What REALLY kills relationships? We often think it’s huge differences in personality or values that cause break ups, but just as often it’s the small, subtle, repeated behaviours that lead to relationships ending.

From the "Four Horsemen" of relationship conflict to the resentments that go unspoken until it’s too late, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey explore how these silent killers show up—and how to catch and heal them before they do lasting damage.

Topics include

• A deep dive into criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling (and how they sabotage love)
  
  

• Why “repair” matters more than perfection in long-term relationships
  
  

• The unconscious reasons some people can't say sorry and how to deal with it
  
  

• How resentment builds when we don’t feel seen, appreciated, or included
  
  

• The importance of creating a relationship culture where nothing is off-limits to talk about
  
  

• A listener question about red flags before marriage
  
  

• The difference between expecting love to be perfect vs. building a love that lasts
  
  

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What does emotionally available love really look like? In this new video, I break down six key signs of emotional availability so you can spot the difference between fleeting attention and real intention.

If you’re tired of wasting time on people who aren’t serious, I also share how to recognize emotional availability early on . . . without coming across as too intense. Plus I reveal the subtle behaviors that separate healthy connection from love bombing, so you can protect your heart and invest in the right person.

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In today’s Rewind episode, I talk about what might be the most insidious form of ghosting.

If someone ghosts you after a couple of tepid dates (which doesn’t feel good, don’t get me wrong) you can usually assume they just weren’t feeling the chemistry . . .

But what does it mean when someone pulls away after saying they want to be exclusive, or after texting constantly and telling you they want to see you all the time?

In this episode, I give you three reasons why someone might do this, what you should do when it happens, and the strange reason why they may choose to ghost but leave the door open. You can’t miss this topic!

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• Results from a 20,000-person Instagram poll on what people think makes a relationship last.
  
  
• The Gottman Institute on bids for connection, and the 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions.
  
  
• The toxic buildup of micro-resentments—and how to address them early.
  
  
• How to repair arguments when one person wants space and the other wants closeness.
  
  
• Relationship “hacks” you’ve never heard of (including love mapping and emotional buttons).
  
  
• Why “perfect” couples still argue—and how to argue better.
  
• The Michelangelo Effect: how great couples help each other grow.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a pattern of falling for the wrong people, you’re not alone—but that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to repeat the same mistakes. In this video, I’ll show you how to rewire the way you experience attraction. In it, I share five specific shifts that will help you break free from the patterns sabotaging your love life.

From microdosing on emotionally unavailable exes to losing yourself in someone who isn’t ready, we’re getting honest about the real cost of staying in cycles that erode our confidence and waste our time.

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Does absence really make the heart grow fonder . . . especially when the person you’re into seems to forget you exist when you’re not in the same room?

When you’re together, life couldn’t be better. You have off-the-charts chemistry, they’re totally focused on you, and your connection feels genuine.

The catch?

When you’re apart, you feel invisible as communication slows to a crawl and often drops off completely.

As a result of these mixed signals, you’re essentially living in two completely different realities, and you’d do anything to get some clarity. You might even ask yourself: “Should I try to invest in this relationship even more to show how serious I am? Or would it be better to mirror their behavior and go cold?”

In today’s Rewind episode, I walk you through what you must absolutely NOT DO in this hot and cold scenario . . . plus I give you two very specific text messages that can (finally!) get you out of this frustrating situation.

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In this episode Matthew and Audrey sit down for a review of the last quarter of the year and dive into the hidden forces that shape our relationships with others and ourselves.

They also discuss the perfectionism that keeps us from connection, overthinking texts, and the emotional blocks that hold us back in our relationships. Plus, they answer a listener's question on whether showing interest in someone inevitably drives them away, and how to strike the balance between authenticity and attraction.

Topics include:

• Why the fear of being "too much" makes us play small in dating and friendships
  
  

• The truth about why people pull away when we show interest—and how to handle it
  
  

• How perfectionism sabotages your communication and creates disconnection
  
  

• A simple but powerful quarterly reflection exercise to reset your year
  
  

• Why overthinking texts can ironically make you seem distant or cold
  
  

• The invisible difference between "connecting" and "protecting" modes in life
  
  

• How to be more warm, proactive, and magnetic in your communication
  
  

• What it really means to “create the culture” in your relationships

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Why do amazing people—kind, self-aware, emotionally intelligent—keep falling for partners who can’t meet them halfway? In this week’s video, we uncover the five reasons behind this painful cycle and how to finally break free. From the scarcity mindset to the addictive highs and lows of unstable relationships, we’ll explore why we settle for less and how to rewrite the story we tell ourselves about love.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between the chaos of unhealthy relationships and the “dullness” of safe ones, this video is for you. Learn how to break the patterns that keep you tethered to the wrong people, and start creating the love life you truly deserve.

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