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Waking Up to Narcissism

Waking Up to Narcissism

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 "Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!Copyright 2025 Waking Up to Narcissism Desarrollo Personal Hygiene & Healthy Living Psicología Psicología y Salud Mental Éxito Personal
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  • Childhood Survival Skills That Sabotage Your Adult Relationships - Part 2: The Path to Emotional Maturity - The Climb Out

    Childhood Survival Skills That Sabotage Your Adult Relationships - Part 2: The Path to Emotional Maturity - The Climb Out
    May 28 2025
    What if the very strategies that saved you as a child are now sabotaging your adult relationships? In Part 2 of Tony's series on emotional immaturity, discover why your most persistent relationship struggles aren't character flaws—they're outdated survival software still running in the background of your life. Through the powerful ACT metaphor of "The Man in the Hole," you'll understand why working harder with familiar emotional tools only digs you deeper into relationship problems. When someone offers you a ladder out of your patterns, why do you keep trying to dig with it instead? This episode reveals how to recognize when it's time to put down the shovel of old coping strategies and climb toward something completely different. Meet the clients who've made this transformation: the chronic fixer who learned to ask "what do you need from me?" instead of immediately solving, the humor-deflector who shocked a room into silence by sharing something real, and the lifelong people-pleaser whose hands shook as she said "no" for the first time—and discovered her marriage actually got stronger. You'll explore Terry Real's revolutionary insight that childhood adaptations become adult roadblocks, learn the art of re-parenting yourself with compassion instead of criticism, and discover why emotional maturity isn't about never falling into old patterns—it's about recognizing when you're there and having new tools to respond. Whether you struggle with hypervigilance, perfectionism, control issues, or people-pleasing tendencies, this episode offers a shame-free framework for honoring your inner child's brilliant survival strategies while empowering your adult self to take the lead. Because growth isn't about eliminating your protective parts—it's about expanding your repertoire of responses and choosing consciously instead of reacting automatically. Ready to stop digging and start climbing? Your ladder awaits. 00:00 Introduction and Recap 01:23 The Story of Tyler 03:53 Tyler's Realization and Therapy 09:39 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Metaphor 15:46 Revisiting Emotional Immaturity 19:30 Reparenting Yourself 25:05 Examples of Reparenting in Action 29:00 Exploring Emotional Immaturity Traits 40:54 Recognizing and Validating Emotions 42:47 Dependence on External Validation 48:54 Taking Ownership and Accountability 51:49 Mind Reading and Communication 01:03:55 Hypervigilance and Emotional Containment 01:07:12 Perfectionism and Control 01:11:49 Integration and Emotional Maturity 01:15:57 Real-Life Examples of Emotional Growth 01:22:05 The Journey of Emotional Maturity
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    1 h y 26 m
  • Tell Me About Your Mother": Untangling Childhood's Hidden Traps with "The Good Daughter Syndrome" Author Katherine Fabrizio

    Tell Me About Your Mother": Untangling Childhood's Hidden Traps with "The Good Daughter Syndrome" Author Katherine Fabrizio
    May 17 2025
    Are you constantly trying to please your mother but never feeling good enough? Do you take responsibility for her emotional well-being? If you've ever found yourself stuck in these patterns, this episode is essential listening — and men, don't skip this one! Host Tony Overbay discovered he might have a little "Good Daughter Syndrome" himself. In this illuminating conversation, psychotherapist Katherine Fabrizio https://daughtersrising.info/ shares her 35 years of experience working with daughters of difficult mothers, including her own journey breaking away from practicing therapy alongside her controlling mother. With refreshing candor and hard-earned wisdom, Katherine reveals: The four psychological traps that keep "good daughters" stuck: the never good enough trap, the guilt trap, the self-doubt trap, and the mixed message trap Why setting even small boundaries can provide crucial data about your relationship How to break free without it being a "zero-sum game" where someone must lose Why your mother's narcissistic defenses will protect her, even when you start setting boundaries The paralyzing internal conflict of feeling selfish when you differentiate from mom With multiple awards, including Gold Medalist for Parenting & Relationships from The Global Book Awards, Katherine's book "The Good Daughter Syndrome" offers hope to those caught in these destructive dynamics. Whether you identify as a "good daughter" or simply want to understand the complex mother-daughter relationship, this conversation provides actionable insights for reclaiming your sovereignty and building a life that truly belongs to you. "When you wake up and realize you've been ceding your sovereignty to somebody else... it's incredibly empowering." - Katherine Fabrizio 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 01:35 Emotional Immaturity Epidemic 03:32 The Good Daughter Syndrome 08:12 Interview with Catherine Fabrizio 11:03 Catherine's Personal Journey 17:37 Understanding Narcissistic Dynamics 26:40 Setting Boundaries with Narcissistic Mothers 27:35 The Never Good Enough Trap 28:40 The Guilt Trap 29:11 Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting 33:54 The Self-Doubt Trap 38:59 The Mixed Message Trap 46:23 Empowerment and Differentiation 48:53 Conclusion and Resources Are you constantly trying to please your mother but never feeling good enough? Do you take responsibility for her emotional well-being? If you've ever found yourself stuck in these patterns, this episode is essential listening — and men, don't skip this one! Host Tony Overbay discovered he might have a little "Good Daughter Syndrome" himself. In this illuminating conversation, psychotherapist Katherine Fabrizio https://daughtersrising.info/ shares her 35 years of experience working with daughters of difficult mothers, including her own journey breaking away from practicing therapy alongside her controlling mother. With refreshing candor and hard-earned wisdom, Katherine reveals: The four psychological traps that keep "good daughters" stuck: the never good enough trap, the guilt trap, the self-doubt trap, and the mixed message trap Why setting even small boundaries can provide crucial data about your relationship How to break free without it being a "zero-sum game" where someone must lose Why your mother's narcissistic defenses will protect her, even when you start setting boundaries The paralyzing internal conflict of feeling selfish when you differentiate from mom With multiple awards, including Gold Medalist for Parenting & Relationships from The Global Book Awards, Katherine's book "The Good Daughter Syndrome" offers hope to those caught in these destructive dynamics. Whether you identify as a "good daughter" or simply want to understand the complex mother-daughter relationship, this conversation provides actionable insights for reclaiming your sovereignty and building a life that truly belongs to you. "When you wake up and realize you've been ceding your sovereignty to somebody else... it's incredibly empowering." - Katherine Fabrizio 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 01:35 Emotional Immaturity Epidemic 03:32 The Good Daughter Syndrome 08:12 Interview with Catherine Fabrizio 11:03 Catherine's Personal Journey 17:37 Understanding Narcissistic Dynamics 26:40 Setting Boundaries with Narcissistic Mothers 27:35 The Never Good Enough Trap 28:40 The Guilt Trap 29:11 Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting 33:54 The Self-Doubt Trap 38:59 The Mixed Message Trap 46:23 Empowerment and Differentiation 48:53 Conclusion and Resources
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    50 m
  • Childhood Survival Skills That Sabotage Your Adult Relationships: The Path to Emotional Maturity

    Childhood Survival Skills That Sabotage Your Adult Relationships: The Path to Emotional Maturity
    Apr 24 2025
    Ever wondered why your brilliant mind can solve complex problems at work but completely breaks down during relationship conflicts? That's because those emotional reactions that feel so instinctive aren't flaws—they're actually genius survival strategies that once kept you safe. In this transformative episode, we explore how black-and-white thinking, mind-reading expectations, and external validation seeking were perfect childhood adaptations that have now become relationship roadblocks. Through the groundbreaking insight that behaviors which perfectly served us in childhood often become the very patterns that sabotage our adult relationships, you'll finally understand why you keep falling into familiar emotional patterns despite your best intentions. This isn't just another episode about relationship struggles—it's a compassionate roadmap for emotional growth that honors both your wounded inner child and your emerging adult self. You'll discover how to recognize when you're in an emotional "hole" and why continuing to dig with familiar tools only takes you deeper. Most importantly, you'll learn how to pass the baton from your protective inner child to your capable adult self without shame or judgment. Whether you struggle with people-pleasing, emotional flooding, perfectionism, or control issues, this episode offers a strength-based approach to transform these patterns into mature responses that will revolutionize your relationships and bring a profound sense of internal peace. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:23 Listener Email: Mark's Story 01:41 Understanding Emotional Immaturity 04:47 Exploring the Emotional Maturity Spectrum 08:47 Introducing the Emotional Architects Group 09:29 Narcissistic Personality Disorder vs. Emotional Immaturity 11:08 Dinner with Daniel: A Narcissistic Narrative 15:47 Stages of Emotional Maturity 26:18 Childhood Behaviors in Adult Bodies 32:45 Understanding Emotional Blueprints 33:07 Re-parenting with Compassion 33:32 Therapeutic Insights from Fiction 34:23 Frozen Moments and Adult Relationships 35:16 Childhood Adaptations in Adult Life 36:17 Exploring Childlike Behaviors in Adults 36:57 Navigating Emotional Development 41:34 Black or White Thinking 44:43 Magical Thinking in Relationships 47:46 Emotional Reasoning and Codependency 52:32 External Validation and Accountability 55:41 Mind Reading and Projection 01:01:32 Pattern Recognition and Familiarity 01:07:12 Path Toward Emotional Maturity 01:07:52 Conclusion and Next Steps
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    1 h y 10 m
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So many epiphanies here, giving me the tools to deal with him!! I am a LMSW and I never thought I’d be in a relationship like this. It’s so eye opening thank you so much for sharing.

Eye opening & Strengthening!

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Tony has such a way about educating us all about narcissistic personality disorder & emotional immaturity. He’s a gem!

Life changing

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so helpful listening in on others storys. if I can get validation for what I've been thru, it helps fill a little of that void so I can move forward after being in two long narcissistic relationships over the last 18yrs..

clarity...

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Life Changing. Encouraging. Clear.
One of my Favorite things about Tony is: He speaks clear and calm!
Many great folks trying to share on this topic often share in a way that is "very passionate" I have found that people sharing in an URGENT way are very triggering to me. So much surrounding this topic is already scary and you feel so unsure of your self as you even explore whether this may finally be what is so wrong in your relationship. I'm very sensitive to the urgency and voice tones used.
Tony you are a true treasure, thank you for letting your light shine, and in doing so helping so many others start to let theirs shine as well.

Thank You~

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My wife and I have been struggling for awhile. There was a lot of hurt between us both. She asked me to listen to this podcast. Holy cow I had no idea how many of my own problems I had with myself because I didn't know the symptoms and the words to have it all make sense. Tony is incredible and helpful in putting it in a way everyone can understand. I listen to the Virtual Couch now too which is extremely helpful for my own self worth and positive thinking.

I'm a man, this is extremely helpful

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