In this solo episode, Wendy focuses on resilience. She explains what it is, the different ways it helps your mental and emotional health and how developing resilience makes it much easier to navigate the ups and downs of life.

Wendy shares 10 strategies that anyone can use to build up their resilience. Each one is highly practical, easy to understand, and most are simple enough for you to start using immediately.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Resilience is the ability to build strength so that you can endure challenges, bounce back after setbacks and thrive.
• Reflection helps you to learn from your day and keep things in perspective.
• Having a fixed mindset – believing we can´t change, keeps us stuck, zaps our confidence and stops us from recognising that we all have the ability to grow stronger.
• Grit is mental toughness, the ability to deal with and endure things.
• Become the director of your life rather than a passenger. Don´t lean on helplessness or allow pessimism to take hold.
• Our brains have a negative bias. Factor that in when thinking about things and actively push yourself to notice the positive things.
• Negative beliefs fester.
• Choose not to overreact to difficult situations. Don´t let fear take hold e.g. If you have to have dental work done, remind yourself that any pain is temporary and focus on the reward at the end of it – stronger and better-looking teeth.
• Your attitude makes a huge difference to how much you get out of life.
• Develop determination and resolve.
• Accept that sometimes gratification has to be delayed.
• Cultivate your persistence and tap into your survival instincts that provide you with that inner fierceness that enables you to get through and thrive no matter what.

BEST MOMENTS

“We either decide that we’ve got a fixed mindset or a growth mindset.”

“How much do you believe you can handle situations however difficult or challenging ?”

“Determination is a steadfast fortitude we develop to endure, cope and survive life´s challenges. ”

“The ability to tolerate painful emotions means staying with them and not giving into self-destructive behaviours.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

A Man´s Search For Meaning - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mans-Search-Meaning-classic-Holocaust-ebook/dp/B00EKOC0HI

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.wendycastelino.com

https://www.instagram.com/wendycastelino/

https://www.youtube.com/@wendycastelino798

https://twitter.com/WendyCastelino

ABOUT THE HOST

Wendy Castelino has been working as a psychotherapist for over thirty-five years. As an accredited CBT and EMDR practitioner, she is committed to upholding the rigorous standards required for these accreditations and helping thousands of people reach their full potential.

Wendy currently runs a private practice where her focus is on CBT. Therapy is constantly evolving into developing new techniques, so she studies hard to integrate them into her therapy, to provide a rich and effective experience.

Wendy is aware that working in one-to-one therapy limits the number of people she can see. She has, therefore, created a range of online resources. These resources are designed to be easy to follow and provide clear, step-by-step instructions. This can help the individual to master skills and gain confidence, therefore optimising the therapy sessions. They are also suitable to be used on their own.

Further details are available at: WendyCastelino.com.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

For this episode, Wendy welcomes the inspiring Lisa Quait - The Real Woman Coach. She shares her personal journey through therapy, midlife, bodybuilding, and entrepreneurship.

Lisa explains how therapy helped her heal old wounds, blend families, and find purpose in empowering other women to rewrite their own next chapters. She also shares the details of a fantastic coaching opportunity.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Therapy created a foundation that enabled Lisa to heal and grow so she could help others.
• Therapy provides a safe space to process and release trauma.
• Stop blaming yourself.
• Therapy teaches you new skills and strategies that help you to function better in all areas of life e.g. emotional regulation.

BEST MOMENTS

“Midlife is an evolution. It's certainly not a crisis.”

“Therapy is about looking back, dealing with trauma. Coaching is about moving forward.”

“Your therapist is not there to judge you.”

ABOUT THE GUEST

Lisa Quait gets real about what comes after healing—because growth isn’t just about reflection, it’s about doing something with it.

Lisa is the founder of Realwoman.coach, a platform for women who’ve done the inner work and are ready to take bold, practical steps forward. She helps women rebuild confidence, take action, and create a life that feels good and true, especially as they near or are in midlife.

Her Real Women’s Stories podcast is known for its candid conversations around relationships, aging, health, and identity. Right now, Lisa is exploring Mel Robbins’ Let Them theory in a special podcast series, sharing how this simple idea can lead to big breakthroughs.

COMPETITION TIME

Enjoy a full day out with the realwoman.coach (Lisa Quait) on Sunday, June 8th, including all-access coaching throughout the day

Plus, an exclusive, money-can’t-buy opportunity to meet Mel Robbins at Let Them Theory Live! (Meet-and-greet tickets are sold out, making this a truly unique prize!)

To automatically be entered into the draw visit www.realwoman.coach, and fill in the popup form.

The competition runs from May 1st to midnight on June 1st

Winner will be drawn at random and notified on June 2nd

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-quait-558960162

https://www.facebook.com/lisa.quait

https://www.instagram.com/lisaquait

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.wendycastelino.com

https://www.instagram.com/wendycastelino/

https://www.youtube.com/@wendycastelino798

https://twitter.com/WendyCastelino

ABOUT THE HOST

Wendy Castelino has been working as a psychotherapist for over thirty-five years. As an accredited CBT and EMDR practitioner, she is committed to upholding the rigorous standards required for these accreditations and helping thousands of people reach their full potential.

Wendy currently runs a private practice where her focus is on CBT. Therapy is constantly evolving into developing new techniques, so she studies hard to integrate them into her therapy, to provide a rich and effective experience.

Wendy is aware that working in one-to-one therapy limits the number of people she can see. She has, therefore, created a range of online resources. These resources are designed to be easy to follow and provide clear, step-by-step instructions. This can help the individual to master skills and gain confidence, therefore optimising the therapy sessions. They are also suitable to be used on their own.

Further details are available at: WendyCastelino.com.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

In this episode, Wendy is joined by Kam Harris who after experiencing the benefits of EMDR decided to leave the fashion industry and become an EMDR therapist. She is also a master hypnotherapist as well as a mum and wife. Kam explains exactly how EMDR works and how you can use it every day to keep your mind healthy and in balance.

She also explains how hypnotherapy works and when it is beneficial.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Making certain eye movements signals our subconscious to reprocess painful memories and desensitise ourselves to them.
• Later, it is possible to also use movements e.g. Tapping or clicking so you can discreetly and quickly desensitise yourself as issues arise.
• To benefit from EMDR, you have to be prepared to connect to sometimes painful memories.
• You do not have to share what the painful memory is about with your therapist, so you are 100% in control.
• It is a very fast form of therapy, but there is a process you have to follow.
• Find the right therapist for you.
• Trauma does not arise just from big events e.g. Being a victim of violence. Less dramatic events, e.g. being bullied, also traumatise.
• EMDR works regardless of your cultural background or the issues you are dealing with.
• EMDR can be done effectively online.
• Positive cognitions is switching negative thoughts for still truthful but positive ones.
• Hypnosis can be used to help you achieve things as well as heal.
• Self-hypnosis is powerful. It is good for overcoming situations where part of you really wants to do something while another part is worried.
• You are always going to get anxious or sad, but you can learn not to let it overwhelm you.
• Your mind delivers what you want. If you think something will work, your mind focuses on it, spots and emphasises what you need to do to succeed.

BEST MOMENTS

“EMDR changed my life.”

“You keep the memory…but that emotion related to that memory isn´t there anymore.”

“You can feel better about a particular issue in just one session.”

“Hypnosis is actually an increased sense of awareness… you have more control.”

“It´s kind of rewiring your mind to think differently.”

“If we say to our mind, ‘It’s not going to work, it’s not going to work.”

EPISODE RESOURCES

https://www.emdrharleystreet.com/about-kam-harris

VALUABLE RESOURCES

www.wendycastelino.com

https://www.instagram.com/wendycastelino/

https://www.youtube.com/@wendycastelino798

https://twitter.com/WendyCastelino

ABOUT THE HOST

Wendy Castelino has been working as a psychotherapist for over thirty-five years. As an accredited CBT and EMDR practitioner, she is committed to upholding the rigorous standards required for these accreditations and helping thousands of people reach their full potential.

Wendy currently runs a private practice where her focus is on CBT. Therapy is constantly evolving into developing new techniques, so she studies hard to integrate them into her therapy, to provide a rich and effective experience.

Wendy is aware that working in one-to-one therapy limits the number of people she can see. She has, therefore, created a range of online resources. These resources are designed to be easy to follow and provide clear, step-by-step instructions. This can help the individual to master skills and gain confidence, therefore optimising the therapy sessions. They are also suitable to be used on their own.

Further details are available at: WendyCastelino.com.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/