Yes, this is Tim and Pilar's last episode, so we talk about moving on and the importance of wrapping things up.

Interview with Andy Gotts photographer that Pilar mentions:

https://youtu.be/G0CF6FKR1qk?si=xLp_OSTjvcAlXULj

Find out more about Pilar and Bree’s book on loneliness in remote teams: https://www.virtualnotdistant.com/coming-soon

In this episode, hosts Tim Burgess and Pilar Orti talk about the dangers of being a perfectionist when managing a team, and why it's different to being a perfectionist individual contributor.
(And you'll hear for yourself how neither Tim nor Pilar are perfectionists...)

Hosts Tim Burgess and Pilar Orti have a good chat about the nature of loyalty, who we should be loyal to at work and what happens when we get the balance wrong.

Have an excellent start to 2025 - from Tim and Pilar.
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Who knew that talking about pessimism could be so much fun... even if most of the laughter is self-deprecating. In today's episode, hosts Tim Burgess and Pilar Orti talk about what happens when we let our "inner pessimist" come through.

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The new series on Manager Mindsets starts with a discussion of comparison.

Comparison is unavoidable, especially in the age of social media. It can feed difficult and unpleasant emotions like doubt, jealousy and imposter syndrome. Indeed, someone once said “Comparison is the thief of joy”. And if we aren’t careful comparison can even tempt us into mindlessly copying others, which takes us away from our own unique path.

But in many aspects comparison can be helpful. It can be wonderfully motivating. It can show us what can be improved and help us understand what we value. It can even expand our concept of what is possible.

The challenge for managers is how to have a healthy relationship with comparison and what can we do to combat it’s less helpful manifestations…

02:30 Tim describes how he struggles with comparison, especially the contrast between his own struggles versus the dazzling successes that his peers post online.

3:45 Pilar and Tim share strategies for how they manage comparison and envy.

6:15 It’s important to view other’s achievements in context. We often underestimate the other person’s effort or how their circumstances are different to ours.

8:00 Comparison is somewhat unavoidable and can also be very healthy.

13:15 We should avoid using comparison as in order to mindlessly copy what others are doing? Can we avoid putting ourselves above or below what we’re comparing against? Can we use comparison as a helpful tool for curiosity and learning?

13:50 It can take quite a lot of mental effort to let go of comparison and feel comfortable that your journey is the best pathway for you.

15:00 In the era of social media and LinkedIn, it’s very hard to avoid comparison because it gets pushed at you.

16:40 Comparison can fuel competitiveness.

17:30 If we can detach our judgement from comparison then it can teach us things that we want but don’t have. And it can help us work out if we want to change.

10:00 Pilar shares an excellent story from her theatre days of how comparison without awareness can threaten our individuality.

19:00 As managers, we can really help our team when we see them struggling with comparison. Helping somebody explore why they’re comparing and finding out what’s helpful or unhelpful to them about those comparisons can be huge.

20:45 Tim shares how comparison had positive impacts on his development. There have been individuals, managers and companies that he admired and wanted to emulate. Comparison was helpful in showing a desired end state and also what needed to change in order to get there.

21:45 There can also be a danger of complacency or arrogance when we compare ourselves against others who we think are below our level.

23:45 Our hosts end the episode excited about their next topic for discussion… pessimism!

What about you, dear listener? Do you find comparison mostly helpful or harmful in your management practice? We’d love to hear from you!

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As co-hosts Tim Burgess and Pilar Orti wrap up the Manager Emotions series, they explain why they're moving onto mindset, and how this is different from cognitivie tendencies (and why they might well be mixing the two up!). Plus, some feedback on our episode on Emotional Contagion, and Pilar shares an episode from Workplace Geeks where one of her connections talks about living with long-covid and how this affects her work life. https://www.audiem.io/podcasts/work-life-and-long-covid

Get in touch with Pilar and Tim through the https://managementcafepodcast.com/contact/

Our hosts Tim Burgess and Pilar Orti talk about the many times they've been confused, the difficulties in feeling the emotion as individual and manager, and what happens when a team member becomes confused.