Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, hosts Meli Wolf and Liv Wickedly explore the complex relationship between intuition and anxiety. They discuss personal experiences, the importance of having a supportive friend group, and practical steps to differentiate between the two. The conversation emphasizes the need for honesty, vulnerability, and the willingness to confront uncomfortable truths in order to connect with one's intuition. The hosts also highlight the significance of having a 'square squad'—a trusted circle of friends who can provide honest feedback and support during emotional turmoil.

Keywords

intuition, anxiety, emotional health, self-awareness, personal growth, friendship, truth, mental clarity, support system, self-discovery

Takeaways

• Intuition and anxiety can often be intertwined, making it difficult to differentiate between the two.
• Having a supportive friend group is essential for navigating emotional challenges.
• Honesty and transparency with oneself and others are crucial for personal growth.
• It's important to be willing to confront uncomfortable truths to connect with intuition.
• Making a mess is part of the process of self-discovery and understanding one's emotions.
• Your intuition doesn't prioritize safety; it focuses on your highest potential.
• When feeling anxious, pause and reflect before making decisions.
• Avoiding sharing with loved ones can indicate a disconnect from your intuition.
• The concept of a 'square squad' can help in receiving honest feedback.
• Choosing to be "wrong" can lead to greater self-awareness and clarity.

Sound Bites

• "I feel like fucking shit."
• "If it was easy, then I didn't actually need it."
• "Honesty is love."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Good Vibes

01:43 Intuition vs. Anxiety: A Deep Dive

02:37 Meli's Personal Experience with Intuition and Anxiety

09:15 The Role of Friends in Navigating Emotions

14:50 The Importance of Truth and Transparency

22:17 Practical Steps to Differentiate Intuition from Anxiety

30:50 Conclusion and Encouragement

31:40 Outro Graphics

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the complex relationship humans have with their emotions, discussing the historical context of emotional expression, the conditioning that leads to fear of emotions, and the importance of emotional literacy. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and responsibility in navigating emotional experiences, and how emotions can serve as a compass for personal growth and understanding. The discussion also highlights the messiness of emotional integration and the significance of recognizing emotions as a natural part of the human experience.

Keywords

emotions, fear of emotions, emotional intelligence, emotional processing, self-awareness, emotional literacy, responsibility, self-compassion, emotional expression, mental health

Takeaways

• We are conditioned to fear our emotions due to societal norms.
• Understanding emotions is crucial for personal growth.
• Emotions are unique and can vary greatly between individuals.
• The historical context shows a shift in how emotions are expressed.
• Self-compassion is essential in navigating emotional experiences.
• Taking responsibility for our emotions empowers us.
• Emotions can serve as a compass for decision-making.
• The inquiry process helps in understanding our emotions better.
• It's important to allow emotions to be messy and complex.
• Emotional literacy is vital for healthy relationships.

Sound Bites

• "We're conditioned to be afraid of our emotions."
• "The unknown of emotions is what scares us."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Our Fear of Emotions

04:24 The Historical Context of Emotional Expression

08:44 The Evolution of Emotional Awareness

13:50 Navigating Personal Emotional Experiences

19:06 The Inquiry Process for Emotional Understanding

26:52 Taking Responsibility for Our Emotions

47:16 The Power of Emotional Responsibility

57:34 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the nuanced definitions of selfishness and selflessness, challenging societal norms that label selfishness as negative. They discuss the importance of self-care and the need for individuals to prioritize their own needs to be able to contribute positively to the world. The conversation delves into childhood conditioning, the people-pleasing epidemic, and the journey from selflessness to a healthier form of selfishness, termed 'selffulness.' Liv shares her personal vows to herself as a powerful example of self-love and commitment to personal growth.

Keywords

selfishness, selflessness, selffulness, personal growth, self-care, childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, balance, relationships, empowerment

Takeaways

• Selfishness and selflessness are two ends of the same spectrum.
• Being selfish can be a form of self-care and empowerment.
• Childhood conditioning often leads to people-pleasing behaviors.
• Finding balance between selflessness and selfishness is crucial for personal growth.
• It's important to check in with oneself before giving to others.
• You can't pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential.
• The journey from selflessness to selfishness can involve a necessary swing.
• Selffulness is about being full enough to give to others authentically.
• Self-love is a vital part of being able to love others well.
• Creating a healed world requires individuals to be selfful.

Sound Bites

• "It's okay to be selfish."
• "We could save the world if each individual person just stopped looking for somebody to save them."
• "You can't give something you don't have."

Chapters

00:00 Defining Selfishness and Selflessness

05:51 The Importance of Self-Care

11:51 Cultural Conditioning and People-Pleasing

19:31 The Swing from Selflessness to Selfishness

27:17 Finding Balance in Relationships

33:45 The Role of Basic Needs

39:19 The Power of Selffullness

51:23 Liv's Vows to Herself

59:12 Outro

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Summary

In this engaging conversation, Liv and Meli interview Leola Watkins, the author of Sacred Sex Ed. They explore the themes of sacred sexuality, the journey of reading the book, the importance of tantra, and the dynamics of open relationships. Leola shares her insights on creating safe spaces for sexual exploration and the significance of self-trust in relationships. The discussion also delves into the SPREAD framework for safer sex conversations and the exploration of dark desires. The episode concludes with Leola's purpose behind writing the book and her vision for integrating spirituality and sexuality.

About Leola Watkins

Leola is a Pleasure Priestess & the best-selling author of Sacred Sex Ed, inspiring others to see an integration of sexuality and spirituality. She guides individuals and couples in discovering how life-force energy moves in the body; and more importantly, how to harness this inner-power for a pleasure-filled life that begins with our most intimate relationships and extends to our livelihood and our worldview.

In her early 20s, Leola discovered tantra and shamanic sexuality as modalities to heal her relationship to her body, process past sexual assault, and create a life she loves.

She is now dedicated to guiding others to be turned on by life itself, find God in their body, and seduce the world into a greater good.

Book: https://www.talktantratome.com/book

Website: https://www.talktantratome.com/

IG: @talktantratome

Keywords

Sacred Sex Ed, Tantra, Sexuality, Relationships, Open Relationships, Vulnerability, Healing, Journal Prompts, SPREAD, Community

Takeaways

• Sacred sexuality can be made accessible and playful.
• Vulnerability is the birthplace of magic and love.
• Understanding your own desires is crucial for empowerment.
• The SPREAD framework helps create safety in intimate conversations.
• Self-trust is essential in navigating relationships.
• Tantra is about expansion and liberation.
• Journal prompts can lead to significant breakthroughs.
• Open relationships require clear communication and agreements.
• Exploring dark desires can be empowering when done safely.
• The integration of spirituality and sexuality is vital for healing.

Sound Bites

• "It was a very confronting experience."
• "I wanted to make sacred sexuality more accessible."
• "I am the contributor of this reality."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Sex Ed

03:07 The Journey of Writing the Book

05:59 Personal Experiences and Confrontations

09:14 Understanding Tantra and Vital Life Force Energy

11:58 The Role of Journal Prompts in Self-Discovery

15:14 Navigating Relationships and Authenticity

18:09 Exploring Open Relationships and Jealousy

21:10 The SPREAD Framework for Safer Sex Conversations

27:05 Addressing Taboo Fantasies and Desires

30:02 Finding Community and Play Parties

36:09 The Impact of Sacred Sex Ed

38:48 Future Parenting and Sex Education

01:07:58 Outro

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Meli and Liv explore the complex question of whether looks matter in society. They discuss individual perspectives on attractiveness, the role of energy and self-care in how we present ourselves, and the importance of authenticity versus external validation. The conversation delves into the journey of self-acceptance and the impact of self-love on attraction, while also addressing societal beauty standards and the dichotomy of beauty and intelligence. Ultimately, they emphasize that true beauty comes from making choices that align with one's authentic self and the power of self-care in enhancing attractiveness.

Keywords

looks, beauty, self-acceptance, authenticity, self-love, attraction, societal standards, personal experiences, body positivity, self-care

Takeaways

• Looks matter if that person says they matter.
• Self-perception influences how we present ourselves to the world.
• Energy and self-care significantly impact attractiveness.
• Authenticity is more important than conforming to societal standards.
• Self-love is essential for feeling beautiful and attracting others.
• The journey to self-acceptance is complex and personal.
• People can sense when someone is being authentic versus seeking validation.
• True beauty is an expression of one's authentic self.
• Making choices for oneself enhances attractiveness.
• The way we care for ourselves reflects in our physical appearance.

Sound Bites

• "Do looks actually matter?"
• "Looks matter if that person says they matter."
• "It's more of an energetic thing."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:35 The Question of Whether Looks Matter

02:51 The Subjectivity of Attractiveness

04:06 Authenticity and Self-Care in Appearance

07:39 Dressing for Love vs Dressing from Love

28:15 The Power of Authenticity and Self-Expression in Looks

37:08 Choosing What Feels Right for You

40:27 The Complexities of the Body Positivity Movement

43:24 True Beauty Comes from Authentic Choices

48:34 Acceptance and Non-Judgment in Body Positivity

51:14 Outro

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Summary

In this mini-episode, Liv and Meli discuss their experiences with codependency and how they have chosen to navigate it. Meli is working through her codependency triggers within a partnership, while Liv is choosing to work on it outside of a partnership. They emphasize the importance of willingness and mutual agreement in a partnership, as well as the need for self-reflection and self-acceptance. They also discuss the concept of clean fuel versus dirty fuel in relationships and the importance of staying soft and open. The key takeaways include having grace for oneself and one's partner, letting things be ugly, and staying soft and open in the process.

Keywords

codependency, partnership, triggers, willingness, mutual agreement, self-reflection, self-acceptance, clean fuel, dirty fuel, grace, staying soft, staying open

Takeaways

• Willingness and mutual agreement are important in navigating codependency within a partnership.
• Self-reflection and self-acceptance are crucial in working through codependency.
• The concept of clean fuel versus dirty fuel in relationships is important to consider.
• Staying soft and open is essential in the process of healing codependency.

Sound Bites

• "Let it be ugly."
• "I am the partner I seek"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:49 Choosing Different Paths: Inside vs Outside a Partnership

02:19 The Importance of Willingness and Mutual Agreement in Partnership

04:11 Recognizing and Setting Boundaries for Well-being

08:17 Clean Fuel vs Dirty Fuel: Offering Acts of Service without Expectations

09:31 Staying Soft and Having Grace for Oneself and Their Partner

31:20 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of the ego and its role in our lives. They explore the idea that the ego is not inherently bad, but rather a necessary part of being human. They emphasize the importance of understanding and integrating the ego, rather than trying to eradicate it. They also discuss the need for external validation and how it relates to the ego. Overall, they encourage listeners to have a healthy relationship with their ego and recognize its role in shaping their identity and experiences. The conversation explores the importance of recognizing and integrating the ego rather than trying to eradicate it. It emphasizes the need to give ourselves permission to have needs and ask for help. Making a mess and taking risks is encouraged as a way to break patterns and learn. The key takeaway is that it's okay to be imperfect and make mistakes, as long as we have the courage to clean up and learn from them.

Keywords

ego, human experience, survival mechanism, external validation, integration, needs, connection, love, ego, integration, needs, asking for help, making a mess, courage, imperfection, learning

Takeaways

• The ego is a survival mechanism that helps us navigate the human world.
• Trying to eradicate the ego is impossible and would mean eradicating our humanity.
• The ego is not inherently bad, but it can lead us astray when we become too attached to its demands.
• It's important to have a healthy relationship with the ego and recognize its role in shaping our identity and experiences.
• External validation is a basic human need, and it's okay to seek it.
• Understanding and integrating the ego is key to living a balanced and fulfilling life. Recognize and integrate the ego instead of trying to eradicate it
• Give yourself permission to have needs and ask for help
• Making a mess and taking risks is essential for growth and breaking patterns
• Embrace imperfection and have the courage to learn and clean up

Sound Bites

• "A more adaptive way of considering the ego is to look at it as a child."
• "We find the middle point where we can say, okay, if I look at my ego as a child, that doesn't quite understand how to approach life holistically yet because they haven't had enough experience."
• "Meditation is this beautiful place for the soul and the ego to meet and have a conversation."
• "I could start to hear the seven-year-old girl that really just wanted her mom to tell her that she's so proud of her."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Weird Mood

06:02 Viewing the Ego as a Child

07:55 Finding the Middle Point with the Ego

11:15 The Fallacy of Eradicating the Ego

15:31 Making an Ally of the Ego

18:54 The Dance Between Ego and External Validation

23:24 The Need for External Validation

27:28 Ego and Needs: Synonymous

32:08 Navigating Ego-Driven Needs

40:30 The Dance of Ego and Soul: Meeting Your Needs

42:47 Permission to Have Needs and Ask for Help

44:32 Breaking Patterns: Doing Something Different

48:17 The Beauty of Making a Mess and Being Incompetent

53:17 Self-Acceptance and Self-Compassion

55:57 Courage to Explore and Embrace All Aspects of Yourself

57:08 Outro

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Summary

The conversation explores the concept of conscious coping and the distinction between healthy and unhealthy coping strategies. The hosts share their personal experiences and discuss the importance of being conscious and intentional in our coping mechanisms. They emphasize that there is no coping mechanism that is inherently bad, but it's the intention and the relationship we have with it that determines its impact on our well-being. They also touch on the slippery slope of coping strategies and the need to stay aware of when a coping mechanism becomes maladaptive. Overall, the conversation encourages conscious coping and self-awareness in navigating challenging situations. Conscious coping involves being aware of our coping mechanisms and building consciousness around them. It's about understanding our relationship with substances and activities and making aligned choices based on our context and intentions. It's important to recognize that the energy behind our coping strategies is what matters, not the substances themselves. We can choose to engage in certain behaviors out of love for ourselves or out of a sense of lack, and it's crucial to be mindful of our intentions. It's okay to have human moments and indulge in coping strategies, as long as we maintain awareness and don't let them become the sole source of our well-being.

Keywords

conscious coping, healthy coping, unhealthy coping, intention, self-awareness, coping mechanisms, relationship with substances, aligned choices, intentions, energy, love for oneself, sense of lack, mindfulness, human moments

Takeaways

• Coping strategies can be both healthy and unhealthy, depending on our intention and relationship with them.
• There is no coping mechanism that is inherently bad; it's about how we use it and the impact it has on our well-being.
• Being conscious and intentional in our coping strategies can help us avoid maladaptive patterns and maintain a healthy balance.
• Self-awareness is key in determining whether a coping mechanism is serving us or causing harm. Conscious coping involves being aware of our coping mechanisms and making aligned choices based on our intentions and context.
• The energy behind our coping strategies is what matters, not the substances themselves.
• It's important to be mindful of our intentions and whether we are engaging in certain behaviors out of love for ourselves or out of a sense of lack.
• It's okay to have human moments and indulge in coping strategies, as long as we maintain awareness and don't let them become the sole source of our well-being.

Sound Bites

• "I hope that this lands with one, at least one person who's like, oh my God, I don't have to feel like a fucking psychopath for going through a similar experience."
• "Coping strategies may start out as a coping strategy and then transition into a lifestyle choice."
• "Having is evidence of wanting. If you consistently have an experience in your life where you feel like a piece of shit, you clearly want to feel like a piece of shit."
• "Is going to buy a giant boxed wine and chug that going to create that thing for me? Or, I can go get one glass of wine and have that experience."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences

06:12 Defining Coping and its Purpose

10:36 The Spectrum of Healthy and Unhealthy Coping

19:18 The Role of Internal Conflict in Coping

23:52 Conscious Coping and Evaluating Impact

30:07 Understanding Conscious Coping

33:42 The Impact of Substance Use

36:50 Identifying Unhealthy Coping Patterns

41:28 Finding Healthier Coping Strategies

53:48 Outro

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