In this heartfelt episode of 5 Year You, Andrew and Catherine take on the delicate topic of anger—how it manifests, why it’s often misunderstood, and how to manage it constructively. They share personal experiences, reflect on their individual relationships with anger, and discuss the importance of self-awareness and healthy outlets. Whether you’re prone to bottling emotions or experiencing explosive outbursts, this episode provides practical strategies for dealing with anger in ways that foster growth and maintain harmony.

• Understanding Anger: How anger is a natural emotion but requires thoughtful management.
• Self-Awareness Cues: Recognizing physical and emotional signs that anger is building.
• Healthy Outlets for Release: Practical tools like exercise, breathing techniques, and creative outlets for managing anger.
• Boundaries and Communication: How to let others know where you’re at emotionally to prevent escalation.
• Releasing the Pressure: Andrew’s Instant Pot analogy for anger management and why it’s important to find controlled ways to let emotions out.

1. Identify Triggers: Reflect on situations or behaviors that tend to ignite anger and start recognizing early cues.
2. Practice Deep Breathing: Use techniques like box breathing to calm your body and mind.
3. Create Healthy Habits: Incorporate regular exercise, journaling, or mindfulness practices to prevent anger from building.
4. Set Emotional Boundaries: Share where you are emotionally with those around you to create understanding and space.
5. Seek Connection: Talk to a trusted friend or therapist to work through unresolved anger.

• "You can feel however you want, but you can’t act however you want."
• "Anger is just an emotion; it’s not bad. What matters is how we choose to handle it."
• "Thirty minutes alone can be transformative—I call it my recharge time."
• "You deserve to have a calm life, and that starts with managing your emotions."
• "Being self-aware isn’t a destination; it’s an ongoing practice."

• "Anger is energy that needs to go somewhere—if it doesn’t, it festers inside."
• "The Instant Pot analogy: release your emotions gradually, or they’ll explode."
• "Deep breaths aren’t about fixing anger; they’re about creating space to respond better."
• "Helping someone else when you’re angry can shift your mood entirely."
• "Doing good feels good—it’s a great way to redirect your emotional state."

• Catherine: Attending her first hockey game and watching Wicked during a Thanksgiving trip to Canada with Andrew.
• Andrew: Spending American Thanksgiving with Catherine, enjoying shared meals and creating new traditions.

• The Anger Management Workbook for Women by Julie Catalano – A practical guide for understanding and managing anger.
• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – A deeper dive into how unresolved emotions impact the body.