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Let's take a close look at the book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley! Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende join me to look at some of the things that we find problematic about the book--and explain why evangelicalism needs better resources!

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What happens when church doesn’t seem safe? Or when, in retrospect, you realize it wasn’t, even if you threw yourself into it at the time? Today Dr. Andrew Bauman joins us to talk about his new book Safe Church, and then Rebecca and Sheila read reader’s stories about how the church stole their sex lives—and what we can do about it.

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• Andrew Bauman’s book Safe Church
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• Andrew’s guest post on Safe Church
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• My blog series on sexual recovery
• Our book The Great Sex Rescue
• Our book She Deserves Better
• Our Good Girl’s/Good Guy’s Guides to Great Sex (great for engaged couples)

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• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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It's time to walk through some super interesting studies that have recently been published--and see what they say about the intersection of infidelity and beliefs in male hierarchy. Keith joins Sheila to react to the studies!

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Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!

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LINKS MENTIONED:

• The Marriage You Want
• Study on how affairs aren't linked to sex frequency, and the post about it
• Study on how sexism affects infidelity
• Power to Flirt Study
• Differences in Solitary vs. Dyadic Sexual Desire study
• Study on Heroism by Gender
• The IFS World Map 2019 (abuse stats are on pp. 35&36)
• John Piper on how complementarianism protects women, and Rachel Held Evans' response

OTHER RESEARCH DEEP DIVE PODCASTS:

• Pink and Blue Brains? What the research says about gender and brain differences
• Why Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee
• New Research on Obligation Sex
• New Research on

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• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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It's an Ask Me Anything episode! Keith and I open talking about the viral video where a woman claims that she felt called by God to iron her husband's clothes before he left for the weekend to be with his mistress. And then Rebecca and I answer your questions about drawing boundaries, dating, protecting kids from abuse in church, and more!

OUR SPONSOR:

Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!

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LINKS MENTIONED:

• Our book She Deserves Better
• Our new book The Marriage You Want
• Last week's podcast on rumination and our one-sheet download for The Love Dare

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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The Love Dare, based on the movie Fireproof, has been a huge best-selling marriage book for two decades. But does it actually contain good advice? Today on episode 280 of the Bare Marriage podcast, we show how The Love Dare simply regurgitates all the typical harmful evangelical marriage advice, telling women to make themselves smaller; never bring up issues; paper over problems; and, of course, never divorce, even if you’re being abused.

OUR SPONSOR:

Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church needs to get away from harmful tropes, and call us towards true community based on vulnerability and safety. Aimee Byrd points the way!

TO SUPPORT US:

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
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LINKS MENTIONED:

• Our Harmful Materials stickers to put on your problematic books
• All of our one sheets:
• Our new book The Marriage You Want
• Join Sheila on her social media channels: Instagram, YouTube, Threads, Facebook
• Our podcast on forgiveness after trauma

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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What if vulnerability and authenticity are vital for true community? And what if we can never truly know God, and each other, until we know ourselves? It's episode 279 of the Bare Marriage podcast, featuring Aimee Byrd talking about her new book!

• Aimee Byrd's Book Saving Face
• Aimee Byrd's Substack

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LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:

• Our new book The Marriage You Want

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, recently did a podcast bemoaning the fact that young women, unlike young men, are giving up on the "creation order" and abandoning marriage. But he distorts the argument, and misses the main problem: Women want to get married, but too many of the men available don't make good partners.

WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:

Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got pushed out of ministry positions in favour of marriage, and what we can do about it.

My recent article about Becoming the Pastor's Wife

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LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:

• Our new book The Marriage You Want
• Al Mohler's "Briefing"
• The original Wall Street Journal Article: American Women Are Giving up on Marriage
• European study about fertility and attitude towards household tasks
• Time study about mothers based on marital status
  
  

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Check out her books:

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• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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So many evangelical pastors teach that men are rational while women are emotional. But is this true? And if women are more emotionally mature than men, then doesn't that mean that men need to learn from women? Listen in as Keith and Sheila dissect several clips from Josh Howerton, Emerson Eggerichs, Josh McPherson, and Matt Walsh.

WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:

Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got pushed out of ministry positions in favour of marriage, and what we can do about it.

TO SUPPORT US:

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
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LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:

• Our new book The Marriage You Want
• Open letter to Focus on the Family
• Our one-sheet download on the problems with Love & Respect
• Emerson Eggerichs’ sermon dissection and the podcast that goes with it
• Carolyn Custis James' Maelstrom
• Josh Howerton clip
• Matt Walsh post
• Our podcast on emotions with Becky Castle Miller

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.