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In this conversation, Dr. Nashay Lowe and early childhood trainer Cara Tyrrell discuss the importance of teaching children conflict resolution skills from a young age. They explore how children process emotions, the significance of modeling healthy behaviors, and the balance between guiding children and allowing them to navigate conflicts independently. The discussion emphasizes the need for parents to expand their emotional vocabulary, create a safe space for children to express their feelings, and the shift in parenting dynamics towards more conscious and collaborative approaches. Ultimately, the conversation highlights that conflict is a natural part of life that can lead to growth and understanding when approached with intention and care.

Key Takeaways

• Equipping kids with conflict skills early on is crucial.
• Children process emotions differently than adults.
• Creating a permission space for emotions is essential.
• Responding to emotions with facts helps avoid projection.
• Using 'we' statements fosters collaboration in conflict resolution.
• Teaching compromise requires explaining the concept to children.
• Expanding emotional vocabulary helps children articulate feelings.
• Modeling healthy behaviors is more effective than just telling children what to do.
• Teachable moments can arise from witnessing less healthy behaviors.
• The shift in parenting dynamics emphasizes collaboration and conscious awareness.

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Avoiding the conversation doesn’t make the tension go away—it just buries it deeper. This episode dives into the hidden costs of staying silent when something needs to be said. We unpack how avoidance shows up, why it feels safer, and how to return to hard conversations with courage and clarity—before distance turns into disconnection.

Key Takeaways

• Avoidance can manifest as politeness or excessive kindness.
• Conflict avoidance often stems from fear of disconnection.
• Silence can lead to resentment and emotional distance.
• Recognizing avoidance is the first step to addressing it.
• Unmet needs often drive avoidance in conversations.
• Naming what we avoid helps reclaim our ability to choose.
• You don't need a perfect script to reenter a conversation.
• Articulating emotions can reduce their intensity significantly.
• The conversations we avoid can heal relationships.
• It's never too late to return to difficult discussions.

Sources Referenced:

• Harriet Lerner (2001). The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate.
• Daniel Siegel (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are.
• Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler (2002). Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High.
• Marshall Rosenberg (2003). Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life.
• Susan David (2016). Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life.

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Not all disconnection starts with big arguments. Sometimes, it’s the subtle eye roll, the ignored message, or the joke that cuts a little too sharp. This episode explores how small, everyday moments of tension—micro-conflicts—can quietly erode trust and connection. You'll learn how to recognize them, why they matter more than we think, and how to address them before they grow into something bigger.

Key Takeaways

• Micro conflicts are subtle moments of tension in relationships.
• They can accumulate and lead to significant emotional distance.
• Many people are conditioned to ignore these conflicts.
• Micro conflicts are signals that indicate what needs repair.
• They chip away at trust in slow, quiet ways.
• Big conflicts are easy to identify, but micro conflicts often go unresolved.
• Naming micro conflicts is essential for emotional regulation.
• Curiosity can help prevent escalation of conflicts.
• Small moments hold big information about relationships.
• Addressing micro conflicts can strengthen connections.

📚 Sources Referenced:

• Marc Brackett, Ph.D. (2019). Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive
• John Gottman & The Gottman Institute (2015). Micro-interactions research.
• Thema Bryant, Ph.D. (2022). Homecoming Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self.
• Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (2001). The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate.
  
  

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In this episode, we’re diving into the quiet but powerful inner battles that so many high-potential women face—second-guessing themselves, shrinking their ideas, and waiting for permission to lead. Our guest, Jay DeVorre, creator of the Confidence Kickstart program, shares how she helps women break free from self-doubt and build the kind of inner trust that transforms not only how they show up—but how they lead. Whether you’re stepping into leadership for the first time or navigating imposter syndrome at the highest levels, this conversation is a reminder that your voice, your presence, and your perspective are needed—and it’s time to stop playing small.

Key Takeaways

• High-potential women often experience self-sabotaging behaviors.
• Real leadership begins with building trust in oneself.
• Reprogramming self-belief is simpler than it seems.
• Women frequently struggle with making decisions due to self-doubt.
• The gap between potential and reality can fuel anxiety.
• Confidence is an ongoing process, not a one-time achievement.
• Leadership is about lighting up others, not just titles.
• Burnout can lead to powerful lessons and growth.
• Self-awareness is crucial in overcoming fear and doubt.
• Practicing gratitude can shift focus from scarcity to abundance.

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What if your biggest barrier isn’t what’s happening—but the story you’re telling about it? In this episode, we explore the personal narratives that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world. You’ll learn how to identify the internal scripts that limit growth and how to begin rewriting them with clarity and compassion, using research-backed tools to transform your inner dialogue.

Key Takeaways

• The stories we tell ourselves shape our reality.
• Most conflict arises from the meanings we attach to moments.
• Our internal narratives can limit our growth and potential.
• Recognizing outdated emotional patterns is crucial for change.
• Revising our stories can lead to healthier relationships.
• Our narratives influence how we respond to feedback.
• Self-compassion is essential for personal growth.
• Rewriting our stories takes time and practice.
• Curiosity can help us challenge our assumptions.
• We have the power to choose which narratives to keep.

📚 Referenced Sources:

• Jeffrey Young, Ph.D. (2003). Schema Therapy: A Practitioner’s Guide.
• Brené Brown (2015). Rising Strong.
• Kristin Neff, Ph.D. (2011). Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself.
• Carol Dweck, Ph.D. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

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In this introductory episode, Dr. Nashay Lowe explores the concept of conflict transformation, emphasizing its importance in personal and professional growth. She distinguishes between conflict resolution and transformation, highlighting the need to understand the deeper causes of conflict rather than just addressing surface-level issues. The discussion includes the idea of provention, which focuses on preventing conflict by addressing unmet human needs, and the distinction between negative and positive peace. Dr. Shay also introduces systems thinking as a way to understand the broader context of conflict and concludes by inviting listeners to view conflict as an opportunity for growth and change.

Key Takeaways

• Conflict transformation is about changing relationships, not just resolving issues.
• Understanding the deeper needs behind conflicts is crucial for transformation.
• Provention focuses on addressing root causes before conflicts arise.
• Positive peace involves creating conditions for thriving, not just the absence of violence.
• Systems thinking helps us see the broader patterns contributing to conflict.
• Conflict can clarify what truly matters in relationships and organizations.
• Transformation doesn't always mean resolution; it can occur through shifts in awareness.
• Conflict is often a signpost indicating deeper issues that need attention.
• We should view conflict as an opportunity for growth, not a threat.
• The work of transformation starts with how we choose to engage with conflict.

📚 Further Learning & Resources

Here are a few books and materials I recommend if you want to go deeper:

Foundations of Conflict Transformation

• Lederach, John Paul – The Little Book of Conflict Transformation
  A short but powerful book that distills the heart of what transformation means in everyday terms.

Human Needs & Provention

• Burton, John – Conflict: Resolution and Provention
  A foundational text introducing the concept of provention and the importance of human needs in understanding conflict.

Peace Studies & Positive Peace

• Galtung, Johan – Peace by Peaceful Means: Peace and Conflict, Development and Civilization
  A more academic but insightful dive into Galtung’s theory of positive vs. negative peace.

Systems Thinking

• Meadows, Donella – Thinking in Systems: A Primer
  An accessible introduction to systems thinking and how to apply it to real-world complexity.

Accessible Articles & Resources

• The Berghof Foundation’s online handbook on conflict transformation
  • Search for conflict transformation videos by the Kroc Institute for International Peace Studies at Notre Dame

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