On this week's episode, we are talking about change. Not the change that gets to come with growth, but the change that can only happen from the Holy Spirit.

As spouses, we get to realize that we cannot change our spouse. Their personality, standards, behaviors, and attitude will be the same after the wedding as it was while you were dating. This is why it is important to decide before you get into a relationship, what you will allow or not, what you will be ok with or not. We need to stop insisting that our spouses are just like us.

Change can happen, but it mostly comes from the Holy Spirit, not nagging. Patience and communication are keys to a successful marriage, no matter how big the gap looks when you first get together.

1 Peter 3: 1-7 "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers." (NIV)

Have a listen, and let us know what you think.

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Welcome back to the exciting adventure that is our month of May. We have gone on a couple of trips and had some fun adventures and conversations.

In this episode, we are talking about growing with and knowing your person. If that is your spouse, your child, parent, friend, or coworker, do you know who you are communicating with, and how best to communicate with them? We talk about some strategies and pitfalls in learning how best to grow and cultivate a great relationship.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

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It is our anniversary! After 13 years of marriage, and over 14 years of being together, we are here, standing strong. We talk about ups and downs, tears and smiles. Our struggles are what make us who we are and what we share.

Isaiah 40: 30-31 - "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." (NIV)

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Happy Easter! The Lord is risen!

We are so excited to share our chat with our good friends Levi and Shannae. They have been through some battles, and they wanted to share their journey and their victory. We also talk about our past interview with Dustin and Torrie (Ep 60).

This episode talks about the serious subject of pornography. It breaks our hearts to learn how many deal with this, and we want to give hope to all of those that are wanting to break the cycle and grip of it.

Here are some statistics that we shared: (from an article from May 2022)

1. Over 40 million Americans are regular visitors to porn sites. The average visit lasts 6 minutes and 29 seconds
2. There are around 42 million porn websites, which totals around 370 million pages of porn
3. The porn industry’s annual revenue is MORE than the NFL, NBA, and MLB combined. It is also more than the combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC.
4. 47% of families in the United States reported that pornography is a problem in their home.
5. Pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by more than 300%.
6. Eleven is the average age that a child is first exposed to porn, and 94% of children will see porn by the age of 14.
7. 56% of American divorces involve one party having an “obsessive interest” in pornographic websites.
8. 70% of Christian youth pastors report that they have had at least one teen come to them for help in dealing with pornography in the past 12 months.
9. 68% of church going men and over 50% of pastors view porn on a regular basis. Of young Christian adults 18-24 years old, 76% actively search for porn.
10. 59% of pastors said that married men seek their help for porn use.
11. 33% of women aged 25-and-under search for porn at least once per month.
12. Only 13% of self identified Christian women say they never watch porn – 87% of Christian women have watched porn.
13. 55% of married men and 25% of married women say they watch porn at least once a month.
14. 57% of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issue in their congregation. And 69% say porn has adversely impacted the church.
15. Only 7% of pastors say their church has a program to help people struggling with pornography.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think.

If you want help, or want to talk, you can reach us at upfrontandundivided@gmail.com or info@firmfooting.coach, or you could reach out to a trusted friend or pastor.

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Join us as we give an update on what is going on in our lives! We have a new website - firmfooting.coach. It is going to be the online home for our Relationship Coaching. Please feel free to check it out, and let us know what you think!

We are also talking this week about getting along and communicating through difficulties and working on a frustrating project together. How do we act and react when it is the project or task that is setting us off, and not our spouse?

Have a listen, and leave a comment.

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Have you ever felt like life is getting a little crowded? Maybe you've let something into your marriage that isn't supposed to be there? How many people are in your marriage? That is what we are talking about in this week's episode.

Have a listen and let us know what you think!

We will be speaking for 4 weeks - Marriage Supplements. Starting Tuesday, April 8th, at 6:30pm, 9900 View High Dr, KC, MO.

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Come join us for our latest episode - The Echos. We are talking about how our pasts can create echos in our minds that can distract us from our present.

What do we do when those echos come up? How do you deal with the echos?

In a way this episode is similar to when we have talked about fingerprints.

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Welcome back! In this week's episode, we are sitting down with Dean'na's brother and sister-in-law, Bob and Dawn Cates. They recently celebrated 36 years of marriage. We had the honor of sitting down with them, and asking what nuggets they have for couples.

Love Serves

Serve your spouse with intention

Have a listen, and let us know what you think.

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