Morning Mantra: “If you’re always having to be the bigger person, maybe you shouldn’t be around little minded people.”

Too often “being the bigger person“ is misinterpreted to mean we must put up with poor treatment from others, or to accept scraps from their table. You don’t have to be the bigger person if someone is mistreating you, and does so regularly, it’s time to move on.

You don’t have to be the more empathetic, more compassionate, more understanding, or more mindful person. You do not have to try to understand their behavior. What you need to do is disengage and take space away from it.

It’s not your job to make other people feel more comfortable about treating you poorly.
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Morning Mantra: “People who run from their own feelings will run from yours too.”

People who lack accountability will often avoid responsibility for the relationship and shift the blame to you. Manipulation is when they get upset with you every time you tell them what they did that hurt you. Because they lack accountability, they will create a made-up narrative about you so they don’t feel bad about themselves.

Remember, it is not your responsibility to teach them how to apologize, how to take accountability, or how to treat you with respect. These are basic qualities they should already possess before entering a relationship.

Learn to say, “That’s on you.”
“Your behavior is on you.”
“The choices you make are on you.”
“The way you live is on you.”
“The pain you cause is on you.”

Stop absorbing the pain of other people and recognize what belongs to you and what doesn’t. They have no incentive to change as long as you tolerate and enable their deficits at your expense.

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Morning Mantra: “When we avoid difficult conversations we are not keeping the peace, we are keeping the tension.”

We tend to not have difficult conversations because we want to avoid making things worse, or we are worried about hurting the relationship. But, when we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short term discomfort for long-term dysfunction.

Healthy adults talk about problems, they look for solutions. When people hurt us, we communicate with compassion, directly and tactfully. We believe in our truth and understand that no connection will last if people hold in all their anger, pain, resentment, and misunderstandings.

People avoid uncomfortable conversations to “keep the peace “ but peace isn’t the goal of a relationship, love is. And when we love someone, we have the hard conversation in service of that love.

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Quotes: Sylvester McNutt III