• 155 A New Year, An Improved Self, A Better Marriage
    Jan 13 2025

    Do you think your marriage could improve if your spouse were different? Is it easier to look at their faults instead of considering your own? In this podcast episode, Ron Deal talks with co-authors of his new book, The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself. Terry and Sharon Hargraves and Nan Deal share how the book can help couples understand their part of marital distress, why they react the way they do, how to be more empowered constructively, and how to cultivate more loving and harmonious relationships as they understand themselves better and learn to relate to their partner as a companion.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Small Group Searchable Map
    • Email us for your chance to win a signed copy of The Mindful Marriage. blended@familylife.com
    • Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage
    • The Mindful Marriage Conference
    • Register for Blended & Blessed

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    56 mins
  • 154 From Their Perspective: Adjusting to a Bigger Family, Luke Landwer
    Dec 30 2024

    Luke Landwer was young when his parents divorced, and he enjoyed time with just his mom for many years. When she remarried to a man with six kids, the adjustments for Luke were many. At just 11 years old, his conversation with Ron Deal is insightful as he articulates how adjusting to new rules, a new house, new people, was a challenge. He yearns for more time with his dad, but distance prevents it at times. He recognizes the blessings of a large family, however, with step-grandparents who love him and siblings around who prevent the loneliness he experienced in days past.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Learn more about Ron & Nan Deal's new book: The Mindful Marriage
    • Watch Luke's Blended Family story on YouTube.
    • Give a year end tax deductible gift!
    • Join us in April for a marriage event just for couples in blended families.

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    25 mins
  • 153 From Their Perspective: Talking With A Young Adult, Amelia Dellaripa
    Dec 16 2024

    Living in a blended family as a young adult can bring challenges and blessings. For Amelia Dellaripa, it brings many more blessings. In this podcast episode, Ron Deal talks with Amelia about her blended family of seven and how they developed love and acceptance for one another over time.

    Amelia talks about how there was seldom any divisiveness or difficult interactions with her stepmom or stepbrother from the beginning. They were always welcoming toward her, and it seemed that everyone was on the same team and wanted to do their part in building relationships. Although she was young when her dad remarried and understanding new family dynamics was hard, she’s now thankful for her big, blended family.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Pre-order Ron & Nan Deal's new book: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself
    • Get organized with the Family Core App!
    • This Christmas, your gift will be doubled!
    • Upcoming events and resources
    • Join us in April for a marriage event just for couples in blended families.

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    35 mins
  • 152 From Their Perspective: Losing a Dad and Life with a Stepdad with Davis & Campbell Faulkner
    Dec 2 2024

    What’s it like to be a teenager in a blended family? How do you manage the confusing emotions of your childhood and teenage years while also adjusting to new family dynamics? Davis and Campbell Faulkner lost their dad in a traffic accident when they were very young. Their mom remarried and they’ve navigated feelings of loss, fear, anxiety, grief, abandonment, and more as they’ve adjusted to a new stepdad and life in a blended family. Listen to their insightful conversation with Ron Deal and learn how they’ve coped and found gratitude for their current journey in the midst of loss.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Pre-order Ron & Nan Deal's new book: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself
    • Double your year end gift to FamilyLife Blended.
    • List of counselors and coaches
    • Upcoming events and resources
    • Please send your comments! blended@familylife.com
    • Join us in April for a marriage event just for couples in blended families.

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    50 mins
  • 151 Practicing Gratitude in Your Blended Family
    Nov 18 2024

    Gratitude doesn’t always happen naturally in blended families, but it is worth pursuing and can move us toward unity in relationships. As we take every thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5), consider our perspective about the circumstances we find ourselves in, and allow ourselves to be transformed by the renewing of our minds (Romans 12:2), we posture ourselves toward an obedient heart that discovers blessings, even in hard seasons.

    In this podcast episode, Ron Deal and Gayla Grace talk about intentional ways to create a heart full of gratitude that pursues love with others and more easily moves our relationships toward connectedness.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
    • Sign up for the Strengthening Stepfamilies Newslettter
    • Find Smart Stepfamily Therapists and Coaches
    • Consider supporting ministry to blended families with a tax deductible gift.
    • Join us in April for a marriage event just for couples in blended families.

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    33 mins
  • 150 Parenting Foster Kids & Adopted Kids
    Nov 4 2024

    Foster care and adoption present difficult dynamics with issues similar to blended families. How do you help a child cope with ambiguous loss or connect as a parent when children act out from prior wounds? The loss that results from separation from a first family carries deep wounds that manifest themselves in misbehavior. Many children can’t verbalize their hurts, and families don’t have access to all the pieces of the puzzle. Love isn’t enough to fix the brokenness in a child, particularly when trauma is part of the story. Listen to Ron Deal's conversation with Jenni Lord for answers to these complex issues.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Pre- order Ron's new book: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself
    • Learn more about Jenni and Chosen
    • Ron's speaking schedule
    • Get our monthly newsletter
    • Learn more about blended family resources
    • Get The Summit on Stepfamily Ministry, All-Access Digital Pass

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    54 mins
  • 149 A Special Edition: Growing Up Blended After Parental Loss: Laura Husband
    Oct 21 2024

    Laura Husband, daughter of Columbia astronaut Rick Husband, was 12 years old when she endured her dad’s very public death. Laura shares with Ron Deal the layers of grief that followed with the lingering effects and expectations after an astronaut dies. When her mom began dating three years later, she felt abandoned and without a voice to the changes in her life. Her mom later remarried and Laura began an adjustment to blended family life with her new stepdad, Bill. Laura shares the loving relationship she and Bill eventually formed and how Bill chose a path, separate from her dad, that drew her in.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Get the Summit All-Access Pass
    • Pre- order Ron's new book: The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself
    • The list of Smart Stepfamily therapists and coaches.
    • Consider supporting resources for blended families with a tax deductible gift.

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    54 mins
  • 148 Dealing With A Narcissist
    Oct 7 2024

    How do you identify narcissism or cope with a narcissist? Ron Deal talks with counselor Laurel Slade-Waggoner about strategies in a relationship when someone seeks to control, manipulate, shift blame, gaslight, or behave in other narcissistic ways.

    Show Notes and Resources

    • Check out Laurel's website and available books.
    • Laurel's Podcast
    • Join us for the Summit on Stepfamily Ministry!
    • Ron's comprehensive list of Recognized Smart Stepfamily Therapy Providers
    • Check out everything FamilyLife Blended has to offer.
    • Send in a tax deductible gift to the FamilyLife Blended Team.

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    44 mins