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I could not have picked two better people to help me with this conversation—Kim, a mental health professional, and Sammie, a medical professional who walks beside families in their hardest moments.

Kim has a master’s in counseling and a bachelor’s in psychology. She worked in the school system for 10 years, including in the Sandy Hook district, where she developed a deep understanding of PTSD and secondary trauma. She also brings powerful lived experience—spending a year in the hospital with her daughter Quinn, and surviving the loss of both Quinn and her twin sister Amelia due to complications from prematurity and BPD. Now, Kim is a certified life coach for children and adults and has started kindmindscoaching

She says, “I’m a lifelong learner. I love learning about the brain, mental health, coping, resiliency, and emotional intelligence.”

Nurse Sammie is a pediatric ICU nurse who has witnessed trauma daily and is trained in therapeutic crisis intervention (TCI). She shares what it’s like to navigate traumatic events on the job, and how mental health awareness and connection with families is essential to her role.

This episode is about the emotional aftermath of long hospital stays with your child, ICU life, and child loss. When the alarms stop and the chaos fades, many parents are left carrying trauma they weren’t expecting and are unequipped for.

When you’ve spent months watching monitors more than sleeping, your nervous system doesn’t just bounce back. Anxiety, anger, numbness, hypervigilance..it’s more common than people think, and for many of us, it hits after going home, when the world assumes we’re “okay now.”

We talk about the power of real connection. Of being seen. Of tiny moments of validation, and how mental health care needs to rise to meet the weight of what ICU parents carry.

We also explore the frustration of not being listened to as a parent—and how impossible it feels when someone asks, “What do you need?” and you honestly don’t know. We talk about what trauma looks like after survival and what healing can look like, too.

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This week, Kami shares her journey as a medical mom to her son Landry, a 28-week micropreemie born after a pregnancy complicated by preeclampsia. Landry has severe BPD and is trach, vent, and G-tube dependent. But none of that defines who he is—he’s been a fighter since day one, and his mom and dad have been right beside him every step of the way.

Kami opens up about the chaos of those early NICU days, including transferring hospitals when Landry was just 3 days old, the devastation of reintubation, and sitting through palliative care discussions. She also shares about the moment she decided to move forward with tough medical decisions:

“It was devastating to have to reintubate him. I saw a part of my kid I’d never seen before with the CPAP mask. I got to hold him and love on him. So when his doctor asked if I had ever thought about him getting a trach, I said, ‘Let’s do it. I’m ready to hold him.’”

Her love for Landry shines through in every part of this conversation. She reminds me so much of so many of our past co-hosts—all of us parents with one shared goal: getting our kids better.

We talk about what it was like to move her son from Florida to Ohio to receive specialized care, and the stress of advocating for your child when everything feels urgent and you’re desperate for answers. We also reflect on the beauty of holding our preemies for the first time, the emotions that come with making high-stakes medical decisions, and how difficult it can be to advocate for your child when they need you the most.

Kami is an honest, tough, and loving mom. And she’s a reminder of how resilient medical moms are—and how far we’ll go to give our kids a fighting chance.

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This episode is all about bronchopulmonary dysplasia (BPD) — not from a medical textbook, but from two moms who’ve been living it for over two years. Tori and I share how we’ve come to understand our sons’ diagnoses of severe BPD: what it is, how it shows up, what treatments our kids have needed, and what we’ve learned from being in the trenches of the ICU for almost 2 years.

We explain things in the way they were explained to us, in layman’s terms. From symptoms and types of mechanical ventilation, to why we both hate blood gases and what we’d advocate for or against, this episode is for parents trying to wrap their heads around this complex diagnosis.

Just because your child receives a BPD diagnosis doesn’t mean they’ll end up trached and vented — there is a wide range of severity, and every child’s path looks different. What we do want to share is hope: our boys both had severe BPD, and we’re so grateful they’ve made it through hospitalization. The good news? These kids can grow out of this disease with time, lung development, and the right support.

We also talk about the importance of individualized care, how to advocate for your child, when to consider transferring hospitals for higher-level care, and what we learned from being at a specialized BPD unit. This isn’t the medical deep-dive — we hope to bring you that in the future — but it is a real and practical conversation from two moms who’ve walked this path.