You think your wife doesn’t want you anymore.
She never starts sex.
She’s not like she used to be.

So you feel rejected, confused, and hurt.

But what if there’s nothing wrong with her — or you?
What if she simply experiences desire differently?

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Most men feel desire first. Most women feel desire after connection, safety, or emotional closeness.

You’ll learn:
✅ The two types of sexual desire and how they work
✅ Why your wife may not initiate but still loves you
✅ How to stop making her differences feel personal
✅ What she actually needs to feel close and connected
✅ How to build an emotional space where her desire grows

What we talk about:

Spontaneous vs. responsive desire (what they mean)

Why your wife’s desire changed after marriage

How pressure, guilt, or hinting shuts her down

Why emotional safety matters more than sex for her

What leadership looks like when her desire is slower

This episode is for husbands who:
✔️ Feel unwanted when she doesn’t start sex
✔️ Miss the closeness they once had
✔️ Think she’s broken or lost interest
✔️ Want real connection without begging or pressuring

Here’s the truth:
She’s not broken.
You’re not unwanted.
You just need a new way to lead.

This episode will help you stop reacting from pain and start building a calm, safe space where real connection — and responsive desire — can grow again.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process teaches.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

Have you ever said, “Maybe we should open the marriage,” hoping to make your wife feel guilty?

Or maybe you’ve said, “I guess I’ll just find someone else who wants me.”

If so, this video is for you.

These comments don’t build connection. They break trust.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why these threats always backfire — and what to do instead.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why most men don’t actually want an open marriage
✅ What’s really behind these threats
✅ How to stop leading with guilt or pressure
✅ What your wife hears when you make these comments
✅ How to stay strong without using fear or shame

Here’s what we cover:

Why suggesting an open marriage is not power — it’s pain

How it makes your wife feel unsafe, not closer

What’s going on under your anger, jokes, or passive threats

Why trust falls apart when you try to shock her into change

How to lead with calm truth instead of control

This video is for men who:
✔️ Feel rejected or unwanted in their marriage
✔️ Have said things out of pain they now regret
✔️ Want to rebuild trust and real intimacy
✔️ Are ready to stop reacting and start leading

You don’t need to guilt your wife into wanting you.
You don’t need to bluff about something that would destroy you.

You need strength.
You need truth.
You need to lead without fear.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.

You finally have sex with your wife… but she’s quiet. Still. Emotionally checked out.

You wonder:
“Does she even want me?”
“Is this pity sex?”
“Why does this feel worse than no sex at all?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about what to do in that exact moment — when sex feels disconnected, and your mind starts to spiral.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why this hurts more than you expect
✅ What triggers the shame, anger, or sadness
✅ How to stop letting this moment define your worth
✅ How to stay calm and lead with strength
✅ When and how to talk about it later — the right way

Here’s what we cover:

Why this feels personal even if it’s not

How to notice the emotional spike without reacting

How to meet the younger part of you that feels rejected

What it means to stay present without performing

Why your calm leadership shifts everything — over time

This episode is for men who:
✔️ Feel confused or ashamed after “starfish” sex
✔️ Don’t want to guilt or pressure their wives
✔️ Want to feel strong and clear — even in hard moments
✔️ Are tired of building their worth on her response

You are not broken.
She is not your enemy.
And this moment doesn’t define your future.

You don’t have to collapse.
You can stay calm, grounded, and strong — even when connection feels out of reach.

That’s what The Secure Husband Process is all about.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom #marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth

For informational purposes only. This is not a medical or psychological diagnosis. Consult your physician regarding any necessary mental health diagnosis and treatment options. Always seek professional medical advice before starting any new treatment or therapy. Any and all information by or on this site is provided for promotional or informational purposes only and is not to be relied upon as a professional medical opinion whatsoever. This includes all digital content, including but not exhaustive of, email, blog, podcasts, events, any and all social media (inclusive of: Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Instagram), webinars and other content whether or not they are available for purchase, as resources or education and information only. All content mentioned does not constitute professional legal or medical advice and is not guaranteed to be accurate, complete, reliable, current or error-free. By using this site, you accept and agree that following any information or recommendations provided therein and all digital content channels is at your own risk.