Hello there, sugar pants. I'm back—and whew, life has been a lot lately. But today, I’m diving into something that’s been messing with way too many of us for way too long: perfection.

We’ve been taught that if we can just get it right—be good enough, successful enough, lovable enough—then life will finally feel better.
But here’s the truth: you can’t love perfect. You can’t be perfect. And trying to is killing your joy, your creativity, your connection—and your relationships.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• The red flag hidden in “You seem perfect” (and why it made me cringe)

• What went down in my own relationship during a rough season

• How even great relationships fall apart a little—and what it looks like to come back from that

• Why perfectionism keeps us stuck, lonely, and exhausted (even when everything looks good on paper)

• How I help women actually start feeling better—on purpose

I’ll also give you a real look at what we’re doing inside Thrive Midlife—my 6-month group coaching experience for women 40+ who are ready to stop surviving and start actually living.

I’m not being cute. Science shows that 40% of our happiness comes from our daily mindset and choices—not our past, not our DNA.

That’s what Thrive is all about. We blend neuroscience, emotional regulation, coaching, creativity, and a community of women who actually give a damn.

💬 Weekly workshops & tools
🧠 One-on-one coaching with me
👯‍♀️ A group of badass, funny, honest women
🌄 And a fall retreat in Madison, WI (think goat petting, cider breakthroughs, and cheese)

👉 Early bird pricing ends May 31st, 2025. Get all the details at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com

If you loved this episode (or it called you out in the best way), hit subscribe, leave a review, or share it with a friend who needs to hear this. And if you want to tell me what landed?
Email me at kira@thrivewithkira.com. I love hearing from you.

Because life’s too short to keep faking perfect.
Let’s thrive—like we fucking mean it.

Welcome back, Thrive fam! I'm back with a laugh-out-loud, no-BS episode about why midlife women are just too damn old for over-giving, over-thinking, and pretending everything’s “fine.” If you’re ready to ditch people-pleasing and finally build self-worth, this episode is your must-listen.

• Where the heck have I been? (Spoiler: Thrive Midlife Group wins, real-life curveballs, and yes, Danny’s hip replacement)

• How Gen X women were conditioned to over-give (and why it’s time to stop)

• The real science behind self-worth, resilience, and building a midlife that actually feels good

• RomCom Rescue updates and the secret sauce behind relationship growth

• What to expect from the new Thrive Midlife Program & coaching options for women over 40

• Why you’re not broken—you’re just way too old for this sht*

Ready for a little midlife magic?

👉 Take the free “Way Too Old for This Sh*t” assessment at thrivewithkira.com/assessment and find out what’s really holding you back (plus get quick, actionable tips for your type).

• Thrive with Kira website

• Join the Thrive Midlife waitlist

• 1:1 Coaching with Kira

• RomCom Rescue podcast

• Email Kira your thoughts: kira@thrivewithkira.com

If you’re a woman over 40, ready to stop settling and start thriving, this is the podcast for you. Subscribe, share, and let’s make midlife your best chapter yet.

TWO SPOTS LEFT for THRIVE Midlife Program!

My brand new positive psychology program with optional retreats for women over 40 to learn the knowledge, skills, and mindsets to Stop Overthinking, Realize Your Worth, & Have the BEST YEAR OF YOUR LIFE!

✨ Ditch the stuff that’s making you feel stuck.
✨ Discover what lights you up (and keeps you glowing).
✨ Build tools to deal with life’s chaos without burning out.

No more rinse-and-repeat. Let’s get you back to feeling alive, vibrant, and (dare I say it?) excited about life again.

Grab your spot & check out all the information here

Hidden Brain Episode I reference

Not all advice is created equal. Some of it is gold, but a lot of it? Straight-up garbage.

This episode is about shaking off the bad advice that keeps us stuck and stepping into 2025 ready to own it.

If you’re tired of the same old stuck, it’s time to shake things up. Your next chapter isn’t going to write itself—so let’s make it the best one yet.

Ready to Make 2025 the best year of Your Life? Check out Thrive!

After a good convo on my Rom-Com Rescue podcast where we talked about 2006 Classic rom-com, The Holiday, it made me think about crushes and unrequited love.

My own experience and what I have learned (good and not-so-good) about crushes over the years.

I share some personal stories and try to answer the question, if crushes and unrequited love feels so bad, why do we keep having them?

Don't forget there is a new Essentials Version of Thrive out that is on sale through 11/24/24. New prices start at $499 a month. Check it out at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com

Well, it's been a week.

This week on the podcast I talk about...

• How the election results have had me reeling.
• The stages I went through the last week.
• What is the most important thigns we can do right now.

There is a new Essentials Version of Thrive out today that is on sale through the weekend. New prices start at $499 a month. Check it out at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com

I think one of the roughest parts of being in midlife is realizing that most of the things you were taught about being a girl/woman growing were complete and total BS.

I feel like I have been spending YEARS gut-checking my beliefs and realizing a bunch of the ideas I was sold were based in old school misogyny and were keeping me in a fear/scarcity place.

Today I go through 10 Beliefs I was raised with that were complete BS!

Maybe you learned them too.

If you are ready to examine your beliefs and let go of them, join me in THRIVE!

To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the Joy Journey Substack

Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same.

After a break for the flu, I'm on day 10 of my Joy Journey and I talk about something that I have noticed coming up...the curse of overthinking.

Today I breakdown:

• a great quote on overthinking that inspired this episode
• what overthinking is and why we do it
• the three types of overthinking and how to spot them in yourself.
• spotting overthinking in a baking show
• where to go from here.

Article I reference today.

And just a reminder, this is the work I do in THRIVE, my 9 month happiness program for women in midlife, and it’s why I have had thousands of clients who have learned how to stop overthinking, build more self-worth, create unshakeable relationships, and walk through this world lighter and happier.

Spots available at ThrivewithKira.com