In this empowering episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, Sharon Brubaker pulls back the curtain on one of the greatest grief misconceptions: that we need to learn how to grieve. Sharon reveals a deeper truth—we were all born knowing how to grieve. From your first cry to your instinct to reach out when in pain, grief is not something to be taught but something we’ve been taught to forget.
Through raw, compassionate storytelling and the powerful example of a client who found her way back to healing, Sharon reminds us that grief is not a flaw—it’s our body and spirit doing exactly what they were designed to do. If you’ve ever questioned your tears, your numbness, or the way your grief looks—this episode is for you.

Key Points Discussed:

• You didn’t lose your ability to grieve—you were born with it

• The world unteaches us how to grieve by rewarding silence and pretending

• Grief is a full-body, nervous system experience—not just emotional pain

• Your grief is not wrong, too big, too heavy, or something to be fixed

• Real healing begins when we stop performing and start expressing honestly

• A powerful story of a widow rediscovering her voice in Grief Study Hall

• Why your body still remembers how to release what hurts—without needing a manual

Journal Questions for Reflection:

• When did you first start to believe your grief was “too much”?

• How have you been performing instead of feeling your grief?

• What rules or messages about grief have shaped your current experience?

• How has your body been trying to express grief—and have you been listening?

• What would it look like to stop apologizing for your grief?

• Are you willing to trust that you still know how to grieve?

Conclusion:
You don’t need to learn how to grieve—you need to remember that you already know. Your tears are not signs of weakness, your pain is not brokenness, and your emotions are not something to hide. They’re sacred. They’re real. They’re part of the healing. Sharon invites you to stop apologizing, stop performing, and return to what your body, your heart, and your spirit already know how to do: grieve.

Contact Us:
Have a question, story, or want to connect with Sharon?
Email: hello@thegriefschool.com
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