
Wanting What's Best
Parenting, Privilege, and Building a Just World
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Sara Sheckells
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Sarah W. Jaffe
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When privileged parents say that they "want what's best" for their child, they don't consciously add "and not for other children."
Yet the practical effect of parents with privilege relentlessly pursuing their own child's interests is that other children are left behind. Author Sarah W. Jaffe interviewed dozens of parents who are resisting the cultural pressures to seek "the best" for only their kids while navigating some of the major decisions that parents make—about childcare, schools, how they use their time and money, and the legacy they hope to leave their kids. These may not feel like political decisions, but each either contributes to a system where only a few can thrive or takes a small step toward dismantling it.
Our children are watching and learning from how we make choices. How we treat the people who care for them tells them how they should behave as a boss. Where we send them to school teaches them about their place in the world. How we spend our time and money sends them more powerful messages about how to spend theirs than any lecture about gratitude ever could.
What does it look like to fight for other people's children as if the future of your own child depended on it?
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