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Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)

Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts

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Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)

De: Carol Tavris, Elliot Aronson
Narrado por: Marsha Mercant, Joe Barrett
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Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell? Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception - how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.

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"Thanks, in part, to the scientific evidence it provides and the charm of its down-to-earth, commonsensical tone, Mistakes Were Made is convincing. Reading it, we recognize the behavior of our leaders, our loved ones, and—if we're honest—ourselves, and some of the more perplexing mysteries of human nature begin to seem a little clearer." (Francine Prose, O, The Oprah Magazine)
"By turns entertaining, illuminating and—when you recognize yourself in the stories it tells—mortifying." ( The Wall Street Journal)
Insightful Psychological Concepts • Practical Life Applications • Excellent Narration • Fascinating Real-world Examples
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This book has a very interesting premise: that most of the problems we face in life are because we do not accept responsibility for our actions. People spend a great deal of time engaged in self-justification for hurtful actions.

One of the primary examples is what happened with the pre-school sex abuse scandals in the 90's. One of the most infamous started with accusations by a woman whom, it was later discovered, was mentally ill. Other parents at the school believed her, and children recounted improbable stories of abuse at the urging and direction of therapists and law enforcement.

"Mistakes Were Made" discusses the falibility of memory, and source confusion. In the example of the children making the accusations, leading questions became facts for the children. The same type of source confusion happens to adults.

When the therapists and law enforcement investigated the alleged abuse, they failed to notice that the children's stories were improbable. The investigators self-justified their failure to correlate the facts, and so many lives were ruined.

There is an extensive discussion of cognitive disonance, which is worth an entire book on its own. False memories are sometimes created to resolve cognitive disonance.

I did question the concept of "self-justification" as it applies to organizations, such as companies and countries. The authors treated those groups as if the groups were an individual entity. I didn't see any support for the position that a group somehow develops a consciousness and works to reduce cognitive disonance.

The performance was good. It's the first Audible Book I have listened to with two narrators that worked well.

No Mistake buying this Audio

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This is a good book but it starts out with politics and a presumption that everyone feels the way the authors do, a common academic mistake - why do we make such mistakes? Anyhow, I think of the book frequently - getting past the politics, it was good.

Overall Good Book

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This book helped me back away from an argument where someone needed to justify their actions. I realized they were emotionally invested in what they did and a logical discussion of it was going to be rejected. It saved me some frustration and that was okay because the episode was a minor one. If that was all I took from this book then it would have failed.

The key is (But Not By Me). We really need to examine how we can convince ourselves our bad decision was a good one when actually it wasn't. We are predisposed to rationalize our actions and sometimes this hurts others and more importantly sometimes this hurts ourselves.

I rarely stop listening to a book on a long walk, but for this one after a chapter that inspired a eureka moment I had to. It wouldn't do to hear the next chapter when I needed to work out some things inspired by what I had just heard.

I liked the scientific approach in discussing how mistakes were made and the part that resonated the most was the repressed memory fad in the 1990's. A lot of people were harmed by that and a lot of experts who did not adhere to the scientific method compounded that damage. I was most impressed with the one repressed memory expert who parted company with her contemporaries and admitted mistakes. After reading this book, I want to emulate that courageous lady.

We All Make Mistakes It's How We Handle Them After

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A really good look at how justification of our mistakes can lead to all sorts of bad outcomes. Every thing from the corporate world to the criminal justice system.

Great perspectives

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Great narrating voices. Easy to follow and understand. Promotes introspection. I think everyone can take at least one thing away.

SO many great points and examples!

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Where does Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

It ranks in the top 10%. I have read several other books that cover the same general topic, but this book boils down what most of us see every day in ourselves and others. Understanding why we or others struggle to take responsibility for our actions and perceptions is key in being able to change it and not be as critical of ourselves and others by taking responsibility and facing reality.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

Wasn't me.

insight to self and others

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Where does Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

Among the very best, and among the most important.

What did you like best about this story?

It gives deep insight into the way our mind works and goes very far in helping us understand why people behave as they do.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

It made me very excited for glimpsing certain aspects of human nature than I had not understood until now, notably why people who are not psychopaths can sometimes behave in inhuman ways. And yes — I wanted to buy a hundred copies and send it to everyone I know.

Any additional comments?

I consider this one of the most important books I have ever read (listened to), and I have read many books on psychology in my life. The title in my opinion does not entirely do justice to its richness; after buying it, I did not listen to it for almost a year because the title made me think it was a kind of self-help book when in fact it is one of the best and deepest discussions of human nature that I know. However, I am unable to suggest a better title.

Deep and illuminating

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one of the most interesting books I've ever read. shows the pitfalls of self justification & how to avoid them.

amazing book

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As others have already suggested, the information presented in this book is extremely interesting and presented well. However, the book just feels a tad too long.

A bit too long

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This book should be read in the first person. I am nearing the end of my career and this book has helped me understand some of the decisions I and others have made that seemed irrational before I listened to this book.

An excellent book

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