Episodes

  • How To Limit Your Roles In Relationships & Let Go Of Bitter Giving with Laura Tremaine

    How To Limit Your Roles In Relationships & Let Go Of Bitter Giving with Laura Tremaine
    Oct 18 2024
    To wrap up this focus on doing too much and how we run ourselves ragged, I’m looking at our relationships, from family to friends and in our work, with a focus on how we tend to be all things for all people and we do a disservice to ourselves and others. So I’m sharing a show I did with Laura Tremaine. Laura is host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention a couple years ago and I refer to it often. She focused on the niche for women but I resonated completely as a guy. In it she profiles different friend styles and the benefit of having friends for specific needs. It hit a chord for me as I had become concerned with our growing cultural isolation and tendency to look at one friend or family member or our spouse to fulfill all our relational needs. And conversely, how others will look to us to fulfill all their relational needs. And we can’t. And we shouldn’t. And we not only end up doing too much, but fulfilling roles in the relationships in our lives that drain us and aren’t even serving those we care about that well. I think you’ll get great value from this talk with Laura Tremaine as you address you may be doing too much in your life. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • Key Signs You Might Be Drunk On Responsibility

    Key Signs You Might Be Drunk On Responsibility
    Oct 17 2024
    As I wrap up this series on doing too much, I’m looking at the issue of responsibility. I was a superhero of responsibility. I did it all. No limits. No excuses. People were awed at how much I took care of. Until…I couldn’t. It reminds me of the attribute of being able to hold your liquor. It was a sign of strength, how many shots or beers you can have and still function. Which mainly means you’ve built up a tolerance to a toxin. How is that something to be proud of? This is what I did with responsibility and I’m thinking many of you can relate. I’ve got a concept to walk you through that I think will give you freedom from and a desire to divest yourself of some responsibilities. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    14 mins
  • How To Separate What You Do From Who You Are

    How To Separate What You Do From Who You Are
    Oct 16 2024
    Imagine meeting someone new and them asking, “So, who are you?” Instead of, “What do you do?” How would you even answer? Famed author Donald Miller writes about attending a therapy retreat and for the first three days nobody could share what they did vocationally. He said it was excruciating not to be able to tell people he was a successful author, and he realized how much his identity was wrapped around his roles. I never knew myself outside of what I did, until…far too recently. Here I’m going to unpack some thoughts around this concept. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    14 mins
  • Why Isn’t Busy A Badge Of Shame?

    Why Isn’t Busy A Badge Of Shame?
    Oct 15 2024
    After my conversation with renowned therapist Terri Cole in the last episode, I continue to consider my history of doing too much. That is the title of her new book,Too Much: A Guide To Breaking The Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. With my nine kids and business and pursuit of personal growth and experiences, many, many people, my kids included, often come to me apologizing for taking my time, as they know I’m “so busy.” And it’s because they have seen me for so long, being too busy. And what I now realize is that I am, primarily because of poor choices. I’ve wanted my cake and to eat it too. I prided myself on being able to do too much because I’m stronger and more capable. How arrogant is that? I’m not promoting shame, but just posing the question that today I view being super busy as a badge of poor choices more than being important or valuable. And I’m pointing fingers. At myself. And there are always exceptions with people victimized and very busy that I have great compassion for. I have some further thoughts on the issue. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    15 mins
  • Doing Too Much! Your Superhuman Efforts Are Hurting More Than Helping & How You Can Claim Peace w/ Renowned Psychotherapist Terri Cole

    Doing Too Much! Your Superhuman Efforts Are Hurting More Than Helping & How You Can Claim Peace w/ Renowned Psychotherapist Terri Cole
    Oct 14 2024
    Friends, I have discovered…I am a flag flying, High Functioning Codependant. Or rather, I have been living as one. And I’m more than ready to be done. HFC is a new term and a new look at codependency, the concept and term is coined by renowned psychotherapist, Terri Cole, who I have with me in this episode. I believe this discussion will hit many of you, as it did me, who have been living the life of overdoing it. Doing too much. With a good heart and even strong threads from religious backgrounds that ingrained in us the idea of valiantly striving to selflessly give and serve until there is nothing left of you. I bought into it as a kid and lived the life of a hero until I finally hit burnout and bitterness. I’ve been working to crawl out and then Terri comes along with a new message and book, Too Much: A Guide To Breaking The Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. We get deep and very personal here, and see evidence of HFC in so, so many people I know and respect. And I see it slowly eroding their peace. This is my story as well. Terri has a free toolkit on HFC you can get at terricole.com/hfc and she has some free gifts when you buy the book at hfcbook.com. And you can tune in now to her podcast at The Terri Cole Show. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 31 mins
  • Have Art & Self-Expression In Your Work & Manifest Your Mission with Brianna Brown Keen

    Have Art & Self-Expression In Your Work & Manifest Your Mission with Brianna Brown Keen
    Oct 11 2024
    Outer Banks Fans…my guest here is in the new season 4, just to name drop and grab your attention. One of my daughters is a fan and wanted me to watch it with her, which I have. So the fact I had someone on my podcast that is in Outer Banks, my Dad cred went way up. My guest is Brianna Brown Keen and I’m reposting this show I did with her because the topic of art in your work and manifesting keeps repeating itself in my life. Brianna has a new podcast called Manifesting Your Mission and this week I was her guest. While Brianna is a successful Hollywood Actress, for years now she’s been using her platform to help people define their goals and bring art and self expression into all they do. She realizes the power and dangers of self-expression and dealing with both rejection and acclaim. This is the secret sauce of Hollywood and she’s known the good, bad and the ugly. But I see the most successful people I know, in life overall, being people who have gotten clear on who and how they are and they bring their full self-expression into all facets of life. I find it beautiful and continue striving for more authenticity in my own life. I’d encourage you to search for Manifesting Your Mission in your chosen podcast platform. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 11 mins
  • continued: What Foods Are You Eating That Qualify As Real Food?

    continued: What Foods Are You Eating That Qualify As Real Food?
    Oct 10 2024
    In the last episode I walked you through X# of chapters in Michael Pollan’s Food Rules, which is a fairly short, fast, and humorous map showcasing what I am most Functional Medicine experts feel is a brilliant showcase of how to eat. What to eat and what not to eat, told by a journalist who has done extensive research and testing and become one of most influential leaders in wellness. This is meant to be brief and profound and leave you with some memorable zingers to improve your diet and share with others. As part of this show, Pendulum is offering 20% off your first probiotic membership, you can get it by ordering it at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    15 mins
  • What Foods Are You Eating That Qualify As Actual Food?

    What Foods Are You Eating That Qualify As Actual Food?
    Oct 9 2024
    One of my favorite nutritional guides of all time was not written by a doctor or nutritionist, but by journalist Michael Pollan. The book is called Food Rules and you can read it in about 30 minutes. It’s a distillation of much of Michael’s research into what foods actually give us life and sustain us. To me it’s so blunt you can’t miss it, it’s humorous and it’s profound. The tagline for the book is, “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” Some chapters are merely a headline, such as rule #2: Don’t eat anything your great-grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food. Rule 19: If it came from a plant, eat it; if it was made in a plant, don’t. Rule 20: It’s not food if it arrived through the window of your car. So as we’ve been on the topic of supplements and the previous episode where we discussed what we’re putting in our body that it doesn’t need and what are aren’t giving our body that it does need, I’m going to give you a run down of Michael Pollan’s Food Rules, as I find it so helpful for myself and others in giving easily digestible perspective to what foods to eat and now eat. As part of this show, Pendulum is offering 20% off your first probiotic membership, you can get it by ordering it at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    16 mins