That's Where I'm At

By: Laura Richards
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  • Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that’s messy, real, and truly inspiring!
    2023
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Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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Episodes
  • Are You Ready to Unsubscribe from What No Longer Serves You? With Barbara Siemen

    Are You Ready to Unsubscribe from What No Longer Serves You? With Barbara Siemen
    Apr 16 2025

    Barbara Siemen is a certified life coach, yoga instructor, and writer who helps others find their path to joy and fulfilled living. After a failed business endeavor and subsequent mental illness diagnosis in 2016 caused her to go into a major slump, Barbara questioned her life’s purpose. She devoted her time to unlearning what was holding her back and undoing the pain of her childhood trauma. It took over 5 years for her to follow the breadcrumbs but with the help of coaches, therapists, self-help books, spiritual tools, and her own intuition, she is now proud to be unsubscribed from all the things she doesn’t want in life, and making room for the things she does want in life.

    In this episode of the "That's Where I'm At" podcast, Barbara, a certified life coach, yoga instructor, and writer, shares her journey of healing from childhood trauma and the process of "unsubscribing" from negative influences. She discusses a rock-bottom moment that led her to seek help and embrace her true self, emphasizing the importance of living fearlessly and authentically. Host Laura, who has overcome a relationship with a narcissist, underscores the healing power of sharing women's stories. The episode centers on personal growth, healing from trauma, and the significance of setting boundaries and living authentically.


    Timestamps:

    (00:02:11) Barbara shares her background and the extensive work she did to heal from childhood trauma.

    (00:02:38) Barbara reflects on her rock bottom experience and the years it took to understand her past.

    (00:04:03) Importance of Curiosity Laura and Barbara discuss the significance of curiosity in personal growth and healing.

    (00:07:00) Creating a False Life, Barbara reflects on the disconnect between her curated online life and her true feelings.

    (00:07:19) Blog and Its Consequences,Barbara recounts the legal issues surrounding her blog and the stress it caused her family

    (00:17:12) Mind-body connection between emotional trauma and physical health issues.

    (00:19:32) Embracing Fearlessness Again ,rediscovering her fearless side and setting boundaries in her life and how self love played a part.

    (00:21:55) Raising Strong Women. Barbara discusses her commitment to raising her daughter as a strong, independent woman, avoiding the "doormat" mentality.

    (00:30:14) Mental Load of Women Laura and Barbara discuss the hidden burdens women carry and the need for self-care amidst societal expectations.

    Quotables:

    'It's really tough to stand and stare at yourself sometimes, you know, even completely naked, and then you look at your entire body and say loving things to your body. But to look in your own eyes in a mirror and say, "I love you, I really, really love you," that's hard. Some people can't do that for a while; it takes some time.' Barbara


    "I had to be done because narcissists are always right; everything's perfect. But if you look at their real life, you can see the truth." Laura


    RESOURCES:
    MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE

    PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources

    FOLLOW BARBARA:

    www.barbarasiemen.com

    https://www.instagram.com/barbarasiemen

    https://www.facebook.com/barbarasiemen
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    46 mins
  • Breaking Generational Cycles: Healing Trauma & Rewiring the Mind with Diane Konkin

    Breaking Generational Cycles: Healing Trauma & Rewiring the Mind with Diane Konkin
    Apr 2 2025

    In this powerful episode of That's Where I'm At, Laura sits down with Diane Konkin, a rapid transformational therapy (RTT) practitioner and self-sabotage expert. Diane shares her journey of supporting her late husband through addiction and bipolar disorder, her own healing process, and how she now helps others break free from intrusive emotions and self-limiting beliefs.

    Diane Konkin is the Founder and CEO of Advanced Mind Health, a virtual, no-repeat client therapy practice, specializing in helping professionals eliminate intrusive emotions, self-sabotage and substance use habits in only 1-3 sessions with a 99% success rate.

    Diane began her Rapid Transformational Therapy® practice after helping her late husband navigate through his 20 year struggle with bipolar and alcohol use disorder.

    RTT® is a new, advanced form of curative psychotherapy based on the latest research in neuroscience and is quickly gaining global recognition as one of the most effective treatments available.

    Key Topics Discussed:
    Breaking Generational Cycles: How trauma and behaviors are often passed down through generations and how we can be the ones to stop the cycle.

    The Power of the Mind: How our subconscious controls our actions, thoughts, and self-worth and how we can rewire it.

    Surviving and Thriving After Toxic Relationships: Diane and Laura discuss personal experiences with toxic relationships and the process of reclaiming personal power.

    Healing Through Hypnotherapy & RTT: How rapid transformational therapy works and why it can create lasting change in just 1-3 sessions.

    Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: Strategies to stop the inner critic and start self-praising to build confidence and self-love.

    The Emotional Burden of Caregiving: Diane’s personal story of caregiving for her husband and finding freedom after his passing.

    Importance of Emotional Release: How unexpressed emotions can manifest as physical illnesses and why allowing ourselves to grieve is crucial.

    Powerful Quotes from the Episode:
    "Our subconscious controls 95% of our behaviors. So, let’s start giving it the right instructions."

    "Your mind is like a taxi driver. If you don’t give it a destination, it will take you anywhere."

    "The words you say to yourself matter stop believing negative thoughts that don’t serve you."

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    RESOURCES:
    MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE

    PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/

    FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com

    BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards

    RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources

    FOLLOW DIANE:

    Website: https://advancedmindhealth.ca

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advancedmindhealth

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diane-konkin-88690a205
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    50 mins
  • Breaking Free of the Shoulds with Debbie Harrell

    Breaking Free of the Shoulds with Debbie Harrell
    Mar 19 2025
    Debbie Harrell is the vibrant force behind the New World Normal podcast—a space where questioning and disrupting societal norms is not just encouraged, it's the main event. As the host, Debbie dives into insightful conversations with guest experts and thought leaders, exploring how we can break free from norms that no longer serve us. In her coaching practice, Debbie is a guide for values-focused individuals ready to disrupt their personal norms. She empowers clients to challenge all of their "shoulds" and "have-tos," helping them align with their core principles rather than societal expectations. Beyond her biz, Debbie is a proud mom to two grown humans and caretaker of two rescued fur-babies. Nature, travel, and live music are her happy places, especially when they come together. Debbie's belief in the power of community is the driving force behind her podcast and community—providing comfort and connection in our often chaotic world. Because, in Debbie's view, embracing our similarities and collaborating as a collective offers the best chance for us all thriving in this crazy world. When we face life changes like divorce or a new job, uncertainty often follows. I would ask my friends what they wanted, and most didn't know. We've spent so much time following societal expectations that we're disconnected from our true desires. Today’s guest is Debbie from the New World Normal podcast, where she challenges societal norms and guides individuals to align their lives with personal values instead of society's demands. Debbie shares her journey into coaching—realizing she wasn't fulfilled despite doing everything expected of her led her to question life's transitions. She found herself asking others what they truly wanted when faced with similar uncertainties. Her own experiences—a challenging year marked by loss and trauma—prompted deep reflection on how past events impacted her well-being. Recognizing symptoms of trauma helped Debbie understand the importance of addressing these issues before reaching breaking points. We discuss recognizing signs that something might be wrong: feeling numb, relying on distractions like shopping or Netflix too heavily, or saying “that’s just who I am” as an excuse for behavior patterns developed for self-protection. The key takeaway is giving yourself permission to explore your feelings without waiting for major life disruptions as catalysts for change. Healing doesn't have to be overwhelming; it's about peeling back layers gently over time while seeking support through communities or professionals when needed. 3:13 Realizing we did all the “shoulds” we’re told to do. 04:06 Being caught on a treadmill of what we should do, and reflecting on what we actually want to do. 04:43 Hindsight on divorce & the transition 6:36 From podcasting to coaching 7:38 My Hero’s journey & an abrupt loss 08:58 The nation's largest mass shooting 00:15:46The comparison game about trauma 21:23 Feeling trapped in a relationship that leaves you questioning your worth and sanity? 29:07 Needing permission as an adult and borrowing courage 32:06 Oh, wait, who am I? Like, people don't want to hear from me. 33:04 Book recommendations 42:09 Reflections on becoming better Quotes : “We are not getting better for the sake of being better for ourselves. We're getting better for the sake of being better for the world around us. You know, like, it all ripples out. “ “Why do we have to wait for big life transitions? Why not start thinking about it now?” “If you’re feeling something was traumatic, it probably was.” If you are ready to questions some norms please schedule a free discovery call today! RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW DEBBIE: https://www.newworldnormal.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/newworldnormal_ Books Mentioned: Check out the list here: Laura's Bookstore Wild & Precious Life Sarah Wilson This One Wild and Precious Life: The Path Back to Connection in a Fractured World: Wilson, Sarah: 9780062962973: Amazon.com: Books Myth of Normal Gabor Mate’ Amazon.com: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture (Audible Audio Edition): Gabor Maté MD, Daniel Maté, Daniel Maté, Penguin Audio: Audible Books & Originals The Body Keeps the Score The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: van der Kolk M.D., Bessel: 9780143127741: Amazon.com: Books Untamed Glennon Doyle Amazon.com : untamed by glennon doyle Rest in Resistance Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto (Rest Is Resistance, 1): Hersey, Tricia: 9780316365215: Amazon.com: Books
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    42 mins
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