W5UpDRXnM9QMYO5p?si=tm49CCEzQjqAPs9Eq0aJfw

Apple Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/soul-shaking-love/id1435934531

YouTube Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2C3HT5ponKg5R1rkzgQaCH57qAvjLtiT

Valerie's Website: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/podcast/anthony/

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder

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In this episode, you’ll hear another powerful clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love. We explore two of the most frequently asked questions about narcissistic relationships: Can a narcissist truly change—and how can you tell if it’s even possible? We discuss what real change looks like beyond the surface-level promises and gestures, and why it’s so difficult to know whether to stay or go.
If this conversation speaks to you, stay tuned—I'll be sharing another clip soon.

Listen to full episode here:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R3EZ6W5UpDRXnM9QMYO5p?si=tm49CCEzQjqAPs9Eq0aJfw

Apple Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/soul-shaking-love/id1435934531

YouTube Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2C3HT5ponKg5R1rkzgQaCH57qAvjLtiT

Valerie's Website: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/podcast/anthony/

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder

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In this conversation, Valerie Greene discusses the concept of codependency, contrasting it with interdependence. She explains how codependency is rooted in childhood experiences and emotional neglect, leading individuals to prioritize others' needs over their own. The discussion delves into the impact of these dynamics on relationships and through personal anecdotes Valerie demonstrates the importance of healthy communication and differentiation. She also shares personal insights and strategies for healing codependency, highlighting the need for collaboration and self-awareness in relationships. We examine how healthy boundaries and collaboration enable deeper connections.

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder

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In this episode, I share a clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love, where we explore two of the biggest questions people ask about narcissistic relationships: how to recognize if your partner is on the narcissistic spectrum, and why these relationships are so painfully hard to break free from. We get into the difference between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, the fantasy that keeps people stuck, and the deeper emotional wounds that often drive these dynamics.
Curious for more? I’ll be sharing another clip next week—or you can check out the full interview now via the link below.

To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here

If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information.

For more information about Dr. Mazzella’s psychoanalytic affiliations and membership in The International Psychoanalytic Association (IPA) -which is restricted to psychoanalysts who fulfill the most recognized international standards for psychoanalytic training- please click here

For a deeper dive into narcissism, I now offer courses approved for continuing education credits, available [here]. As a NYS Education Department-approved provider (#SW-0211), licensed social workers in New York can earn credits through these programs. Also, these courses are a wonderful opportunity for those who may simply want to further educate themselves on all issues related to narcissistic and personality disorder dynamics.

You can follow The Narcissism Decoder on:

https://www.instagram.com/thenarcissism.decoder/

https://www.tiktok.com/@thenarcissismdecoder

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