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Eight Dates

By: John Gottman PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, Doug Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams
Narrated by: James Patrick Cronin, Julie McKay
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Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort - and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on 40 years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range - from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions - will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before - and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2018 John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams (P)2019 Audible, Inc.
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very informational and insightful

the section on listening would be good guidelines for ANY relationship. mostly, as I was listening I wondered at what point during marriage or other serious relationship does enmeshment occur and we see our partner as an extension of yourself rather than an individual. this book is a great reminder and practical guide on how to maintain or restore individuality among couples. I'll be listening to it many times over because it is both a quick, interesting read and because there is something new to learn every time.

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Great suggestions for improving relationships.

The book has great suggestions and questions that most certainly will help your relationship grow.
However I don't agree with the premise that no matter how different you are from your partner, you can make a commited relationship work. When two people are very different, it's so difficult to find joy doing activities together. It's better to find someone that already has common interests.

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great things to consider...

before walking down the aisle, moving in together or settling down in any way. Thousands of hearts may remain unbroken if these dates were taken before hand.

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single or married. it's for everyone

I wouldn't have been able to power through this book without audible. whether you're in a relationship or not it brings up some great talking points and exercises to do in the future

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Terrible narration!

Really bad narration. Hard to listen to. The book itself is pretty good. Interesting Overall

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An essential book to a healthy relationship

I can’t say enough about the thoroughness of “8 Dates”. It is indeed 8 pillars of a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship.

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Very helpful

I highly recommend listening through multiple times to take notes. A lot of strategies and techniques hard to keep track of them all

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Straightforward and informative

What I liked most about this book was the idea the authors put forth that a great love story is a never-ending conversation. This notion runs counter to the prevailing notions in our media — ones that say love is an easy, happily-ever-after tale. In reality, keeping our relationships fresh takes hard work and openness, again and again.

This book helps readers analyze all aspects of their relationships, then ask the right questions in regard to each subject. As the authors state, as long as we are willing to do the work, willing to commit and be forever curious about our partners, we will keep our love alive.

But that love cannot last if we don’t keep the conversation open. This book helps bring that message to light. It’s a quick, straightforward, and to-the-point read. I’d recommend checking it out.

-Brian Sachetta
Author of “Get Out of Your Head”

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Great Book for Couples

Definitely recommend this book for all couples in all stages. Helps provide you with a different perspective to increase close-ness and understanding.

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Very well written!

It really opened my eyes to being a better partner.👍👍👍👍👍 It will make me better.

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