July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. I’m Tina White, and this is Part 3 of our July Spotlight: DARVO in Real Life.

The betrayal happened. The lies spread. The isolation set in. And then... life kept moving.

But how do you rebuild a life—and a business—from the ruins of what someone else tried to destroy?

Today, we talk about the slow, painful, necessary work of starting over."

Lessons learned in the rubble:

• Stop waiting for people to fix what they refuse to admit they broke.
• Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re doors that only open for peace.
• You can rebuild your business stronger after betrayal—but you have to rebuild yourself first.

What I unlearned:

• The need for validation from people who benefited from your silence.
• The...

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. I’m your host, Tina White. This is Part 2 of our July Spotlight: DARVO in Real Life.

Today, we’re talking about the part nobody warns you about: what happens when the lie gets louder than the truth.

When your abuser becomes the victim.

When the public believes them—and you’re left alone with your pain."

PART 1: LIVING IN THE LIE THEY CREATED

“After the assault, after the betrayal, you think the worst part is over. You think it’s behind you. But no—The violence was the opening act.

What followed was a campaign. A smear campaign built on denial, half-truths, and full-blown lies.

My sibling started telling the story before I could even process what happened. They controlled the narrative. They said I was unstable, bitter, exaggerating.

And what happens when a charismatic liar starts talking before the truth can catch up?

People believe them."

PART 2: DARVO EXPLAINED IN REAL LIFE TERMS

"This isn’t just family dysfunction. This is DARVO at work.

Deny: They said it never happened.

Attack: They told others I was crazy, aggressive, and starting drama.

Reverse Victim and Offender: Suddenly, they were crying to others about how I had mistreated them.

And the scariest part?

People love a victim story. Especially when it’s wrapped in charm and tears."

PART 3: THE PRIVATE PAIN OF PUBLIC DISBELIEF

"I was left to sit in silence.

I couldn’t post about it. I couldn’t cry to the people I thought were my support system. Because some of those people had already been recruited by the lie.

You ever been betrayed and then have to watch people comfort the person who hurt you? That’s a special kind of heartbreak.

The isolation was brutal.

The confusion was worse.

I kept asking myself, Am I crazy? Did I make this up? Am I overreacting?

That’s what DARVO does. It doesn’t just attack your story. It attacks your sanity."

PART 4: THE IMPACT ON BUSINESS AND MENTAL HEALTH

"Let’s talk facts—because this isn’t just emotional. It’s financial.

I lost focus. I lost deals. I lost sleep.

Clients could sense my energy shift. Partners could feel my withdrawal.

And then COVID hit—and my already fragile business foundation crumbled even further.

I was in survival mode:

Trying to keep my business alive.

Trying to keep my family safe.

Trying to keep my mind from breaking completely.

But surviving isn’t the same as healing. And working yourself to death doesn’t make the pain go away."

PART 5: NAMING THE TRUTH, EVEN WHEN THEY WON’T

"It took me a long time to say this out loud without choking on the guilt and shame.

But let me say it for somebody listening today:

They may never admit what they did. But that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

You don’t need their confession to validate your survival.

Your peace is not on hold until they tell the truth.

Sometimes, the healing begins when you stop waiting for the apology—and start speaking your truth, whether anyone claps for it or not."

PART 6: UPLIFTING TAKEAWAY – RECLAIMING YOUR VOICE

"If you’re in that place where the lie feels louder than your voice—don’t stop talking.

Even if you have to tell your story alone in your journal at first. Even if nobody believes you yet.

Your truth will outlast their story.

And one day, your healing will be louder than their denial.

Keep building. Keep leading. Keep healing.

Because what they...

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

Overview:

This episode unpacks the shock of being violently betrayed by someone you once trusted—not just personally, but professionally—and the psychological chaos that followed. Tina speaks candidly about how it impacted her ability to function as a leader, a mother, and a businesswoman.

Key Talking Points:

• The moment everything shifted: the assault, the silence, the disbelief.
• Trying to “stay professional” while internally shattered.
• How this betrayal felt like both a personal attack and a business collapse.
• The early signs that were ignored.
• The shame that follows—especially when the person is respected by others.

Quote from Tina:

💔 Betrayal hurts. But when the person who harms you gets to rewrite the story and still gets celebrated—it’s a deeper kind of pain. In Episode 1 of our new series, Tina White unpacks the moment everything changed and the years of silence that followed.

Question for Listeners:

"Have you ever been forced to defend yourself against a lie louder than your truth?"

🎧 Listen now: The Betrayal Nobody Saw Coming

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July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

🎙️ Series Launch Intro: DARVO In Real Life – Mask Off

“Let me tell you how we got here…

A couple weeks ago, I received a text message from my beloved niece.

Someone I love like my own child.

A young girl who, in a different life, would've been sleeping peacefully in the guest room at my house again this summer.

She asked if she could come stay with me.

And my first instinct? Of course, yes.

That’s what love says. That’s what family says.

But here’s the problem...

She’s the daughter of the same sibling who violently assaulted me in February 2020.

The same sibling who pointed a gun at me.

The same sibling who launched a smear campaign against my name when I spoke the truth.

And suddenly, I found myself caught between the person I used to be—the fixer, the protector, the one who put everybody’s needs before her own.

And the woman I’ve fought like hell to become through therapy, boundaries, and healing.

Over two days, I spoke with both her parents.

Even after I told my niece’s mom not to give him my number, my sibling called me anyway.

And I answered. I let him speak. He asked if his daughter could stay with me.

At first, I said yes.

Out of habit. Out of love for that little girl.

But after sleeping on it... consulting with my circle... and sitting in my truth...

I realized:

I can’t go back.

I won’t go back.

So I sent the text that closed the door.

And just like that—the fake politeness, the pretend apology, it all evaporated.

His true colors showed, just like they did that day outside the real estate office.

The same rage. The same manipulation.

And in that moment, I realized something deeper:

This isn’t just family drama.

This is DARVO.

Deny. Attack. Reverse Victim and Offender.

A manipulation tactic where the person who harms you denies it ever happened, attacks your character, and then plays the victim when you protect yourself.

And I almost got caught in it again.

Almost.

But therapy showed me the trap.

Healing showed me the pattern.

And wisdom told me no.

Even when your heart is breaking…

Even when a child you love is caught in the crossfire…

Protecting your peace sometimes means saying no to the innocent because the guilty still refuse to change.

That’s the cost of healing.

And that’s why I’m launching this series.

Over the next four days, I’m going to walk you through how DARVO plays out in real life, far beyond the textbooks and TED Talks:

➡️ Day 1: The Betrayal Nobody Saw Coming – How it all began.

➡️ Day 2: When Silence Becomes Survival – What happens when your truth gets buried beneath their lies.

➡️ Day 3: Rebuilding from the Rubble – Therapy, boundaries, and reclaiming my business and my peace.

➡️ Day 4: The Power of Truth – Why your story matters, even if they never admit what they did.

This is DARVO in Real Life: Mask Off.

No more cover-ups. No more pretending.

Just the truth.

And if this is your story too

I want you to know:

You’re not alone.

🎧 Stream the full series wherever you get your podcasts.

#DARVO, #TriggerAndTheTruth, #ProtectYourPeace, #BetrayalTrauma, #GaslightingAwareness, #FamilyBoundaries, #SurvivorStrength, #HealingJourney, #TruthTeller

Host: Tina White

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Series: July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

In today’s episode of The Trigger and The Truth, we’re pulling back the curtain on a reality many of us get caught in—the carefully curated facade of social media.

We live in a world where success is filtered, happiness is staged, and highlight reels have replaced honesty. But what’s the cost of chasing a life that looks good online but feels empty offline?

I’m breaking down the mental health toll of constantly comparing yourself to someone else’s performance. From anxiety and depression to disconnection and burnout, we’re diving into how this digital pressure impacts entrepreneurs, working moms, and women trying to build their business while holding onto their peace.

Most importantly, we’ll explore how to break free from this social media trap and build a life you don’t have to filter to love.

• The hidden dangers of selective sharing and staged success stories
• Why comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone’s highlight reel destroys your peace
• The emotional and mental health impact of the “social media hustle culture”
• How to set boundaries with social media to protect your emotional mastery
• Practical ways to detox from comparison and focus on what really matters
• How the Pick Up The Pieces: 21 Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business can help you reclaim your peace in the digital age

✔️ Social media is curated content, not complete truth. Stop comparing your real life to someone’s filtered moments.

✔️ Protect your mental health by defining success on your terms, not Instagram’s.

✔️ Emotional mastery means knowing when to unplug and reconnect with your real life.

• Social Media Detox: Take 1 day off this week and reconnect with your real life.
• Reality Check Journal: Reflect when comparison creeps in—what’s real vs. what’s edited?
• Define Your Own Success: Write your personal definition of success and keep it visible.

📓 Pick Up The Pieces: 21 Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business — Available now!

🎧 Listen to more episodes of The Trigger and The Truth on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Audible, and YouTube.

If this message spoke to your soul, share it with a friend who’s tired of performing and ready to start living.

Connect with Tina White:

Instagram: @thetriggerandthetruth

Podcast Hotline: 718-440-5538

Email: thetriggerandthetruth@gmail.com

Host: Tina White

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Series: July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

You’re not in bed all day. You’re not crying in a corner.

You’re working. You’re posting. You’re performing.

But inside? You’re unraveling.

In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White unpacks the silent epidemic of functional burnout—a state where high performance masks emotional depletion. Especially common among Black women in business, functional burnout is often misdiagnosed as ambition when it’s actually survival on autopilot.

Tina gets real about how this type of burnout shows up:

• Smiling while secretly shutting down
• Overproducing out of fear, not alignment
• Feeling like you’re doing everything, yet going nowhere emotionally

You’ll also learn why emotional mastery—not another productivity hack—is the key to breaking free.

What You'll Walk Away With:

✔️ Clarity on how burnout can hide behind “success”

✔️ Tools to pause, regulate, and reset—without guilt

✔️ Why emotional intelligence is your true business strategy

✔️ A mindset shift to reclaim your peace while growing your brand

Resources Mentioned:

📘 Pick Up The Pieces: 21-Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business

🎧 More episodes at: https://the-trigger-and-the.captivate.fm/listen

💬 Connect with Tina on Instagram: @triggerandtruthpod

Call to Action:

If this episode spoke to the storm behind your smile, share it with another woman who’s been grinding through burnout. And don’t forget—you don’t have to fall apart to rest.

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

In this powerful rewind episode, host Tina White takes us back to where it all began—her raw, unfiltered entry into the real estate industry on Wall Street. No safety net. No insider connections. Just grit, motherhood, and a desperate need to start over.

But success didn’t come with ease. It came with emotional sabotage, lessons in silence, and the realization that being emotionally intelligent wasn’t optional—it was the only way to survive.

Tina breaks down what real estate school never taught:

• How to read the room before you pitch the deal
• Why emotional regulation is your greatest asset in cutthroat industries
• And how being a Black woman in a male-dominated space forced her to evolve quickly—or get crushed quietly

This is not just a story of hustle—it’s a blueprint for survival, emotional growth, and the unspoken toll success can take on your mental health.

If you’re a woman in business who’s ever been forced to “figure it out” in silence, this episode will hit home—and give you the language for what you’ve been carrying.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ The emotional cost of early entrepreneurship

✔️ How trauma disguises itself as “professionalism”

✔️ Why mental health is a business strategy—not a side note

✔️ The power of emotional intelligence in high-stakes rooms

✔️ A behind-the-scenes look at Tina’s rise in NYC real estate

Resources Mentioned:

📘 Pick Up The Pieces: 21-Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business

🎧 More episodes at: TheTriggerAndTheTruth.com

📲 Connect with Tina on Instagram:@triggerandtruthpod

Rate, Review & Subscribe:

If this episode hit home, leave a 5-star review and share it with a woman in your circle who needs it. The truth doesn’t just set you free—it sets the tone.

Truth Serum: Harmony Over Hustle: Design the Life You Actually Want (Day 7)

Welcome back — we made it.

This is Day 7 of the Mid-Year Reset, and the last day of June.

Before anything else — if no one told you today, let me be the first to say:

I’m proud of you.

For showing up. For sticking through. For even wanting to do better. That alone is a shift.

Now… let’s land this plane.

Here’s the truth: you are the engine.

The blueprint. The visionary.

And when you’re not okay — none of it runs right.

Not the business, not the brand, not the boundaries, not the balance.

That foundation you're trying to build on? It starts with you.

So today, we’re closing this challenge with four final moves to shift you from grind mode to growth and grounding mode.

These are the systems that don’t just build success — they preserve your sanity.

This is non-negotiable. Whether you’re running a business or rebuilding your life — structure is what protects your energy.

Pick three daily non-negotiables:

• One for your body
• One for your mind
• One for your spirit

Morning walks. Midday boundaries. Evening silence. You choose. But make it yours. Because chaos fills the space where structure is missing.

Let’s be honest: if your client experience is clunky, it’s costing you more than sales — it’s costing you peace.

Ask yourself:

• Is your process smooth?
• Are expectations clear?
• Do you feel respected in the exchange?

✨ Friction equals stress — for both sides.

Clean it up so you can show up without resentment.

Check in:

• What’s emotionally costing you the most?
• Where are you overextending?
• What’s draining joy from your purpose?

It’s time to adjust the delivery, renegotiate the contract, or set new boundaries.

This isn’t about pushing through. It’s about protecting your power.

The rest of 2025 isn’t a race. It’s a rhythm.

Break it into 30-day chunks:

• One goal
• One intention
• One moment to pause and reflect

Because...

Structure regulates your nervous system

Delegation protects emotional energy

Progress tracking builds confidence and self-trust

Boundaries protect both your peace and your profits

📌 Reengage Your Team or Support System

Realign them with clarity. People can’t help you if they don’t know where you’re going.

📌 Reset Your Weekly CEO Flow

Structure = safety. Rebuild your week to hold both strategy and self-care. This is where hustle meets healing.

📌 Update Your Client Journey

Make it seamless, thoughtful, and emotionally intelligent. Every stress point is a chance to reduce overwhelm — for you and them.

📌 Lock In Micro-Milestones

Consistency isn’t about perfection — it’s about pacing. Small wins keep your momentum strong and your burnout low.

Let me say this loud for the ones who still feel behind:

And now,...