
How to Be You
Stop Trying to Be Someone Else and Start Living Your Life
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Jeffrey Marsh
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Too short. Too weird. Too quiet. Not true. Let internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are.
An interactive experience, How to Be You invites you to make the audiobook your own through activities such as answering questions about how you do the things you do, and discovering patterns in your lives that may be holding you back. Through Jeffrey's own story of "growing up fabulous in a small farming town" - along with the stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race, age, and gender - you will discover that you are not alone.
Learn to deepen your relationship with yourself, boost your self-esteem and self-worth, and find the courage to take a leap that will change your life.
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Critic reviews
“The advice Jeffrey gives is so succinct and so intimately personal that I swear, if your brain could change colors in reaction to humans, Jeffrey's words would turn your brain bright pink." (Bustle)
“Their message is simple: Be yourself. Be happy with yourself. Be more comfortable with your differences - and embrace and enjoy them.” (Digg)
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- Dawn
- 12-26-21
Beautiful book by a beautiful soul.
I stumbled upon Jeffrey Marsh on social media and have quickly become a fan. I appreciate his kind, inclusive, generous spirit. I started listening and had to listen to the whole book at once.
Thank you, Jeffrey, for sharing your story to help others write theirs.
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- Davy Sprocket
- 05-06-21
Autistic Trauma
Many autistics have grown up and now need trauma therapy and help finding themselves due to society not allowing us to exist authentically. So many of us are struggling to accept ourselves in a society that doesn’t want to see our way of existing as legitimate. Some of us were raised through ABA therapy, accepting ourselves on a basic level after that can be very hard indeed. This book is a compilation of all the BEST things my parents ever said, as well as all the things I wish they had. I found Jeffrey on Instagram and now it’s their voice (and Wanda Sykes’) that pop into my head during the worst moments to say something that shifts my brain out of the self hate cycle. Thank you Jeffrey.
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- mightyeric
- 05-12-21
a book for everyone
Jeffrey's book is a melody for the soul. I wish this were required reading for everyone!
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- Wren Gunn
- 07-17-21
My favorite
Jeffrey Marsh reads this book which makes it that much better. I have read a lot of self-help/psychology books and I am also a psychotherapist and this is by far my absolute most favorite one. The author is heartfelt and genuine and offers solid advice while not being condescending. They also have a TikTok page which I highly recommend.
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- gingerpane
- 05-27-22
Amazing
I have been a fan of Jeffery Marsh since I found him on Instagram. His words are always so wonderful and he is such a beautiful person inside and out. This book is just a lovely gift for yourself (and I am buying it for about 5 of my closest friends too!).
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- Anonymous User
- 08-16-21
Amazing!
Love the author, loved this book ❤ this is one of those I can listen to again and again 😊 a great book on self-love and kindness
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- NONA THORNTON
- 05-27-21
This book is for everyone. I mean it
This book is for everyone... every singke person on this planet. It's relatable, simple, and meaningful. It hit so close to home for me and my loved ones that we started communicating more and I started coaching sessions with Jeffrey. Listen to it over and over again. By half way through, I felt weight being lifted off my sholders and I can feel myself healing and becoming bolder.
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- A
- 09-19-21
Amazing
This book is simply amazing from start to finish. It’s heartfelt, powerfully uplifting and like being given a desperately needed hug! This book is for all LGBT+ people, allies and anyone else who just needs to be reminded that it’s ok to be you!
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- Skylar Keyfauver
- 08-08-22
Be your own best friend and gift this book to yourself and then gift it to those you love!
This audio book was more like an open, honest, heartfelt conversation with a close friend. Jeffrey’s voice came off as soothing and so full of love and support.
This has really helped me in my growth to accept myself fully as I am. To really love the fabulous agender person that I am.
I would recommend this book to everyone. We have all felt hopeless, unworthy, unloved, and unsure of our purpose. This book is a journey of realizing that all the answers are inside us, the love that we are all so eagerly searching for everywhere is inside us. Happy Reading friends!
Thank you Jeffrey!
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- Amazon Customer
- 09-08-22
Everyone matters.
Sometimes in life you don't know what you need, until you actually get it. This book by Jeffrey Marsh, was exactly what I needed. Their insight into inner self exploration and discovery is immense. If you need guidance in "How to Be You" this is a must listen. Make sure you are ready to actively listen, because they have a very soothing voice ; )
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