You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. Even if you can’t see it now, even if it feels like your partner is the main shaper of how you feel in your relationship, even if it seems like you are often emotionally at the effect of the world. YOU, in fact, are the #1 source of your own emotions.

This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It’s time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency. (Think of this as a follow-up episode to the last episode, Emotional Delegation 101. Although they go together, you can listen to either one first.)

In this episode, you’ll delve deep into the details of where your emotions really come from (likely not where you’ve always assumed they come from). And you’ll hear many concrete examples to illustrate this essential teaching and make it clear as daylight, so you can:

• develop a whole new, way more empowered relationship with your emotions.
• start to soften, influence, and guide your emotions, regardless of outside circumstances
• Start to feel way less disappointment, resentment, frustration and upset, and WAY MORE ease, love, lightness, and closeness, so you can naturally make your marriage how you want it to be.

It all starts by being truly open to understanding the real source of your feelings. Everything will get better once you really understand and live this. So dig in to really get this life and love-transforming understanding.

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192 If there has been one major underlying concept that I have woven into nearly every episode of this podcast, it is the concept of emotional delegation (or its opposite, emotional agency). BUT I’ve never made a podcast episode solely dedicated to making sure you understand this concept. So today is the day!

I made this episode to clearly define emotional delegation for you, and help you see how it may be playing into your relationship challenges, and so you can start the journey of letting it go — because it is really the #1 underlying habit that pretty much EVERYONE falls into that hurts our relationships (and you're not going to hear about on many other relationship podcasts. I truly can’t understand why this gets left out so often, because it is pretty much everything when it comes to marriage problems!)

So listen in to learn:

• What emotional delegation is and how it completely disempowers you in your relationship.
• Where emotional delegation comes from (hint, both nature and nurture) and why pretty much everyone does it.
• Signs of what it looks like, so you can recognize if you may have this habit.
• Why understanding it is so important.
• Why emotional delegation is so detrimental, and the specific tolls that it takes on you and your relationship.
• My own personal stories of how it has affected me and my relationships.
• And what happens when you learn to stop emotional delegating, and step into its opposite: emotional agency.

As you recognize that you are emotionally delegating, you hand yourself, and your marriage, a huge win. When you stop doing it, and begin to step into emotional agency, instead, you empower yourself even more, and give your relationship the very best chance to become the truly loving one you have always wanted. So don't miss this essential episode.

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Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.

See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.

ENJOYING THE SHOW?

• Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!
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191 Vulnerability is the secret magic sauce that makes for the best, most connecting communication in your relationship– and today you are going to learn all about it!

You’ll hear:

• What vulnerability actually is
• Why it is so magic in relationship
• specific examples of what communicating vulnerably looks like, along with when to lean into using it,
• Why you may not be being vulnerable when you most need to be
• What that costs you and your relationship
• And, of course, what it takes to truly BE vulnerable in your communications, including the most foundational ingredient to harness the beautiful power of vulnerability.

The truth is, despite the great heart-opening power of vulnerability to create that deep close loving intimacy you want, it doesn't come that naturally to many of us as HSPs.

So tune in now to hear how to make it easier and more natural, so you can reap the huge benefits you will feel in your marriage when you communicate in a more vulnerable way.

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Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship here. Doors close June 22nd, 2025 .

ENJOYING THE SHOW?

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