The beauty, weight loss, fashion, and entertainment industries project fantasies of success, often leaving people feeling inadequate. Comparing ourselves to wealthy actors, sports stars, or CEOs can amplify dissatisfaction with our own lives, making us wish we’d been born with better resources, opportunities, or advantages. However, dwelling on these thoughts isn’t productive; we aren’t going to be dealt a different hand in life.

While past mistakes, poor choices, or unfavorable circumstances may weigh us down, it’s essential to stop focusing on what we cannot change. Instead, shifting our energy toward what lies ahead helps us progress. Many get caught up in revisiting past errors, but to move forward, it’s crucial to leave those burdens behind and focus on present strengths and opportunities.

Moving forward means becoming our own "first responder." When disaster strikes, first responders act quickly to save lives. Similarly, no one will swoop in to rescue us, so we must act on our own behalf, developing a rescue plan to overcome mental barriers that limit us. While we can’t forget our past, we can stop letting it incapacitate us today. Worrying about past events doesn’t alter them. Instead, mentally “compartmentalize” these memories, so they don’t spill over into our present.

With the past contained, the next step is to focus on our strengths. One of the most significant assets anyone has is time. Whether spent productively or otherwise, time is ours to use, and how we spend it determines our future. By viewing time as a key resource, we can direct it toward building the life we want.

To use time effectively, set a clear vision for where you want to be. From there, identify specific, realistic goals and action steps. Progress may feel incremental, but with every action step, momentum builds, moving you closer to your vision. This process requires only a small amount of your most valuable asset—time—and yields a future crafted by your own efforts.

"The good is the enemy of the great" reminds us that competent speakers often fall short of their full potential, delivering presentations that are solid but forgettable. Many presenters lack that extra energy—the metaphorical "ten degrees of heat"—needed to elevate their talk from adequate to impactful.

An intelligent, prepared presenter can cover content, address questions, and complete their talk. Yet, without that added intensity, the presentation fades from the audience's memory almost instantly. The issue is usually a lackluster opening. When speakers start speaking at the same level as their pre-talk chatter, they fail to signal a shift to something meaningful, making it easy for the audience to remain passive.

Audiences arrive distracted, their minds already full, so the first words must forcefully capture attention. The beginning of a presentation should demand focus, with language that grabs listeners and prepares them to engage. Opening with a vivid story, an intriguing statistic, or a compelling quote can draw people in. These "hooks" are essential in creating a memorable experience.

This attention-grabbing start should also include physical tools like eye contact, voice modulation, and gestures. Using a strong voice and adding gesture strengthens the overall impact, forcing people to focus. Eye contact is essential, even with large audiences, as it creates a sense of connection and accountability. Directing focus to individuals for about six seconds at a time gives a sense of shared attention and purpose.

Physical positioning is another tool. Moving closer to the audience or adjusting posture to convey authority and warmth can amplify the connection. For example, standing over a seated crowd can add power to the speaker’s presence. These non-verbal cues, combined with vocal dynamics, engage the audience effectively.

Once a speaker has captivated the audience, the next task is maintaining that energy. Vocal variety, pauses for effect, and energy level must be sustained to prevent the talk from slipping into a monotone that loses attention. Pauses build anticipation and emphasize key points, making the talk more memorable.

A good start sets the tone for a powerful presentation. Sadly, many speakers start flat, stay flat, and finish flat, leaving audiences unimpressed and unengaged. Don’t let that be your presentation.

Action Steps

1. Recognize that audiences are often inattentive at first.
2. Understand you’re competing with short attention spans and various distractions.
3. Use a strong opening to grab attention.
4. Leverage voice, eye contact, body language, and positioning for impact.
5. A powerful beginning makes it easier to sustain energy throughout.

Hearing “no” isn’t easy, especially in sales. It’s a rejection we often react to emotionally, pushing harder in hopes of reversing the answer. However, immediately countering objections is usually ineffective, as this response is driven more by impulse than by strategy.

A better approach is to use a “cushion”—a neutral statement that buys a few seconds to regroup and keeps the conversation calm. For example, if a client says, “it’s too expensive,” respond with, “It’s important to have good budget management,” instead of jumping into a justification. This brief pause lets you refocus and prompts you to ask “why” instead, uncovering the real reasons behind the client’s objection.

Hearing a reason like “it’s too expensive” is often just a headline—surface-level feedback that may mask underlying concerns. Much like retail shoppers who claim they dislike a color to avoid revealing they can’t afford the item, buyers may deflect to avoid discussing their true reservations. Digging deeper is essential. Asking “Why is that a problem?” and probing further helps reveal their actual issues, and asking, “Are there other reasons?” ensures you’ve gathered all potential objections.

Once the main reason is identified, determine if it’s based on fact or misconception. False information may require a firm rebuttal backed by evidence. If the objection is legitimate—like delivery time issues tied to quality standards—acknowledge it, explain, and see if there’s a workaround.

In cases where finances are the concern, reframing your product as a solution to help improve their business can be effective. The key is addressing objections only after fully understanding the client’s perspective. Without this understanding, you risk wasting time on objections that don’t address their real concerns.

Ultimately, by pausing, asking strategic questions, and prioritizing key objections, you can either resolve the issue or determine that it’s best to move on to another client who can benefit from your offer.

Visionary leaders are often seen as motivators and guides, but to lead effectively, they must first have a clear vision for themselves. Many people offer sound advice to others while neglecting to apply it in their own lives, which can undermine their credibility as leaders. To be a visionary, one must back their vision with specific goals. Living an “intentional life” is a good starting point; it means choosing to accumulate meaningful experiences instead of drifting aimlessly through life.

Before focusing on a corporate vision, individuals should concentrate on their personal vision. If one’s life is disorganized, it’s difficult to inspire order in an organization. A future vision should reflect the life one desires: where to live, who to be with, and what fulfills and entertains them.

In the corporate world, significant resources are dedicated to defining a brand’s direction. Individuals should apply the same rigor to their personal branding. This involves envisioning the ideal location and style of one’s future home, including details about its color, design, and surroundings. By creating a vision book with images and words, one makes this vision more tangible.

To live intentionally, it’s essential to visualize objectives in detailed, concrete terms. This includes contemplating the person one aspires to become, relationships with others, travel experiences, preferred styles, and even choice of vehicle. Crafting a detailed picture of the desired future state helps solidify goals.

Once the vision is established, it’s crucial to set goals that align with this vision. Goal-setting is most effective when roles in life are considered. People often focus solely on professional objectives, neglecting their multifaceted nature. Each person plays various roles—spouse, parent, friend, etc.—and should establish corresponding goals in areas like finance, health, and personal development.

These goals must connect back to the personal vision. While the vision serves as the destination, goals are the vehicles that facilitate progress. Establishing a timeline for achieving the vision necessitates creating milestones for the goals to ensure accountability.

Zig Ziglar once said, “You can have everything in life you want if you will just help other people get what they want.” To be a visionary leader, one must assist others in realizing their goals. The first step is to get one’s own life in order. This focus will establish the leader’s credibility and capability to support their team’s ambitions. When leaders successfully help their teams achieve their goals, they foster cooperation and become true visionary leaders.

The saying goes that there are "lies, damn lies, and statistics," and in the world of presenting, an often misquoted statistic claims that 55% of audience impressions are based on appearance. While this stems from Professor Mehrabian's research at UCLA, it's crucial to understand the context: this percentage applies when the content and delivery of a presentation are incongruent. When a speaker's words don’t match their presentation style, audiences can become distracted, especially in today’s world filled with distractions like smartphones.

As speakers, it’s our responsibility to maintain audience engagement. High-energy presentations, which I strive to deliver, can generate heat, making clothing choices critical. For instance, I avoid wearing light blue shirts, as sweat can create a distracting two-tone effect. Instead, I prefer white shirts and always wear a jacket to maintain a professional appearance. The sight of a speaker with sweaty armpits is unappealing and distracting.

Proper fit is also essential. An ill-fitting suit can disrupt the audience's focus. I recommend avoiding bright jackets during presentations; they draw attention away from your message. Instead, keep the focus on your words.

When presenting on a panel, be mindful of your posture, especially with leg crossing. It can lead to awkward views of hairy legs or ankles. To avoid this, I wear long socks. While I enjoy bright ties, I choose muted options for presentations to prevent competing for attention with my face.

One of my pet peeves is when men allow gaps between the tie knot and shirt collar. This oversight can be distracting. I also shorten my tie length slightly so that it doesn’t peek out from under the jacket, which helps maintain a polished appearance.

Attention to footwear is also crucial. Shoes should be spotless and well-maintained; scuffed shoes convey a lack of professionalism. Ensure that your belt matches your shoes—brown with brown and black with black. Mismatched accessories can undermine your credibility.

Nametags, often made of distracting plastic, should not be worn while presenting. Instead, place them on the table or lectern to avoid visual distractions.

While this discussion primarily addresses men’s attire, similar principles apply to women. The key is to prioritize facial visibility over fashion, ensuring that nothing detracts from the power of your message.

Salespeople often fall into a rhythm of easing off as the year-end approaches, especially in Japan, where the fiscal year ends in March. This period, leading up to the holiday break, can see a decline in productivity that equates to 8% of the year. To maximize sales, it’s essential to maintain focus and activity through December.

One effective strategy is to reach out to existing customers. Even if they are currently utilizing some of our solutions, there are often additional products or services they may not yet have considered. To identify these opportunities, create an Opportunity Matrix, listing available solutions at the top and clients on the side. Use check marks to denote what clients are currently purchasing and mark potential sales chances as A, B, or C for follow-up discussions.

December is also an ideal time for prospecting, particularly by reconnecting with “orphans”—clients with whom you previously had a relationship but have since lost contact. Various factors, such as changes in personnel or economic conditions, may have caused these clients to drift away. Use this time to reach out, even if meetings may not occur until January.

Another crucial action is to identify look-alike targets—companies in the same industry as current clients that would likely have similar needs. Instead of random calls, conduct targeted outreach to these potential clients, leveraging existing industry knowledge to craft compelling opening conversations.

Finding the right decision-makers can be challenging, particularly in Japan, where information is not always readily available. Annual reports can provide insights into key personnel, while social media platforms like LinkedIn might also help, though penetration in Japan is relatively low. Utilize your network for referrals, and if necessary, refine your credibility statement to get past gatekeepers and reach decision-makers directly.

When communicating with potential clients, emphasize your experience with their competitors to strengthen your credibility. Present a general statement about your services, back it up with evidence of successful collaborations with similar companies, and assert your authority to command a direct connection to the decision-maker.

Ultimately, the goal is to expand the sales pipeline and maintain momentum through December, setting up meetings for the new year. In Japan, December, known as "shiwasu," signifies a busy time when teachers are on the move. Similarly, salespeople should stay active and focused as the year closes, ensuring a strong finish and a robust start to the new year.

Leaders often rely on “automatic trust,” stemming from their authority, to gain compliance from team members. However, achieving genuine, “earned trust” is crucial for fostering motivation and commitment within a team. Unlike automatic trust, earned trust develops through consistent, authentic interactions where leaders show integrity in both “talking the talk” and “walking the walk.” Without earned trust, delegation becomes risky, as leaders may feel their team won’t reliably handle tasks, which hampers time management and the team’s growth. Conversely, when trust is high, team members willingly give discretionary effort, displaying greater creativity, dedication, and initiative.

Building and maintaining earned trust requires time and steady effort. Leaders may inadvertently undermine trust by losing their temper, rejecting ideas without consideration, or failing to follow through on promises. Moreover, insufficient communication—where leaders focus on issuing orders instead of explaining, listening, or seeking input—can erode trust. Effective communication involves explaining the purpose of tasks, listening to team concerns, and fostering mutual understanding.

A significant challenge in cultivating trust is finding the time for these trust-building interactions amidst a busy schedule. Leaders who don’t delegate effectively often have less time to engage meaningfully with their team, leading to a vicious cycle of mistrust and lack of delegation. To break this loop, leaders must prioritize one-on-one time with team members, understanding their motivations, interests, fears, and goals. These personal insights allow leaders to align delegated tasks with individual career paths and developmental needs, building a sense of purpose and accountability within the team.

For successful delegation, it’s essential that leaders approach each task with their team member’s growth in mind, involving them in planning and monitoring progress. This process demands dedicated time, which may be easily deprioritized due to competing obligations, but committing to these conversations ultimately pays off by strengthening trust.

In sum, building trust is an ongoing process that requires leaders to change their mindset, habits, and time allocation. Rather than repeating the same experience annually, leaders must continually work to strengthen relationships with their team. Earned trust not only requires effort but is invaluable in elevating team cohesion, individual motivation, and collective success. Consistent attention to these trust-building efforts results in a lasting foundation of trust within the team.

Action Steps:

1. Recognize the difference between position-based and earned trust.
2. Develop delegation skills that foster growth.
3. Reflect on whether genuine communication is occurring.
4. Dedicate time to knowing your team deeply.

There is an abundance of definitions on what is charismatic leadership? The definition proffered during a recent webinar was uncontroversial and acceptable: emotional and intellectual engagement, inspiration to go the extra mile – all quite reasonable elements. Somehow that left me feeling vaguely unfulfilled.

Reflecting on charismatic leaders, what was it about them that made them so attractive? Of course they were highly skilled, experienced and professional. Yet their technical knowledge wasn’t the distinguishing feature, because hosts of uncharismatic leaders are equally skilled. Great communicators, they capture the key points, are concise, insightful, engaging. No shortage of would-be charismatic leaders with this resume but no cigar. Optimistic, positive, high energy, fast paced, dynamic – yes all good points, but there was still something missing.

I think the missing piece of the puzzle here is the way charismatic leaders make us feel when we are with them. I have heard that in his prime Bill Clinton would speak with you and make you feel like you were the only person in the room, despite being one person in a massive crowd.

What are some relevant behaviours we can adopt to make us more charismatic?

Begin with praise and honest appreciation. This must be genuine and linked to actual behavior, not vagaries. There isn’t a lot of praise and appreciation floating around in the business everyday, because a lot of leaders are Driver personality styles, who prioritise task completion over building people. We can be different – we can look for the good, the strengths in our people and play to those rather than lurking around the cubicles with our super fault-finder nuclear harpoon at the ready. If we find fault, call attention to it indirectly. We should also use encouragement and make the fault seem easy to correct. Let them save face, don’t create a barrier by lambasting them. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. This means seeing people at their best and treating them that way rather than the opposite.

We can ask questions, instead of giving direct orders. Socrates was on to the power of this approach centuries ago, but the typical boss today is still an order dispensing machine. When we tell, we own the task - when we ask, our people own it. We all own the world we help to create, so be the boss who gets help creating that world. Make them feel happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Is this easy – no, but if our behavior is the driver then we need to persistently and permanently change our approach.