LOV: Successfully Navigating Life's Transitions: Torment What's Tormenting YOU!

Hi Leaders of Valor (LOV),

We all go through life transitions. They are inevitable. They will happen to all of us regardless of race, ethnicity, how we identify, education level, social status, or political party affiliation. Transitions are inevitable.

One of the ways I've learned to successfully navigate life's transitions is to torment what's tormenting me! If it is a financial torment, I give to others who are less blessed. If I'm anxious about a business contract, I help others with theirs. If I feel stressed about an upcoming conference, I seek out and help other speakers perfect their routine! I am consciously trying to torment what torments me.

I want to invite you to do the same. What does this do? It takes the constant "my circumstances are horrific " mindset off of us and let's focus on other people and their needs for a moment. I believe "I just happened to meet someone who is going through it as well" moments that we go through are Divinely orchestrated and, if navigated appropriately, can help us successfully get through our own situations in the midst of helping others.

Let's plan to Torment What's Tormenting US! I have seen great results from it and I bet you will as well.

Remember to live for purpose, in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose. Be blessed.

Dr. Trin

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Y'all remember when parents didn't have to constantly answer the question "but why?" Y'all remember the look you would get when you questioned something they told you?" I surely remember the look I received many times after asking, questioning, and requizzing my parents on something they already told me. I also remember the halting words that would freeze all of my questions in their place: "Because I said so!" Now, I know things are different today. This timeless phrase still works though. Try it! Its rough sometimes to see the rainbow because all we see are clouds. Why try? Today, I was reminded of why I should keep believing, keep trusting, keep preparing, keep showing, up, and keep planning even when things do not look like I will conquer all. I hope this blesses and encourages you as well. Many of us have been waiting for "our moment." Whether it is a new baby that GOD has promised, a promotion, a new home, a nod of approval or acknowledgment from our boss for a job well done, a recognition of improvement from a spouse, or otherwise, we must remember that what HE Promised will come to pass! In Genesis 22:16, GOD told Abraham that HE swore by HIS Own Name that HE would surely bless him and do what HE Promised. Now, there's no Name greater to promise by, so The LORD put all of it on HIMSELF when HE said, "I swear by My Own NAME..." That means, Abraham could believe it was done. HIS Promise was not solely for Abraham, though. Abraham was simply an example to us all. That Word is as good for us as it was back then. If GOD has Promised you something and you continue to believe and move forward in faith, it's already done. Prepare for the baby. Start picking out nursery colors! You already have the promotion. Take certification courses so you can be ready. The loan is approved. Start picking out homesite lots and furniture! The clients are already talking about you. What suit will you wear to the first meeting? Move like it's done! When ou move, HE moves. So, the next time you wonder, "Why should I believe this and do all of this work on a promise that hasn't produced yet," or "why would I be the one to receive that promotion," "why would they pick me over all of the other options out there," or "why would I think I could ever be a parent," remember GOD is saying, "Because I said so!" Remember to live for purpose, in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose. Be blessed. Dr. Trin

Hi Leaders of Valor (LOV),

If you are like me, you may dwell on an argument, a disagreement, or someone's untoward behavior for hours, days, weeks, months, or even years after the occurrence. Whether I dwell on it because I wished I would have said more or harsher words in that moment or even if I wished I did more to hurt the other person's ego, I have often replayed events for days...and days...and days until those days became weels, months, and yesrs of wasted time. Have you done the same?

As I replayed a recent event of such magnitude, I rehearsed the "next time I'll say..." moments. During that incident, I was reminded by GOD that time spent dwelling on things that do not matter are a waste of precious moments and time I'll never get back. GOD asked me, "If your life ended today, would this incident matter?" HE knew the answer, yet the question was for my growth. At that moment, I vowed to try my best to let the little things pass me by without giving a person, a situation, or an inappropriate interaction the power to dictate the course of my day. That's not a power I'm willing to hand to situations and people who don't matter in the big scheme of things because those issues or people won't matter when I'm living my last moments on Earth. They cannot have that power!

What about you? Think about it: How much time have you spent on things that were insignificant? How much power have you given people who aren't important? How much time have you wasted by focusing on issues that were not worthy of the limited yet most precious resource we've been gifted - TIME?

Let's vow to do as Moses said in Psalm 90. We must remember the brevity of life and number our days so that we may grow in wisdom. That means refusing to let unnecessary drama and people control our hours, days weeks months, and years. If today was your last day on Earth, what would a review of this day show? Use time wisely. We have so little of it. Don't waste time on frustrations and situations that won't matter when we close our eyes. There are many more important things to do with our time.

Remember to live for purpose, in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose. Be blessed.

Dr. Trin

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Hi LOV (Leaders of Valor), Are you in a process of waiting that often results in a lack of desire to keep moving forward - to keep believing - to keep praying - to keep working diligently - to keep fighting for what you were promised? If you are, you are not alone. Some of us go to work each day and do our very best to get our tasks accomplished with great results only to be overlooked by those we work for and with in our organizations. Some of us take care of others who seem to be nonchalant about our time, our efforts, and our generosity. Many of us have prayed for outcomes of great health, healing, and physical wellness for our family members and for ourselves only to watch the steady decline of health or the untimely death of a loved one. Many of us have watched the craziness of the world result in even more craziness in all circles of life only to wonder, "what is all of this work, suffering, dedication, kindness, and diligence for if the result will be more pain and hatred towards me and my loved ones?" I would venture to say that most of us have dealt with some of these issues in one area or life or multiple areas of life. These issues may have caused me and I'm guessing many of you to ask, "what's the point?" "Is the work of my hands futile?" The prophet Isaiah also felt this way at one point in his ministry. He heard from GOD and was told what he was going to see happen as a result of his ministry. After many years of doing what he was directed to do without any positive response from those he ministered to, he finally stated, "but the work of my hands seem useless" (Isaiah 49:3)...just as some of us have felt. For some of us and many who have gone before us, we may often feel that we're wasting time doing what we've been instructed to do:

Do your best at everything you're assigned

Do your best at raising the kids

Do your best at serving your community

Do your best to be a great friend

Do your best at being the best husband to your wife

Do your best at working on the project you've been "gifted"

Do your best at living a life of service to others

Do your best to support your husband

Do your best to support our aging parents

Do your best to believe that you will be healed from the diagnosis

....and on....and on....and on!

We may feel like quitting and retreating, yet hold on. Don't leave quite yet. There's another part of the verse in Isaiah 49:3 that hasn't been introduced yet. Isaiah goes on to say, "...yet I leave it all in the LORD's Hand; I will trust GOD for my reward. (NLT).

When the promotion doesn't come as quickly as expected, keep doing your best

When the baby doesn't come on your time table, keep preparing for her

When the illness doesn't let up, keep believing it will

When your kids are not grateful that you gave up your dreams to fund theirs, keep sacrificing

When you're overlooked after dedicating your life to serving others, keep serving When your wife doesn't say "thank you," keep providing

When your husband doesn't keep the "date night" promises, keep getting dressed for the dates

Why would we continue to do what hasn't yielded positive results? Well, the answer is in Isaiah 49:8 - Because of our efforts, "at just the right time," GOD will make it happen! HIS timing is not our timing, but HIS timing is perfect. Just keep working, believing, and fighting for what was promised. Let's not let life make us tap out before the promises become reality! Who knows if the next attempt will be the one that ushers in our reward for our faithfulness? Keep believing! It will happen, At Just the Right Time!

Remember to live for purpose, in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose.

Be blessed,

Dr. Trin

www.trimaniconsulting.com

Hi LOV (Leaders of Valor), I pray all is well. Are you in a season of waiting and you're now wondering if your dreams will ever become reality? If you are, you're not alone. Many of us face times of waiting, wondering, hoping, and even discouragement when it comes to something we really want to happen or something that has been promised to us. Whether it is a promotion, a raise, becoming a father or mother, or getting into the school of our dreams, the wait can often bring doubt, especially when the wait seems to take years instead of days. In this world of "instant success" and quick gratification, waiting seems like a four-letter word, doesn't it? Who wants to wait when Amazon Prime promises I can get whatever I want within a matter of hours (and often times that is too long)? I'm reminded of the story of Abraham and Sarah, an older couple in The Bible who were promised a son would be born in their latter years of life. This couple waited....and waited....and waited for what seemed like forever. They deduced that GOD had forgotten about the promise and they decided to take matters into their own hands. They went with Plan B (getting their servant to bear a child for them) because it seemed like a sure thing! This caused a lot of turmoil in their household, as we'd imagine. They were tired of the wait, as many of us are. GOD did provide the child HE promised, yet the damage caused by their back up plan was something that has lasted throughout the ages. I want to remind us to hold on and not to concoct plan B when GOD promised us something greater than anything we could imagine. If it seems slow in coming - wait for it. If it hasn't happened yet, wait for it. If all of our friends are being honored and promoted, wait for it. If we are tired of going to gender reveal parties that we are not the guests of honor at, wait for it. If the apartment is too small and we want that house NOW, wait for it. GOD will stand by HIS Word. HE will make it happen for us...just as HE promised. Dont get tired of serving, praising, and clapping for others because your day is coming. Wait for it! Remember to live for purpose, in purpose, on purpose, and with purpose. Be blessed! Dr. Trin #LeadersOfVal www.trimaniconsulting.com