Friendships are weird. Anita and I talk about the confusing nature of friendships in our 20s and 30s: when we realized that making friends as an adult requires active effort, being more open to different types of friendships, and lastly, the lack of clear guidelines. How exactly do you grow a friendship? How do you know where you stand with someone? And how do you address issues or handle a friendship that is maybe past its prime?

We explored Dunbar's number and Rawlins' theory about the 3 types of friendships, but ended this episode with more questions than answers 😂

These of course aren’t questions specific to first gen Asian kids, but because it’s a universal experience, it’s something that many of us can relate to and have thoughts about. Hope it sparks some thought for you!

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00:00 - 01:19: Intro & adult friendships without the structure of school

01:19 - 11:40: Making friends in college vs. post-college in a new city

11:40 - 15:37 : Being open-minded and embracing different types of friendships

15:37 - 24:15: Rating our "friendship health", Dunbar's number, the idea of friendships as an onion, and Rawlins' theory on different functions

24:15 - 35:26: Friendships are basically "undefined relationships", lack of explicit communication, and letting friendships change

35:27 - end: Two things we want to do more of