THE WORK
Follow the Path to an EMPOWERED.Life

UnFollow the path to Martyrdom Mountain and head back
down to an island I like to call an EMPOWERED.Life.

• A Mum And... means: who are you when you are not
  being a Mum. Who are you?
• What decision have you made, knowing accolades
  will come from others?
• How do you define success?
• On a scale of 1-10 how happy are you?
• What is one thing you could do that would grade you
  higher on the happy scale?
• List all the challenging things that have happened to
  you in your ONE.Life and how they are keeping you
  on up on Martyrdom Mountain.
• Pick one thing that you will work on this year to help
  you walk back down the mountain to an
  EMPOWERED.Life.
• List questions that get you excited about your life.

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THE WORK
Follow Break Generational Trauma, One Trauma at a Time

“Healing is a daily event. You can’t ‘go somewhere’ to be
healed: you must go inward to be healed. This means a daily
commitment to doing the work.”
—Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist

Our purpose is not to create a perfect life for our kids or our
people. It is to show our humanness and to raise our kids to
know they are deeply loved by their deeply imperfect parents.
And to show our people we are flawed humans who are doing
the best with what we know, right now.

Our work is to become aware of our traumas and triggers
and the impacts they can have, if unchecked, and then to
decide which ones have the biggest impact on our people.

Have you ever met an adult with no issues? No parent
issues or people-pleasing, boundary issues or control issues?
Me, neither... Not sure I want to or need to, either.

What if, each year, we focused on different parts of
ourselves instead of tackling all our trauma and hoping we can
be perfect for those close to us?

It can be so overwhelming, when you begin work in your
life with a coach, mentor, therapist, guide, or pastor. Instead,
pick one thing, and focus on that! Shift that! Grow in that area!

• This year, my big focus will be:
• While I am doing this for me, I know
  ____________________________ will also be hugely impacted.
• The reason I choose this for my yearly goal is:
• When I feel like I am not making real progress, I will
  pay attention to mini-magical moments by:
• Actions I will take include:
• My triggers around this trauma are:
• I want to show up for my people in the following way:
  By showing my people my human, imperfect side, I
  am giving them a gift of:
  
  Focusing on one per year will shift the all-or-nothing
  thinking. It will calm the inner rebel and also
  UnFollow that “in order to be great humans, we must
  be healed” false narrative.
  
  

More of us talking about what we are healing, and why, is
how we collectively change and encourage others. Through
bravery and belief, not shame and perfectionism.

It is only by living we truly heal!

So, let’s live, lassies and lads, and show our imperfect
selves as we do it.

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THE WORK
Follow Learning to Love our Bodies

“Your body hears everything your mind says.”
—Naomi Judd

What if we stopped allowing our brains to bully our bodies? “I
love my body” doesn’t mean I have to like everything about it.
But it does mean I stop my brain from bullying her.

Enter this work thinking of your future self, your favorite
version of yourself, the one who doesn’t bully her body every
day. The one who speaks kindly to her body and doesn’t judge
her or others. When you get excited about that version, only
then begin asking all the questions.

Questioning everything with excitement is a method for
living. It’s where we choose to not only heal, but live. It’s
where we decide to not only think but do!
Your body loves you. She has proven this time and time
again. Now, show her some love by healing some open wounds
you still have.

This work helps you to UnFollow society defining what our
body should look like and making the decision you will define
it! Year after year, we criticize our bodies, and it hasn’t
changed anything; so, it’s time to change the status quo and,
instead, do the work and Follow learning to love our bodies.

This is your reminder that you do not need to love every
part of your body in order to be kind to it. What if you begin
this work by treating your body the way you hope your
daughter treats hers, the way you pray your son treats his?
Sometimes, the thought of loving our bodies is too far-fetched;
but imagining it’s your daughter’s, your mother’s, your best
friend’s, that changes your mindset and leads you on the path
of healing.

• List all the things your body has done for you. Don’t
  stop until you get to at least twenty.
• Write a letter to your body, apologizing for the way
  you have bullied it, including the things you have made
  her miss out on. Then, burn it!
• UnFollowing all the abuse you did to her requires you
  to replace it with a new following. Write a letter on
  how you plan to treat her, going forward. How you
  plan to learn to love her. Write it from a place of joy
  and excitement and possibility. No shame can live in
  this letter! Laminate it! Put it on your mirror. Have it
  in plain sight, read it every day, until your mind no
  longer bullies your body.
• Write on a Post-it: “I love my body and everything she
  has done for me.” Place it somewhere you see it daily.

Get your copy of Melissa's bestselling book, UnFollow: Question Everything with Excitement, and download the FREE WORKBOOK!

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Did you love this episode? Let us know what other topics you'd like to hear Melissa explore or questions she could address. Email: melissa@melissawiggins.life

Remember, you can change your life one question at a time.
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