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Thinking about divorce or already knee-deep in it? Family lawyer Rebecca Baker joins me to break down what you really need to know about the legal side…. no jargon, just truth.

In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Rebecca Baker from Rucklidge Law Limited to break down what you actually need to know when it comes to the legal side of divorce.

We chat about the emotional chaos that comes with the paperwork, how to protect your peace during the process, and what to do if you're feeling totally overwhelmed by the idea of solicitors, forms, or facing court.

Rebecca shares LOADS of insight… on no-fault divorce, how to handle the “amicable” stage without getting screwed over, and when to get legal advice before things go sideways.

Whether you're just thinking about separating or already knee-deep in the process, this one is packed with practical tips and grounded support.

📞 Contact Rebecca Baker

• Phone: (+44) 01226 103054
  
  
• Email: rebecca@rucklidges.co.uk
  
  
• Website: rucklidges.co.uk
  
  

📚 Helpful Free Resources from Rebecca:

• Rebecca Baker 'Books for Children'
  
  
• Rebecca Baker 'Step by Step Guide'
  
  

📌 Other Helpful Links mentioned in the episode:

• HMCTS – Government Divorce Process Guide
  
  
• Find a Solicitor (Law Society)
  
  

If you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who needs to hear it…. and don’t forget to subscribe for more straight-talking, no-fluff support.

Loads of love,
Sarah x
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P.S. We’re reading Confidence Feels Like Sh*t on Amazon UK* by Erika Cramer AKA The Queen of Confidence in The Divorce Book Club this June…. and trust me, it’s the glow-up energy you need after the legal chaos. Join us to highlight, rage, and rebuild with a group of women who get it 💥

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Ever catch yourself thinking, “Why the f*ck am I STILL not over this damn divorce?”

Yeah. I was the same.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on secondary gains ... .those sneaky little perks your brain weirdly gets from staying stuck in the pain.

Attention, avoidance, drama, validation... It's like emotional junk food, and unfortunately, your brain LOVES it.

In this episode I walk you through:

🧠 Why your brain secretly prefers heartbreak over healing

🎡 The thought loops keeping you on the pain hamster wheel

⚒️ Practical tools to interrupt those patterns and build new ones

🕵🏻‍♀️ How to spot when you’re self-sabotaging and what to do instead

You’re NOT lazy. You’re NOT broken. But your nervous system might be loyal to your hurt…. and it’s time we changed that.

This one’s part pep talk, part emotional intervention, and totally for you if you’re ready to stop replaying the old story and finally move the hell on.

Let’s go 💥

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In May in the Divorce Book Club, we’re not only celebrating our first birthday 🎉 but we’re reading How to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse by Caroline Strawson…..And It’s a Must-Read for Anyone Healing from a Toxic Relationship.

If your ex made you feel like you were the problem…
If you’re still replaying conversations wondering, “Was it really that bad?”
If you're done with gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and walking on eggshells...

💡 Then May’s Divorce Book Club pick is for YOU.

Blending neuroscience, trauma recovery, and real-life insight, this book is packed with practical tools to help you go from surviving to thriving after narcissistic abuse. Perfect for anyone who wants science-backed healing with a side of empowerment.

✨ Whether you're still untangling from a toxic ex or rebuilding yourself from the inside out, this month’s read will support your healing, one chapter at a time.

➡️ Make sure you’re joined up to get access to the pick, discussion prompts, and healing conversations that will remind you:

You’re not crazy. You’re just finally free.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

(And use code BIRTHDAY for 50% off your first month (until May 31 2025) 🎁)

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What do you get when you mix:

• an unexpected pregnancy at 22
  
  
• a sh*tstorm of a breakup
  
  
• a house she refused to lose
  
  
• and some serious don’t-mess-with-me energy?
  
  

You get Hayley bloody Keeber…. business simplification strategist, ex-single mum, multi-business boss, and walking proof that your plot twist can be your power move.

In this juicy episode, Hayley joins me to talk about how she went from overachieving young mum with the weight of the world (and nursery fees bigger than her mortgage) to running not one, but two successful businesses…. all while managing three kids, a marriage, and a serious case of "I will not settle for basic."

We talk:

👑 The realities of young single motherhood (spoiler: it’s not cute, but it is character-building AF)

👑 Building businesses that actually fit around your life (not just Instagram fairy tales)

👑 Why your ex’s opinion can do one

👑 What happens when you lose your vision (literally) and still launch a business from a hospital bed

👑 Letting go of societal BS and choosing your own version of success…. sleep-deprived mascara smudges and all

Oh, and if you’ve ever been bottle-shamed by a health visitor, this episode is for you 😒🍼

Hayley spills the real tea on what it actually takes to grow a business as a single parent, how to stop trying to prove yourself to everyone and their nan, and how to lean into your strengths (instead of trying to be a perfectly polished Pinterest mum who also runs a six-figure empire).

Whether you're divorce-deep and thinking "WTF now?" or you've got a business dream buried under the school run, this one’s for you.

Links for Hayley

Follow Hayley on Instagram: @hayleykeeberstrategist
Check out her signature program: Seriously Simple Success
Website: www.hayleykeeberstrategist.com

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In May in the Divorce Book Club, we’re not only celebrating our first birthday 🎉 but we’re also reading How to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse by Caroline Strawson…..And It’s a Must-Read for Anyone Healing from a Toxic Relationship.

If your ex made you feel like you were the problem…
If you’re still replaying conversations wondering, “Was it really that bad?”
If you're done with gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and walking on eggshells...

💡 Then May’s Divorce Book Club pick is for YOU.

✨ Whether you're still untangling from a toxic ex or rebuilding yourself from the inside out, this month’s read will support your healing, one chapter at a time.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

And use code BIRTHDAY50 for 50% off your first month 🎁

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

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FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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Hello my loves…..and welcome back to The Divorce Chapter podcast 🩷

Today is a BIG one because we’re celebrating a whole YEAR of The Divorce Book Club 🎉

That’s 12 months, 12 books, and countless breakthroughs, breakdowns AND badassery that totally sorted our sh*t 📚

Whether you’ve been part of it, dipped in and out, or just stalked lovingly from the sidelines…. this has been so much more than a book club. It’s been therapy in disguise. Healing wrapped in a paperback. Self-development with a highlighter (pink, obvs).

In this episode, we take a trip down memory lane through every book we’ve read in Year One, sharing…..

✨ Key takeaways

✨ Favourite quotes

✨ Life-changing moments

Because let’s be honest …. divorce doesn’t come with a manual.

But if it did? It would probably look a lot like this.

So enjoy the episode for ALL the inspiration.

🎉 PLUS: Celebrate with us!

We’re kicking off Year Two with May’s book:
How to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse by Caroline Strawson

If you’ve ever doubted yourself, walked on eggshells, or questioned your reality…. this one's for YOU.

Join the Divorce Book Club now and get 50% OFF your first month using the code BIRTHDAY50 ⬇️

✨ Private podcast episodes

✨ Supportive community

✨ Reflection prompts

✨ Access to all past book insights

Because healing hits differently when you’re not doing it alone.

Here’s to the next chapter. And the one after that. And the one where you finally say.... "Look at me now, you absolute waste of space"

Sending you SO much love,

Sarah x

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“You’re not a cautionary tale. You’re the fucking heroine.”

In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re flipping the script on one of the biggest unspoken struggles of post-divorce life: judgement..... from others, from society, and most heartbreakingly, from ourselves.

I go all in on the shame-soaked double standards that women face after divorce and tear them apart with equal parts rage, humour, and raw truth.

From pitying glances to school-gate micro-judgements, to the social media algorithm demoting you to “unpartnered and problematic,” this is the episode that says out loud what so many of us have been quietly carrying.

We’re talking:

💔 The social stigma still clinging to women who divorce (even in 2025)
💔 What the hell “disenfranchised grief” is and why divorce hits harder when no one brings you lasagne
💔 The Judgement Olympics….unsolicited advice, side-eyes, and sanctimonious nonsense
💔 That sneaky internalised voice whispering, “Maybe I was the problem…”
💔 Why your marriage didn’t “fail” just because it ended
💔 And how to start rewriting your story…. on your terms, in your own bloody voice

This one is for anyone who’s felt the sting of being misunderstood, misjudged, or mistaken for fragile just because they chose themselves and didn’t stay for a second helping of trauma and betrayal.

✨ Because divorce isn’t a failure. It’s a plot twist.

And maybe this is the part of the story where everything finally gets interesting.

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

🌸

P.S. In May in the Divorce Book Club, we’re not only celebrating our first birthday 🎉 but we’re also going to be How to Heal After Narcissistic Abuse by Caroline Strawson…..And It’s a Must-Read for Anyone Healing from a Toxic Relationship.

If your ex made you feel like you were the problem…
If you’re still replaying conversations wondering, “Was it really that bad?”
If you're done with gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and walking on eggshells...

💡 Then May’s Divorce Book Club pick is for YOU.

Blending neuroscience, trauma recovery, and real-life insight, this book is packed with practical tools to help you go from surviving to thriving after narcissistic abuse. Perfect for anyone who wants science-backed healing with a side of empowerment.

✨ Whether you're still untangling from a toxic ex or rebuilding yourself from the inside out, this month’s read will support your healing, one chapter at a time.

➡️ Make sure you’re signed to get access to the pick, discussion prompts, and healing conversations that will remind you:

You’re not crazy. You’re just finally free.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

And use code BIRTHDAY50 for 50% off your first month 🎁

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

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https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter

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You think you’re through it.

You’ve done the therapy, the crying in Sainsbury’s car park, the awkward first dates, and the bad hair phase.

You’ve moved on.

And then….. BAM…. years later, you bump into the ex-husband at a family do, and it hits you: the long echo of divorce is still reverberating a tiny bit in your chest.

In this episode, we’re talking about that sudden rush of sadness/weirdness/nostalgia that can show up long after divorce…. often triggered by a totally innocent moment (like your grandson pointing out that “Daddy’s Mummy and Daddy’s Daddy are both here!”).

It’s bittersweet, sometimes funny, always human …. and you’re not alone in feeling it.

In this episode, we look at……

📦 The “Tupperware drawer” of emotions….. how grief can get packed away but still rattle when you least expect it

🧠 Why our brains sneakily serve up nostalgia in moments that are emotionally charged or tender (like grandkids, birthdays… or seeing someone who used to make you want to scream into a cushion)

🪞 Why you might feel like your old married self again *just for a second*.... and how disorienting (and infuriating!) that can be

💔 Why it’s okay to mourn what could have been ….. even when you’re super f*cking glad it’s over

😂 When the ex gives you the ick all over again

💡 This episode is for you if:

- You’ve been divorced for a while and are shocked by sudden pangs of emotion

- You’re trying to make sense of complex feelings that resurface when your worlds collide

- You want permission to feel a bit sad *and* a bit smug *and* a bit confused…. all at once

- You need a reminder that healing isn’t linear …. and it’s okay if the past taps you on the shoulder sometimes

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

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P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

🔥 Why should you join?

📚 Because healing after divorce isn’t a straight line. This club gives you a step-by-step roadmap to make sure you don’t stay stuck.

📚 Because reading books on your own is great, but actually applying what you learn? That’s where the real magic happens…. and this club makes sure you do.

🔥 What’s included?

📚 A say in what we read each month…. because this is YOUR journey, and your input matters.
🎙️ A private podcast episode per chapter, breaking it all down into real-life takeaways you can actually use.
💬 A private Facebook community where you’re fully supported, celebrated, and connected to like-minded women.

🔥 Who is this perfect for?

💡 If you feel stuck and need a clear path forward but don’t know where to start.
💡 If you’ve read all the self-help books but struggle to actually apply them.
💡 If you want a supportive community of people who actually get what you're going through.
💡 If you’re ready to stop overthi

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In this week’s episode, we’re cracking open the metaphorical novel of your life post-divorce….. and spoiler alert: it’s time to stop re-reading the old chapters (yes, even the dramatic ones where your ex turned into a plot twist nobody asked for).

I look at the real reason you might feel stuck after your split: you're clinging to a story that no longer serves you.

And while it's totally human to go full FBI agent on your past (“Was it the weird work trip?” “That sketchy ‘friend’?”), the truth is….. those pages are toast. Burnt. Gone. No amount of literary detective work is going to rewrite the ending.

But here's the plot twist YOU do get to write: the one where you become the main character again.

✨ We’re ditching the sad reruns and tackling:

✍️ Why your brain keeps rereading the bad chapters of your old life
✍️ How terrifying (and freeing) a blank page really is
✍️ Why rewriting your story doesn’t mean erasing the past… but owning the pen now
✍️ And how to create a badass next chapter with you as the heroine (main character activated ⭐)

So if you’ve ever found yourself staring at the blinking cursor of your future thinking, “Well, fuck. Now what?”......this one’s for you.

💥 Because, the story of you?
That one’s just getting good 🩷

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

🌸

P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

The blurb says it will help you to:

- keep yourself fit and healthy into older age

- keep your brain firing on all cylinders

- improve your sleep

- deal with anxiety

- thrive in your career

- navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents)

- cope with illness and loss

- be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older person

With a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all mid-life men and women.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

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FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

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In this episode, we’re going all in on a topic so many of us struggle with…. control.

After divorce, it’s SO tempting to try and manage everything….. the ex, the narrative, the emotions, even the future. But the truth is control is actually an illusion.

So we’re unpacking….

✔️ What controlling behaviour looks like after divorce (Hint: You might not even realise you're doing it!)
✔️ Why we try to control…. is it love, ego, or just fear of the unknown?
✔️ How control actually hurts you…. mentally, emotionally, and physically.
✔️ How to let go and reclaim your peace…. because you deserve to focus on YOU, not him.
✔️ The transformation that happens when you stop trying to control the uncontrollable.

From social media stalking (we’ve all been there!) to emotional bargaining, I break it down just how control sneaks into your post-divorce life and why loosening your grip might just be the most freeing thing you do.

We go in on:

✨ Why controlling your ex or the situation is actually draining your energy.
✨ The difference between ego-driven control vs. genuine desire to reconnect.
✨ The truth about why fear of the unknown keeps you stuck.
✨ A mindset shift that will help you release control and find peace.

So, grab your coffee (or wine…. no judgment here), and let’s talk about why letting go is your superpower.

Hope you enjoy (and if you do, PLEASE rate and review ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐)

Loads of Love,

Sarah x

🌸

P.S. In April in the Divorce Book Club, we’re reading The Midpoint Plan by Gabby Logan

The blurb says: Packed to the brim with advice and life lessons from experts in their field (Dr Louise Newson, Prof Greg Whyte amongst others) and successful people navigating this time of life (Claudia Winkleman, Jo Whiley, Lee Mack, Michael Johnson, Caitlin Moran, Phil Neville and so many more) the book draws on their wise words to help you to navigate the biggest challenges that midlife can throw at you.

It will help you to:

- keep yourself fit and healthy into older age

- keep your brain firing on all cylinders

- improve your sleep

- deal with anxiety

- thrive in your career

- navigate changing relationships (whether that's empty nests or aging parents)

- cope with illness and loss

- be a healthier, more productive, creative and happy older person

With a Midpoint Action Plan (MAP) at the end of each chapter, it contains all the tips and tricks, habits and practices you need for a positive mindset, a healthy body and a happy life. It's a must-have manual for all mid-life men and women.

So if you want to join us, check it all out HERE ⬇️

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

INSTAGRAM

https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter