Summary:

In this powerful first New Year episode, Rita guides listeners through a process of identifying and releasing limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and codependent behaviors that no longer serve them. She explores how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and societal programming. Rita shares practical tools for forgiveness, self-reflection, and creating empowering new beliefs. She also recites the beautiful and thought-provoking poem “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk” by Portia Nelson, offering it as a metaphor for transformation. Tune in to start your 2025 with clarity, courage, and empowered action!

Timestamps:

[02:20] Why We Hold Ourselves Back

• Understanding the meaning we assign to events and how it shapes our behaviors (people-pleasing, perfectionism, etc.).

[09:30] The Power of Self-Awareness

[14:20] Shifting Limiting Beliefs and Taking Ownership

[26:10] Forgiveness as Freedom

• Rita’s unique take on forgiveness & the Ho’oponopono process for releasing resentment.

[33:10] Practical Tools for Releasing What No Longer Serves You

[40:20] Poem: “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk” by Portia Nelson

• A beautiful metaphor for personal transformation and self-awareness.

[43:00] Closing Thoughts: Start 2025 with Clarity and Courage

Key Takeaways:

• Identify limiting beliefs: Many of these beliefs are rooted in childhood experiences and societal conditioning.
• Awareness is the first step: Recognizing patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and judgment allows you to begin shifting them.
• Forgiveness is freedom: Forgiving yourself and others releases you from negative energy and limiting beliefs.

Resources:
Registration is open! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

• 2025 Vision Workshop - Date: Wednesday, January 29, 4-6 PM PST

This live workshop will help you get clear on your goals and create an actionable plan for 2025!

• NEW! - Meditation on Manifesting Abundance CLICK HERE
• CLICK HERE: Mastermind Waitlist - A high-vibe group for women entrepreneurs ready to step into their next version emotionally, spiritually, and financially.
• Portia Nelson’s Poem: “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk”
• Louise Hay’s Affirmation - From “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay
• Ho’oponopono Forgiveness Process: Ho’oponopono Guided Practice on YouTube A traditional Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.

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Summary

In this episode Rita dives deep into the powerful and transformational concept of the Drama Triangle. She explores how unconscious cycles of victimhood, rescuing, and bullying hold us back in relationships, business, and our internal dialogue. Through personal anecdotes, coaching examples, and actionable tools, Rita guides listeners on how to shift from these disempowered roles into the Empowerment Triangle, where we become creators, coaches, and challengers. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to release blame, shame, and self-sabotaging patterns to step into radical responsibility and joy.

Timestamps

0:00 - Welcome and Introduction
1:30 - Why the Drama Triangle Matters: Breaking Dysfunctional Cycles
3:45 - The Weight of Negative Self-Talk and Stories We Carry
8:30 - Rita’s Journey: From Lack and Scarcity to Abundance
13:10 - The Drama Triangle Explained: Victim, Rescuer, Bully
17:55 - Coaching Example: A Mother and Daughter Dynamic in the Drama Triangle
22:30 - How Victimhood and Rescuing Play Out in Our Relationships
29:30 - Negative Internal Dialogue: Blame, Judgments, and Self-Sabotage
36:40 - Conscious Choice: Shifting from Reacting to Responding
38:00 - The Empowerment Triangle: Co-Creator, Coach, Challenger
41:20 - Using Challenges as Opportunities for Growth
46:00 - Leadership Skills and Emotional Mastery
50:30 - Advancing Consciousness: Healing Your Patterns to Heal the World
53:00 - Final Takeaways and Action Steps

Key Takeaways

1. The Drama Triangle Roles:
   • Victim: Feeling powerless and stuck.
   • Rescuer: Overstepping boundaries to "fix" others.
   • Bully: Judging, shaming, or blaming self or others.
2. The Empowerment Triangle:
   • Shift from victim to creator (ownership and solutions).
   • Move from rescuer to coach (support without enabling).
   • Transform from bully to challenger (seeing challenges as opportunities for growth).
3. The Power of Conscious Choice:
   • Pause, breathe, and reflect when triggered.
   • Respond instead of reacting: E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome).
4. Self-Awareness Leads to Freedom:
   • Notice where you show up as victim, rescuer, or bully in your relationships and self-talk.
   • Take radical responsibility for your patterns and choices.
5. Growth Heals the World:
   • Every time you shift into empowerment, you heal yourself and contribute to the collective consciousness.

Ready to break free from blame and step into your empowered self? I’m now accepting applications for 1:1 coaching! Head over to my website at https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com to book a call and take the first step toward radical transformation.

Let’s grow together, one empowered choice at a time. 🌟

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of The Stop Bending Over Podcast, Rita explores the transformative power of self-awareness, integrity, and radical honesty in leadership and personal growth. She shares personal stories about standing in integrity, taking responsibility, and reframing negative meanings assigned to life experiences. The focus is on how shifting perceptions and embracing accountability can lead to breakthroughs in business and personal life. Practical steps and reflective questions are provided to help listeners embody their highest potential and take quantum leaps toward success.

In This Episode:

1. The importance of integrity and radical honesty in leadership and life.
2. How blaming and complaining keep you stuck in the Drama Triangle.
3. The role of meaning-making in shaping your reality.
4. Practical steps for reframing negative stories and stepping into accountability.
5. Embodying your highest self to achieve quantum leaps in growth and success.

Practical Steps:

• Identify where you are assigning negative meaning.
• Reframe limiting beliefs with empowering perspectives.
• Take ownership of your results as proof of your commitments.
• Develop a daily habit of pausing and asking, "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

1. Where in your life are you blaming or complaining?
2. How can you reclaim your power by taking responsibility for your role in the situation?
3. What old story about yourself or someone else is holding you back?
4. What would it look like to let go of that story?
5. How can you embody the next iteration of your highest self today?

Resources:

• Journal Prompt: "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"
• Journal Prompt: "Where am I holding onto an old story about myself or someone else, and what would it look like to let that story go?"
• For coaching inquiries: Visit [Rita's Website] or schedule a call.

Timestamps:

• [00:00] - Opening quote by George Bernard Shaw: The true joy of life.
• [01:02] - Introduction and personal updates.
• [03:21] - The significance of radical honesty and taking responsibility.
• [05:45] - Recognizing triggers and reframing negative experiences.
• [09:35] - Choosing higher integrity to unlock business and personal growth.
• [12:39] - Sisyphus metaphor: Breaking free from repetitive cycles.
• [15:04] - Practical steps to embody integrity and accountability.
• [19:45] - Bridging differences with compassion and shared values.
• [24:34] - Visualizing and stepping into your highest self.
• [29:17] - Shifting from "hard" stories to empowered mindsets.
• [31:42] - Closing reflections, journal prompts, and coaching opportunities.

Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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Rita's Website: Go to the Website
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